Feedback on 3 Scenario's  

kiaraslade 36F
68 posts
6/6/2006 2:11 am

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Feedback on 3 Scenario's

Hey there. It's crazy Kiara again. So, I have a question for men and woman out there. Hehe. I'm going to pop out a few scenario's here. Hopefully get some GOOD feedback from it.

1. You found the right one on here. They are attractive and like the same things you like. They are a little shy but eager to meet you. You tell them that you're so horny and could hardly contain yourself if they were to come and see you tonight. The person says, *in a joking manner* hey, as long as you don't me, I'm all good. You assure them that is not an option and that there is nothing to fear. What would you do the minute they walk through the door? Would you be able to hold out until they were ready to do something? If this person was set against having sex with you but they felt pressured or obligated to sleep with you, would you go through with it? What if this person does have sex with you, would you ask them over again or would you blow them off as another "fuck" and move on to the next person?

2. Again, you meet someone that you really clicked with. You have a nice conversation on the phone and decide that you'll chat again sometime. They tell you that you should come to one of their parties that he/she is throwing with some friends at their new place. You decline the offer but agree to take them up on the next one. You call the person up a week later and they want to meet you and you agree to it. Then this person tells you that it's getting late and asks you about Friday night. You say that sounds great. This person sends out a mass message to all of their friends about a party going down at their place again and asks that everyone reply or call for directions and details. You write them and try to call them but no return message or call. You consider this a mistake and try to message them the next day and they tell you they are busy. What do you think you should do with this person? Should you dismiss all this as a common human error and try again or should you take it as it is and see that this person knows how you felt about them setting you up?

3. You are beginning to realize that every time you meet someone new they only want one thing. SEX. You know you want it to, but you're scared of rejection or being made fun of. You find a few possible candidates and set up some time to meet up. You both toss around some ideas on how to meet and agree that seeing a movie is the perfect way to break the ice. You're both sitting down, side by side, ready to watch this movie that you have no idea what it's about. Then, things are starting to get really interesting when they lean over towards you and ask if you'd like to leave the movie and take things back to their place. You had already planned that you weren't going to sleep with this person on the first meet. Would you keep to your plans and ask to finish the movie and then go home, would you say okay, lets get out of here and forget what you had already promised yourself or would you say sure, lets go back to your place, but I still want to try to get to know each other more first, before we have sex?

Thanks for all your input and all answers would be much appreciated. These are examples taken from real life experiences by me and some of my friends. We are all just curious to see what others might think about the situations we've been faced with. ~ Kiara


"Take what tomorrow brings and don’t ask why." ~ Kiara Slade


BonesnMasa 41M/46F  
101 posts
6/6/2006 5:32 am

Comments to your scenarios.

1. Your can't the willing.

2. This person is just rude, be wary.

3. Always keep your promises, especially to yourself


EROTICFAN2C 60M
244 posts
6/6/2006 9:10 am

This is really easy! Except that number one is more than one question.

1. You set the pace...being a guy as I am..100% I can tell you. If it were me and you invited me over...you are the one calling the shots. If you want to sit down and chat, if you want to jump my bones in the doorway or if you want me to leave. You are the one in control of the situation. If the guy doesn't want to do it your way, that should answer any other questions. A guy meeting an attractive woman like you for the first time definitely wants to make a good impression. If the sex was good....invite them over again because after all....a girl has her needs too!

2. DUMP HIM. He's somebody that will take advantage of you as soon as he gets an opportunity. If you find him attractive and just want a good fuck...you better be in control of the scenario. No going to his place, you get him to your place or to a neutral site.

3. Again...be in control. You don't get away to see a movie that often without the kids in tow. Only reason to leave the movie...you didn't like the movie, you are just HORNY and want more time to FUCK. If you had already promised yourself something...stick to your guns. If he's worthwhile...he will respect you for it even if he gets blue balls.

4. Your next option of course.....CALL ME! Or send me an e-mail. heh heh


kiaraslade 36F

6/6/2006 4:22 pm

    Quoting EROTICFAN2C:
    This is really easy! Except that number one is more than one question.

