Realization Hits Me  

kissablemeinmn 48F
234 posts
5/18/2005 6:22 pm

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Realization Hits Me

Recently I was talking to a friend about the amount of freedom I have as a married woman. It made me realize something.

I would give up all my freedom to have a man at home with me who loves me and thinks I'm special. Who wants to spend time with me. Who enjoys spending time with me. A man who talks to me, touches me, kisses me. A man who if I'm going to curl up with a good book asks me to do it on the couch with him while he watches sports - just because he wants me near him.

A man who kisses me hello, goodbye, and for any reason in between. A kiss like he loves me, not like I'm his aunt.

I would give it all up for a man who can't wait to get into bed with me every night. Who looks at me with love in his eyes and smiles Who wraps his arms around me as we fall asleep. One who reaches for me first thing in the morning.

It is very lonely to be married for almost 15 years and never once having been made love to by my husband. Because there is a difference between making love and having sex.

If I had that - I wouldn't care if I ever saw another man or woman again.


redswallow777 48M
6810 posts
5/18/2005 7:13 pm

I think I understand what you mean about the difference between making love and and having sex.....but what do you mean when you say you have more freedom being married?

74ShovelHD 53M

5/18/2005 8:16 pm

Realization hits a lot of us when we read this....

I'm going on 17 yrs, and I'm wondering how is it possible to keep the lust and passion going after so many years (if anyone has the magical answer, please speak up).

I think that once we become parents, our responsibilities and priorities change, and after so many years, it's hard to go back to looking at your spouse the way you use to. Or, maybe it's just natural to want more than what we have.

Avg Joe is right, there are lots of us with similar feelings, and the least we can do is help each other out.

DallasPhallus56 60M

5/18/2005 9:08 pm

Miranda, I applaud you for staying in the marriage for the children, but I agree that it must get a little lonely. I was "invisible" in both my marriages, not seen, not heard, not valued. Both of them were so wrapped up in themselves (and this is the kind of woman I seem to attract when I go looking for a partner) that I figured I was better off alone. I'm having fun now, playing the field, so to speak. Like you, I'd trade the play for someone who really sees me, really understands who I am, and I'm a very complex man. Real sharing isn't the only problem, though. Carol would probably do that, but she's insolvent and looking for someone to support her, too. I've had enough of that.

prettyblueyes68 48F
7 posts
5/20/2005 9:20 pm

I had the love, the intimacy and the incredible love making every one here seems to be looking for and I threw it all away on a man I "thought" was going to give me more. Ha! What a fool I was. I jumped the fence for greener pasture and fell into the biggest pile of shit ever. I've spent the last 13 yrs wondering what's wrong with me, why he won't touch me, make me feel the way a woman should feel and why on Earth I made the decision I made, all the while raising the kids and taking care of the house and the hubby. I know what step needs to be taken for my sanity and happiness but how does one find the courage to do it? 74ShovelHD made some good points with the responsibilites and priorities changing. When does it become time for us to start living for us and not for the family? I live in a busy, full house and have never felt so lonely in my life. It's nice to know I'm not alone here. I like your blogs, Miranda. Keep up the good work.

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