Must it really be so difficult....  

kissable_lips36 47F
87 posts
2/21/2006 4:10 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Must it really be so difficult....

...why is it that men are either clingy and looking to nail someone down or they just want a party girl.....

....why is it so difficult to find a male friend with benefits??? i just dont understand....

i thought my profile on here was sort of clear but maybe not.

if anyone has any suggestions on how it should be worded so i actually get some hits by people that are looking for the same thing, then let me know....

*sigh*


ByteChaser2 52M

2/21/2006 5:07 pm

Well... at the risk of sounding... offensive? I don't mean to be. But I just don't know any other way to put this, so my sincere appologies right up front.

First, perception is reality. I just checked your profile and well, it's no stretch for any visually oriented male to perceive that just the photo's alone scream that you're here to screw.

Type all you want... chances are many of the men clicking through dozens (hundreds) of profiles a day focus in on what slaps em in the face right off the bat. Again, I appologize for being so crude, but a set of boobs, butts and crotch as your photo spread implies (at least in our one track minds) your intent in opposition to what you clearly state in your text.

As to polarized men... Sorry, that's the way of the world. Some of us latch on with both hands, some of us are "fuck and forgeters". And the full spectrum between. And quite honestly, friends with benefits is a rather obscure and broadly interpreted term. What it means to me could be completely opposite to what it means to you.

So here's what I'd suggest... There's really nothing wrong with what you've written... But you might think about replacing the nudes (put em in your network album for those special few) with pictures that don't lend to the wrong perception.

Once that's done... use the filters provided by the site. If you filter by your preferences, you can start weeding out a lot of the riff-raff.

And failing all that... there's the ignore button.

Chin up kissable. It'll all work out


StrongBone71301 43M

2/21/2006 6:10 pm

Do you or have you ever dated black guys?

Sometimes the thing that you desire most is so close untill you miss out on it by searching too much.


kissable_lips36 47F
15 posts
2/24/2006 7:34 am

    Quoting ByteChaser2:
    Well... at the risk of sounding... offensive? I don't mean to be. But I just don't know any other way to put this, so my sincere appologies right up front.

    First, perception is reality. I just checked your profile and well, it's no stretch for any visually oriented male to perceive that just the photo's alone scream that you're here to screw.

    Type all you want... chances are many of the men clicking through dozens (hundreds) of profiles a day focus in on what slaps em in the face right off the bat. Again, I appologize for being so crude, but a set of boobs, butts and crotch as your photo spread implies (at least in our one track minds) your intent in opposition to what you clearly state in your text.

    As to polarized men... Sorry, that's the way of the world. Some of us latch on with both hands, some of us are "fuck and forgeters". And the full spectrum between. And quite honestly, friends with benefits is a rather obscure and broadly interpreted term. What it means to me could be completely opposite to what it means to you.

    So here's what I'd suggest... There's really nothing wrong with what you've written... But you might think about replacing the nudes (put em in your network album for those special few) with pictures that don't lend to the wrong perception.

    Once that's done... use the filters provided by the site. If you filter by your preferences, you can start weeding out a lot of the riff-raff.

    And failing all that... there's the ignore button.

    Chin up kissable. It'll all work out
ok...you...i dont like....LOL.....not for the advice you gave but for a few little words that you used....my ex husband used to use that "ones perception is their reality" crap everytime he wanted to get out of something.....grrrrrrr.....*sticking tonuge out at you*


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