On the impact of memories  

konkali 40F
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4/29/2005 7:08 pm

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On the impact of memories

Do yuo recall how you felt before you ever fell in love? Do you remember what it felt like to drive for the first time?
Those seem easy, but I can't recall the first time I noticed the clouds, but what I do realize is experience and communication deny me the memory of discovery. I don't know what I thought about the sky when I first noticed it.. It's intriguing how experiences and interactions impact and often change us so, to the point where how we felt prior is as much a real memory as a construction..

NappyCantoDoggy 58M

4/30/2005 2:23 pm

Yes..it is interesting....and I think the transition that occurs in childhood from innocence to self consciousness is part of the phenomenon....Others reactions to our acts teach us self consciousness...and as far as I am concerned it also marks the loss of innocence...As we grow older we begin to factor in to our actions how others might perceive us....which is so sad in many ways....That pure living that children are in touch with is a lesson we could all learn from.

I think as we move through life there is a integration of experience that becomes additive.....we experience something....and it alters our perceptions...to the extent that the integration becomes so complete we no longer have access to the "self" that existed prior to that experience.

mnfun952 102M

4/30/2005 3:45 pm

I like the way your mind works Kali... though there are still opportunities to experience wonder - scuba diving is a good example... you really don't think much about what's down there until you float about at neutral boyancy staring at the amazing creatures there before you. You KNOW you're not supposed to be there, and yet - there you are.

Enjoy the day!


konkali 40F

5/1/2005 9:59 am

I'm curious to know, though, can we make an effort to experience each moment? Knowing that we can't feel this again? Guess I've been baffled at how much it feels like life is breezing by and I can't recall much of it. (No it's not some altered state courtesy of many substances available, I've just been too busy living life, to enjoy life).
I will always admit, if you're bored, you're not doing what you want to be doing, or even realizing there's something you could be experiencing sitting in your chair staring at the pixels on your screen..

Hey, Thanks for the comments!

irishmac69 38M

5/2/2005 7:24 pm

I know that I am a little behind on the conversation, but I nevertheless find it consuming. The goal appears to be "the moment," and appreciation of it in all its resounding glory. When I think about trying to get to the heart of a new experience, I always remember something I read by Nietzsche. He said to look at every new experience with all possible love, to avert the eye quickly from, even forget, everything about the experience that one might find inimical, objectionable, or false. This unrequited love of the moment or experience, will then lead us to the heart of it, and only then will we truly "know" the moment/experience. I guess he has a point. How can you really experience every moment without first loving every aspect of it unconditionally. Do the negative impressions we unconsciously produce surrounding each moment/experience prevent this love, and thus our enjoyment?
What do ya'll think?

craptoast 39M

9/24/2005 6:33 pm

this is perhaps too literal, but before i first fell in love, about a week or two maybe before i met the woman i would be spending the next four years with, i wrote a journalish sort of entry describing her in detail. then when we met i'd completely forgotten about what i'd written and spent the first two months of our courtship trying to convince her how wrong i was for her. i didn't rediscover the writing until a couple months ago, everything looks so different looking back.

konkali 40F

9/25/2005 12:04 am

that is how I view loving someone, in retrospect, after you're done denying, you relize how YOU alone laid the path to allow someone to be a part of YOUR life

Viggo57 60M

10/23/2005 6:33 am

I know what you mean about loving someone, in retrospect. The woman I loved is gone and will never be back. I guess why I am here....trying this and so many other things to establish a relationship...to have some fun....to try and replace.....to forget because I loved someone very much and didn't realize it until I was able to go back and look at what was their. What you said in your reply about you alone create a path or open an entrrance is so true, konkali.
When you lose something that was the most important part of YOUR....thank goodness for the potential of the future......"the memory of discovery"

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