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I have seen numerous profile starting with the words safety or safe. Most of these are from women who are new to AdultFriendFinder or similar sites.
Being who I am I frequently message these women with goals other than sex.
I have raised a daughter and when I see these ads my instinct tells me to try and help, comfort, and protect these Ladies. That is part of who I am.
One can easily tell the ladies "I am safe and normal." Can you prove it? Are you willing to send them a copy of your driver's license, your full name and address. Your social security number? Just how can you prove this?
I have met a couple of women (No longer given the benefit of being called ladies as they misrepresented themselves) who built themselves up and vastly stretched the truth. Truth is even more important at a site like this. One can often tell much about a person by how they write and when what they write does not agree with the how then one becomes questionable.
Most of the Ladies I see that are concerned with their safety are late thirties on up in age. They have been married for quite awhile are are now in my situation. Being used to living a certain way with it's own form of security and safety. All of the sudden (or not) they find themselves on a new adventure in life. Some married and hurt, some separated or divorced, quite a few are neglected and/or abused by their mates.
I try and offer encouragement and a safe friend for these wonderful ladies. Face it guys, most of us have the sensativity of a rock. We get tunnel vision and see only an opportunity for sex.
No wonder these ladies fear for their safety. They have undoubtedly already seen some of the basist behavior of men. They seek to find a "fairy tale type of man." I know this because I ultimately seek a fairy tale type of love. You know like in the movie The Princess Bride. Wesly nearly dies or is thought to be dead and the Billy Crystal charcter brings him back from being "mostly dead." He has to have a reason to bring Wesly back since there is no money to pay him. "True Love." Wesley's love for Buttercup. Although he had vanished from her life while very young when they found eachother there was a willingness to sacrifice all in the other's behalf.
I pobably sound stupid but that is what many of us (men and women) are really looking for. I pose this question: Does send a penis picture make a Lady feel safe? Does sending a first email saying "I want to fuck you" "I want to eat your pussy." show them you are safe to be with? NO!
I really don't know that I belong on AdultFriendFinder or anything similar because I still have Honor. Something that apparently is in short supply on these sites. One does not have to be Mr. Goody Goody to have Honor but one has to impose standards upon oneself.Be honest not crass. Yes the phrase "I want to fuck you" may indeed be true but do you have to be so crass? Does it have to come out in the first email (unless the Lady has stated absolutely that this is what she wants)? A great way to turn off the Ladies fellows.
And Ladies, why fake your description if you do the results will most likely be the same or worse upon meeting someone. Why take a photo that is too old and post it, you are not living in the past. Now if the photo is all you have and several years old, say so and describe any changes that have occured. If you are more than thirty pounds overweight don't say "I'm a little chubby" instead try I am a Big Beautiful Woman. I am liberal when it comes to weight "standards" but many men are not. It might actually upset some guys that they were not told the truth when they meet with you. This is not a safe game to play.
Be honest and be proud of who you are. Mostly be safe and take procautions when meeting someone new.