Is it Possible We Are Not All the Same?  

keystonenc 43M
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9/1/2006 4:34 pm

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Is it Possible We Are Not All the Same?

We are all different here folks. We all have our different likes and dislikes and it kills me to read questions posted on here like ‘do black women like giving oral more than white women’, or ‘what to women prefer oral or intercourse’, or ‘what do men prefer blow jobs or intercourse’, or ‘how big is too big’, or one of the more popular ‘do you like your partner shaved or au natural’. There seem to be so many folks on here who assume that all men and women are alike and if one woman likes a certain position then they all do. On top of that there seems to be this prevailing mindset that certain races like certain things better than others.

Where does this naiveté come from? Are we so afraid to talk to our potential lovers and find out what they like and don’t like. The first lover I ever had did not like to kiss very much. How did I know this? She told me so. The fact that she was African-American did not make me think that all African-American women did not like to kiss. She didn’t like to swallow when sucking me off either, but I know damn well that there are white women and black women that will swallow cum. Even though my lover liked to sleep around that doesn’t mean all black women do. Just because she knew how to work her pussy muscles when fucking a man doesn’t mean all African-American women know how to do that.

I may be limited in terms of the number of women I have been with, but I have been around long enough to that not all women are wired the same and not all women like to do the same things in bed. Is it so hard to believe that a woman might want you to fuck her hard one day and turn around and seduce her and make love to her the next?

Why is it that we men cannot get it through our heads that not all women want a guy hung like a moose? I see so many guys worrying that their dick is not big enough and no woman would ever possibly want him because is unit is too small. Guys, there are plenty of women out there are perfectly happy with a penis that works the way God intended it to. There is an old saying out there that goes, “It is not the size of the boat, but the motion in the ocean that counts”. Sure there are plenty of women out there who won’t give us smaller guys the time of day and are only interested in King Ding-a-ling, but why worry over it? There are plenty of quality, attractive women out there who are willing to give a quality guy a chance to show his stuff and do his thing. Don’t get caught up in your dick size just because you see a few profiles of ‘Barbie Dolls’ who only want a guy who is hung. Open your eyes and look around and you will find someone who doesn’t care how big you are.

I don’t understand why it is so hard to conceive of the idea that we are all different and we all like to do different things in bed. Not everyone likes oral and not everyone hates it. There is also another saying that goes, “different strokes for different strokes”. So, guys if you really want to know how to get a woman going just talk to her. You will soon find that all women are slightly different in their own way and there is not necessarily a norm when it comes to pleasing a woman in the bedroom.

diva371969 48F

9/2/2006 5:39 pm

Keystone hey whats up???????...just in response back to my question about shaved or unshaved i personally dont care about the question 1000 other people asked on the subject it was my own personal quest to find the answer... I didnt want to go and find someone elses "same question".....i am sure that everytime the same questions are asked new people answer them and give different advice....sorry it nauseates you but if you read all the different comments and not the "question", someones "answer".... may enlighten you......thanks...Diva

keystonenc 43M
144 posts
9/2/2006 6:50 pm

Actually, I should have worded that differently in the first paragraph. I was referring to the 'do women prefer their men to be shaved' question.

But, ultimately the point is the question, or some minor variation of it, is asked ad nauseum and the answers are always different. It all dependent on the couple involved and their personal preferences.

Honestly, their was really nothing unique about the question you posed. And my guess is that none of the responses you got were too terribly unique if I went back and read what other folks had posted on similar questions.

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