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Some random thoughts...
Some random thoughts...
OK, I know I haven't posted in a while...things have been a little hectic of late and I really haven't had much in the way of spare time. But that's the way life is...anyway, here are some random things that have popped into my head in the last few days:
1. I recently attended a swing party in Fargo this weekend at a hotel. It was very nice: the live band was good and for the most part, the people who attended were very nice. The only problem I had is one that I seem to find a lot at these events. Why is it that people feel the need to get falling-down drunk in order to play? I don't drink all that much, and I don't mind people having the occasional beverage now and then, but why is it that some people feel they have to be blasted out of their gourd in order to party with someone? I tell ya, if a woman who was clearly 20 sheets to the wind came on to me at a party, I don't think I would play with her. She's not really gonna enjoy it and I am gonna be constantly worried about if she is gonna pass out or get sick or whatnot. Maybe it's me, but my take is that if you need to get that drunk in order to "get up the courage" to play, perhaps you might want to rethink your reasons for being in the lifestyle in the first place.
2. I have heard some disturbing news recently about a local couple who is causing all sorts of mischief. Apparantly if you meet them, then turn down their advances, the begin a mini-terror campaign against you, telling everyone who will listen how bad you are or that you have an STD or worse. You know...I have friends in the lifestyle I have never slept with...ever. And there's nothing wrong with that. Just because there might not be sexual chemestry between myself and them, doesn't mean I can't stand them. They are just my friends, nothing more or less. To feel the need to retaliate against some precieved slight or insult, that's not only wrong, it goes against everything I believe the lifestyle to stand for. Again, maybe that's just my opinion.
3. Why do guys lie about their status when in the lifestyle? I don't mean the married guys who lie and say they are single. I know about them. What I mean is the guys who say they are married, and that the wife is "interested", but in all actuallity they are cheating? Do they think they are not going to get found out eventually? I mean....come one...you attend enough parties solo, people are gonna start thinking that your "wife" doesn't really know. Or worse yet....they guy actually lies about being married, and is single, just so that he can get couples and single women to talk to him. If you need to lie about your status, you need to reassess your reasons for being in the lifestyle...plain and simple.
Well, that's about it for now...I'll post some more soon. We are having a meet-n-greet here in Bismarck this weekend, and I'll probably have some words on that later. Until then, play safe and hard!
5/18/2005 7:24 pm
I have had friends that have had some really horrible experiences with situations like you described in #2. It's scary that there are people so unhinged out there. Of course what they went through was 100 times worse than what you talked about. So far I've been lucky in the almost 10 years I've been in it. Hope it stays that way |