kayeadpi 35F
34 posts
4/11/2006 7:12 am

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4/23/2006 5:19 pm


[SIZE 4Okay what in the hell is the point of sending a "wink", really? If you are so cheap that you cannot purchase a membership to talk to me I am not going to respond or if you have a membership and still wink, get some balls and write me!

rm_herestill 56M

4/11/2006 7:55 am

i usually send a wink first,it gets that person to look at my addy,if she winks back I'll send an E-mail
I do it this way cause I dont like sending something out and never getting even a courtisy reply back.Winking is an easy way to flirt.

orock61 55M

4/11/2006 8:11 am

Okay, Okay , i'm writing already!
you don't think that winking should be a feature of the website?

constructionm62 54M

4/11/2006 8:35 am

NICE TITS!!! (wink wink says one eye dick)

Wildside4u2play 45M
5 posts
4/11/2006 9:05 am

Well I can tell you that I didn't become a memeber of this site because I want to see if it's for real. I too am a little anoyed by the "all talk no action" that seems to permeate the chat rooms and "winks". After just two weeks I have emailed several hotties who were interested in getting together (in fact they initiated the contact) but all of them have turned out to be duds. What gives? If that is the way this site really is, then I'll save my money.

nice_fit69 52M

4/11/2006 6:18 pm

yeah, i hear you cutie. i've met a few women from my time spent on AdultFriendFinder but never made a strong enough connection. not enough personalities for me. you have to have the brain to go along with the body you know? anyway, until next time...

SoupyLodgeHares 36M
12 posts
4/11/2006 8:41 pm

i use the wink/hotlist feature to weed out the fakes. I've never received a return wink from someone I suspect to be phony.

It also might be a good way to flirt - like the other guy said, if i wink, i expect a wink back if you're interested in chatting or something sometime. If you don't wink back, I don't usually send an e-mail - kind of a waste of time to send an email if they'll never respond...

kayeadpi 35F

4/13/2006 5:28 am

FYI - I get so many e-mails that I am not going to bother looking at who winked at me.

rm_lordrych 38M
4 posts
4/20/2006 5:18 pm


I emailed you, it is different for a guy, or maybe me, I have to work it and really impress where as a women gets so many emails she is drowning. I liked your profile would love to know more. Maybe read my email sometime, course I don't really know what I sent you..........I have to send so many out at a time. And only get 1 back......LOL


hard9discreet 44M

5/8/2006 7:16 am

FYI, MOST couples and WOMEN don't want to wade through endless e-mails from single men, and make this clear in profiles.
MANY say single males, we'll find you if we want that, so we don't write, the wink feature makes it possible to flirt without being pushy and overfilling an already full mailbox. PER said request.
If a free member, ya can't wink anyway!!! called initiating contact.
I'm sure women can initiate contact with ANYONE, free or not.Males cannot.
I may be wrong on that one...

The whole "men if you write you better bring your A game" attitude is fucking rude. Demands for some long letter, detailed reason why you should meet me" is just rediculous to demand for a first contact.
I'm not here to marry anyone, just friends to fuck.
A simple intro letter (or a WINK) should lead you to a profile, and see if that profile/letter warrant's more attention.
Just not looking at winks seems a waste of a simple feature that we ALL pay for, that makes it easier to connect.
Yes you're a sexy woman, so what. There's seemingly thousands of sexy women profiles here, most are fakes or hookers. Your comments on "too cheap" just make you sound like another gold diggin ho on AdultFriendFinder.

It's been said by most of the men here responding that out of hundreds of letters sent, only a few even respond, much less meet.
Wasting time writing letters is just that, a waste of time, much like this topic. Do you read all e-mails and respond? I doubt it, and if you do, you have way too much time on your hands. You'd prob save a LOT of time responding to winks rather than opening all the mail you get, and prob meet some pretty decent people.

High maintainance women thinking they're too good to respond to flirting or meeting.

I've been on this site on/off for 6+years, and the same ol, same ol always happens.
Pay for membership, get hits for a month, responses die off, couples, women and men write, wink, want to party, and when all is said and done they bail.
After the first month, the invites, winks and other contact diminish to nothing, so membership lapses, I'm not wasting more cash on this fake swinger site for at least 6 months. And the same thing will happen, busy as hell for first few weeks, dead by end of first month.
So as to your comment on "too cheap" I say just smart spending (or lack of spending foolishly)
Why so negative?
And if you choose to answer with the same question, my answer is "read your post"

BTW, have YOU met many here, or just pics and blog bitchin about cheap guys?
You're on my friends list, and I haven't heard anything from you except that you accepted me to network. Evidently the simple intro was good enough for a tease, just not good enough to meet in person or any other form of contact.
I'd really like to meet you sometime, I'm in your network, standard member and not going to pay them again in order to meet. If you're interested, please write, if not, I'll just chalk it up to business as usual at AdultFriendFinder.

Enough, just answering your question, not tryin to be a dickhead, but you asked....

rangerider98201 39M  
12 posts
5/20/2006 11:54 am

I am with hard9discreet on this one. I have been on AdultFriendFinder for a few YEARS, but mostly I will continue my membership in case a new member shows up that I haven't contacted yet. But it is usually all the same, most of the women on here think that a guy has to be hung (8+in) or built like a fuckin greek god to be able to be good in bed. Well I for one am not built like a greek god, and fall short (although not much) of the 8" requirement I see alot of times, and have had very few (4 or 5) complaints about how good I am in bed, in fact several have said I was pretty damn close to first on the list. Needless to say, some women feel a need to be bitchy to keep the assholes, that cant read, from contacting them. The problem with that is, that if they cant read then they are goin to contact them anyway, so all they have succeded in doing is driving off all the good guys they could have contacted, and ignoring winks is no good. Dont do that unless they arent in your area, and then even a courtesy thank you for your interest is a nice thing to do. The one thing I dont get anymore, is women priding themeselves on being a bitch. I dont get it, and most guys dont like it. Ty, and have a good day.

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