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kyojikasshu 41M
3 posts
8/5/2006 12:35 pm

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Starting


Okay, so, I've been on AdultFriendFinder for about a week now, and I figured it's time I start this thing.

So, I've popped around a little bit on the site, made a few posts, and joined a group. I even made it to a venue for a meet-and-greet, once a familial obligation was completed last night. However, I have no idea if I made any contact with anybody actually in that group... mainly because I spent most of my two hours there sitting around and observing... a "spectator of life", as an old online buddy of mine would say.

I finally did decide that sitting around wasn't enough, and while I didn't quite have the nerve to work up going up to anybody and introducing myself to total strangers, I just decided to dance a bit. I danced to a couple of songs, and it probably wasn't pretty. However, I did my best to push aside my self-conscious feelings, and just have a good time.

It did attract the attention of one nice, beautiful woman, who decided to ask me to dance. It was the first time I'd ever danced with someone who was not a family member at a wedding (and even then, I've only done it twice; once with the maid-of-honor at my sister's wedding, and once with my cousin at her wedding). I have to say, I enjoyed it... nothing else came of it, though, as I left at closing time, and simply went home.

I'm going to have to work on that confidence thing... somehow, I have to translate what I've learned about confidence in the business world into my social life. The only problem is, I'm confident in my work life because I know my work; it's a lot harder in a social situation, where I'm far from adept.

Well, with any luck, I'll get better at it sooner, rather than later.

potbelliedman 41M
2141 posts
8/5/2006 1:29 pm

Confidence is a negotiation. Just like the ones you make in the business world.
Size up your opportunity, and then pay it a compliment.
After you have flattered your way in to a frontal stance, just go with the flow, but it it becomes stagnant be sure you are able to adjust the flow volume.
You have an interesting blog.
Ken


LordandLadyLove 38M/32F
1 post
8/5/2006 2:13 pm

confidence grows with experiences by puting your self in places your not familiar with.

The up side is when you have the experience you will seem more attractive and people will aproach you.

This allows you to give a good first impression, then its just up to your personality and wether it connects with the other persons impression of you. The good things happen when you least expect it, dont go out and expect to meet a beautiful woman, go out to have a good time and be yourself,

AdultFriendFinder is a good place to make friends but theres nothing better than going out and having a good time, making a prat of yourself and having a laugh.

We have been members of AdultFriendFinder for some months now and you have done more than we have, it is a big website full of all kinds of people, its not that easy to connect with people through a keyboard.

You have done a good thing, join a group, it will at least get you out and about, for that is the key to success in this game.

Good luck my friend and remember to play safe.


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