    1. You set the pace...being a guy as I am..100% I can tell you. If it were me and you invited me over...you are the one calling the shots. If you want to sit down and chat, if you want to jump my bones in the doorway or if you want me to leave. You are the one in control of the situation. If the guy doesn't want to do it your way, that should answer any other questions. A guy meeting an attractive woman like you for the first time definitely wants to make a good impression. If the sex was good....invite them over again because after all....a girl has her needs too!

    2. DUMP HIM. He's somebody that will take advantage of you as soon as he gets an opportunity. If you find him attractive and just want a good fuck...you better be in control of the scenario. No going to his place, you get him to your place or to a neutral site.

    3. Again...be in control. You don't get away to see a movie that often without the kids in tow. Only reason to leave the movie...you didn't like the movie, you are just HORNY and want more time to FUCK. If you had already promised yourself something...stick to your guns. If he's worthwhile...he will respect you for it even if he gets blue balls.

    4. Your next option of course.....CALL ME! Or send me an e-mail. heh heh
LMAO. Your answers rock. Haha. Although, I don't think I'll be calling or emailing you anytime soon.

"Take what tomorrow brings and don’t ask why." ~ Kiara Slade


EROTICFAN2C 60M
244 posts
6/7/2006 9:07 am

I'm glad u liked my answers but u know it was worth a try on the CALL ME part of it. By the way....I miss your old profile photo, although the new one is nice too.

Looking forward to more of your blog entries!


frbnkslady 48F
6183 posts
6/11/2006 11:07 am

1.) YOU decide where to meet.. you make it safe. always try public...then go from there.. depends on you.
2.) Hes a rude asshole that belongs back in HS where a few of the guys on here still live.
3.) I don't think a movie is a good place to try and meet someone for the first time. You cannot talk. I like meeting over drinks, coffee, a simple meal. Hell, you can get horny there too, and decide from there. But if you want to keep it easy, stay there and talk..T

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kiaraslade 36F

6/11/2006 10:29 pm

    Quoting frbnkslady:
    1.) YOU decide where to meet.. you make it safe. always try public...then go from there.. depends on you.
    2.) Hes a rude asshole that belongs back in HS where a few of the guys on here still live.
    3.) I don't think a movie is a good place to try and meet someone for the first time. You cannot talk. I like meeting over drinks, coffee, a simple meal. Hell, you can get horny there too, and decide from there. But if you want to keep it easy, stay there and talk..T
Haha. Do I know you?

"Take what tomorrow brings and don’t ask why." ~ Kiara Slade


rm_fourfuninak 42M

6/22/2006 7:29 pm

I have to say I think you have already got some good advice here but I'll toss my 2 cents in as well.

1. What would you do the minute they walk through the door?

No means No for guys and girls so if that is what you agreed on then I would keep my pants on. If they where just playing hard to get you both end up frustrated which is what happens when people play games.

Would you be able to hold out until they were ready to do something?

Trust me it usually doesn't work out in the long run if your not both ready.

If this person was set against having sex with you but they felt pressured or obligated to sleep with you, would you go through with it?

No, I've been on both sides of this. Sex under obligation or preassure is not really fun. Sure all the physical responses and sensations are there but the mind isn't into it. There are few things more painful then being told or even realizing for yourself someone you care about only did it to please you and didn't want to be there.

What if this person does have sex with you, would you ask them over again or would you blow them off as another "fuck" and move on to the next person?

That is your call. If that is all it was then you don't want to be hanging around out of guilt but don't be cruel about the blow off either.

2. Yep, rude is a good description. There playing games. Drop them and move on. It's sad that there are so many people like this here.

3. I just bought a new truck. Before I walked into a dealership I told myself I'm not buying anything today, I'm not signing anything today. I'm tempted, all the shinny knobs, blinky lights and the sales person has assured me I'm getting a great deal. Why not I want it but I've made a promise to myself and that is more important then fulfinlling a precived obligation to someone else and there are cars coming off the assembly line every day.

Honesty with yourself and others is the best way to be happy yourself and do the least amount of damage to those around you. We all have our insecurities and fears. We are all putting ourselves at risk of ridicule and embarasment when we don't go along with the norm. I think it is good to push those boundries but at our own pace and being respectfull of the speed of others. If you think that someone isn't going to respect you or treat you the way you want to be treated trust it and don't expose yourself to them. There will be more oppertunities.

I hope I haven't babbled and something I've said helps.
-F


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