Cyberlove: Is it really possible?  

keystonenc 42M
28 posts
9/8/2005 6:26 pm

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Cyberlove: Is it really possible?

Falling in love online is a topic that has always fascinated me to an extent. I used to work with a lady who fell head over heels in love for this guy who was over in Iraq but whose home base Fort Bragg. She met him online while he was over in Iraq and they frequently chatted online via IM. After a couple of weeks she decided she was in love with this guy even though she had never met him. This is a phenomenon that is curious to me as I don’t think I can fall in love with someone without having met them. There is a lot to be said for being able to read the person’s eyes, their body language, and tone of voice. I can type anything I want into an IM screen and you have no real way to tell if I am telling the truth or not. The way a person presents themselves around me helps me to interpret what they are saying better. I can feel attracted to someone via online exchanges but I could truly love someone without forming that emotional bond that comes from connecting on a personal level with them.

She was making all sorts of plans about what she was going to do when he finally made it back to the states. She just knew she was going to moving to Fayetteville when he got back and they were going to be getting married soon thereafter. Now, mind you he had given no indications of wanting to marry her.

It ended up being about seven or eight months before he ever made it back to the states and they met face-to-face for the first time and maybe 30 more minutes until she was riding his manhood for all it was worth. She was not too terribly shy about divulging intimate details. Man, I used to work in an office with a bunch of horny women. I seemed to always be hearing about sexual conquests whether I wanted to or not, but that is a story for another day. This particular woman and another one in the office in particular seemed to be in competition over who could screw the most men.

Anyway, it seemed as though that is all it turned into. She would go to see him every two or three weeks and it turned into one fuck session after another. The problem being that this was a horny girl who had no self control when it came to men with 8 inches between their legs. She tends to get very infatuated with guys that are well hung and cannot get enough of them and she starts to get uncontrollably horny if she goes more than two weeks without sex. So, essentially, he was just keeping her on the line all that time so he would have a fuck buddy when he got back to the states as he did not have waiting for him when he got back.

I have run across other folks in my travels across the Internet that claim they are falling in love with a guy from another state that they met online, though they never met them. Is our society devolving to the point that we no longer need personal, human contact to feel love? Is it going to end up like the movie Demolition Man where we get our rocks off via virtual reality instead of experiencing the pleasure of physical contact with each other? I certainly hope this is not the case. It almost appears as though it is becoming old fashioned to leave the house to meet someone and hang out anymore. God knows gas prices are not doing us any favors.

Don’t get me wrong I love using websites such as this to facilitate the meeting of people process. But I will be damned if I am going to tether myself to a computer the rest of my life hoping she is going to show up online so we can chat with each other. I need the opportunity to be greeted by her uplifting smile, feeling her inviting warmth as we embrace in a hug. I need to have the chance to gaze into her beautiful eyes and lose myself for hours in her soul before I can fall in love with her, and I just cannot do that exclusively on the Internet. I just don’t see how anyone can.

hotdarter 47F
1520 posts
9/10/2005 12:37 pm

I just cannot imagine falling in love online. I derive a lot of amusement and entertainment from IMing, but take it all with a grain of salt. Of course I have a horrible memory pattern and cannot always keep straight what I have talked about a few days later or whom with. But as I was saying, fall in love online? No way. I have only said the words to 2 people in my life anyway. I have to really feel it to say it.

rm_luke69iner 48M
3275 posts
9/15/2005 11:40 pm

Wow Keystone this is an outstanding post

Finding love period is very difficult. Trying to find love on this site is a difficult shot in the dark.

Best of luck in your search.

One thing you can find on the site is "The Contest." I need your help if you haven't read it already, i'm running the same type of contest they did on Seinfeld but so far i only have one other guy who has signed up. If you're not to shy about it please join The Contest. The men will all probably be out well before the ladies but it will still be more fun if we have some guys participating.

S'io credesse che mia risposta fosse
A persona che mai tornasse al mondo,
Questa fiamma staria senza piu scosse.
Ma perciocche giammai di questo fondo
Non torno vivo alcun, s'i'odo il vero,
Senza tema d'infamia ti rispondo

keystonenc 42M
144 posts
9/17/2005 3:29 pm

Thanks Luke.

Yeah, I have not had a whole lot of luck on this site. Most of the responses I get are either someone pimping another porn or dating site or they just are not interested in someone like me.

I think it is possible to fall in love with someone you met online but I just cannot see myself falling for someone before ever laying eyes on them.

keystonenc 42M
144 posts
2/25/2006 12:33 pm

That is one thing I have tried to get a grasp on with this site. I see quite a few women posting profiles about looking for a serious relationship or complaining about the high quantity of men hitting on them for sex and I cannot help, to a degree, the sexuality that can be expressed in pictures and profiles.

You are right this is an adult site intended for folks looking for adult activities and relationships.

I actually had someone tell me that if I was interested in hooking up without meeting in person first then I was not the type of person she was interested in. I felt like responding that she should probably go elsewhere as she would find that almost every guy on here would be willing to hook up for a night of lovin' at a hotel somewhere if she would agree to it.

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