Sail away from the safe harbor!  

rm_ladysatramp 62F
28 posts
1/7/2006 7:38 pm

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Sail away from the safe harbor!

"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowline. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the tradewinds in your sails.

Quote: Mark Twain

If these aren't words to live by I don't know what would qualify. Sometimes, as I'm questioning myself on decisions I have made in the past there were opportunities I had missed, messed up or totally ignored. That's part of life, that's part of living. Now, I'm trying to live those words in that quote. It might be baby steps at this point, but in the future when I'm in my golden years the last thing I want to do is think about "what could have been", and "why didn't I be a bit more adventurous". It's time to live, love, laugh and be happy! It's time for me......

I think what brought all this on was a luncheon date with a man I had been emailing. We seemed to have a good rapport. We had similar tastes and interests. After meeting him in person I realized that he was not my type. He was a nice enough fellow but no fireworks!! The point I'm getting at is, I would have never found this out if I didn't take the chance and meet him. Now I know and I'm glad to have met him. I don't intend on seeing him again but I do hope we keep in communications with each other.

I have cast off yet another bowline and I'll be that much closer to sail!

Have a great day!!!

rm_Smile_My_Way 59M
1519 posts
1/8/2006 6:51 am

He (Mark Twain) couldn't have hit the nail any more on the head then to have wrote this one. I think about what could have been all the time had I done things differently 20 plus years ago. I'm always wondering what it would have been like to have married another. I love my kids and grandkids so much and wouldn't give them up for the world, but I guess I would have other kids to love just the same. The biggest difference would be, I would have someone I loved with all my heart. I miss that so much....

Don't miss out, keep checking the waters, I am....

rm_BedBuddyOh4U 61M

1/10/2007 4:58 am

Perhaps the biggest regret is not looking back and wondering how different things would have been, but looking back and acknowledging the loss and doing nothing about it. We all do the best we can with what we have at the time. Life tends to get in the way, loose our focus until we're farther down the road. It's at the point we have a choice to continue adrift or taking control. We don't need to sacrifice what we've built we can suppliment what WE need now. When the soul is empty it needs replenishing without the cost of guilt, threat, or loss. Maybe that's why some of us are here. There still is a tender and understanding gentleman that appreciates your heart and isn't looking to "take" but rather share. I'm just around the corner for to set your course?

rm_funnyguy274 61M
3 posts
2/7/2007 7:08 am

"What could have been" is a path down a road full of pain and potholes. Its not helpful and it doesn't make anybody feel better. What is important, it seems to me, is to keep your eyes open for new opportunities- not with rose colored glasses, but with the vision of a better tomorrow. In doing so, its important to build, rather than take away from your existing situation. It would do no good to trade in one copy of a James Bond movie at the video store for a newer version of the same flick. But obtaining a new and yet unseen movie might make sense. That you met a man, had lunch, and found it interesting but not something to pursue shows you know what you are looking for a new and yet unseen model. Hope you find it. Its worth the time.

Zabster52 64M
8 posts
6/4/2007 7:52 pm

It is just possible that the Twain quote is being misunderstood by some of your posters. I don't think it is a call to look back and regret, or gnaw away at what-might-have-beens. No, it is a challenge to grab for the brass ring today. Right now. I know that when I am in that rocking chair on the sunny porch of the nursing home many years hence, I intend for the staff to look at me and wonder why I am smiling...

worf816 70M/58F

8/8/2007 8:11 am

"Think of time not as the enemy, but as a conpanion walking beside you thru life" I have seen much in my life. I have been to war; I worked across the street from the World Trade Center; have seen it built and fall. You only go around once, enjoy life while you can.

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