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I have read some profiles that are headed up with a form of the word lonely.
I have no problem with joining AdultFriendFinder or something similar to find "whatever" but I do hope people realize exactly what they are doing. So often our feelings of loneliness, insecurity or inadequecy dictate our actions.
Is sex what is being sought or is it companionship?
Is it a fling or is it anger, frustration or even revenge?
Sex is wonderful and so is having a regular partner who is interested in what is going on in one's life.
Either way I have no problem with sex but inorder to fulfill another need sex maybe damaging.
I wonder how many occur because of anger and frustration or insecurity, desire for power or control?
When thirteen I was by an eighteen and nineteen year old. They hated my mother and I was just a short fat kid, easy prey (I hate the term victim). I know this was not something done for mere sexual satisfaction. It was an act of control, revenge, anger the list goes on. It has taken many years to realize that I was not the issue but the means to release the anger (and yes they hated me too).
I see a connection for people with certain esteem issues. What I am saying is, be certain of "why" you do the things you do. A wrong action will not resolve the true problem and you may worsen it.