kinetickinetic 56M
42 posts
6/18/2006 6:38 am

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8/25/2006 7:56 pm


There is another important element to building a relationship. It has to do with context. This applies especially to men. We tend to think, see and speak in a narrow context, usually our own. This is not necessarily bad but it can be a two edge sword when building a relationship.

We all should strive to see things, especially before we speak (or post) in a broader context. Sometimes we say things in our frame of reference before we think about how they will be interpreted from the perspective of other very important people.

For example, I may say something from a historical context, something from the perspective of the past decisions that I have made. If we don't see our words in a larger context, a very important person may assume you are speaking about them and the future. This could be bad.

Bottom line, think before you speak (or post). And when you get it reversed, ask for forgiveness and attempt to do better, for the sake of meaningful, and enjoyable relationships.


6/18/2006 7:15 am

Many years ago when I was a teenager, I had a wonderful boss at my part time job. He once gave all of us some words of wisdom to live your mind before you open your mouth. Seems pretty basic doesn't it? Although I admit I haven't followed this advice as much as I should have, I've always kept it with me.

Hydragenias 56F

6/19/2006 4:54 pm

I always try to remember that old saying: "God gave you two ears and only ONE mouth so you can listen MORE than you speak" I'm not sure if that's an exact quote, but it's close.
You bring up a very important point, especially in the context of the online world. So much of what we say gets misinterpreted because all we see is text. There is no facial expressions, no body language, no voice inflection, nothing to go on but the typed word.

ohsodelicious 57F
1922 posts
6/24/2006 8:50 am

kine...I always try to think before I know what I mean...especially when I'm upset...because you can say some really hurtful stuff and it will usually come back to haunt you.


Mamacat56 60F

8/8/2006 6:30 am

kinetickinetic ...Yes I agree with you , things can be taken out of context . My blogs at times have been a battle field , one friend doesn't care for a post that was posted and things get out of hand!
Sure we have all said things we regret, but for me I always speak whats on my mind . ...I see the good in everyone, never looking for the bad so when I do say something its positive!

rm_AnOddGirl 57F
3469 posts
8/22/2006 11:01 pm

Hell, I'm suppose to think?!?!? Dayum!

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