............ON LIVING TOGETHER........  

katsback 56F
15215 posts
7/28/2006 11:59 am

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7/30/2006 4:45 pm

............ON LIVING TOGETHER........

THE MAN I WAS WITH ALL WEEK HAS TALKED ABOUT US LIVING TOGETHER, SOMETIME,NOT MARRIAGE. THE PROBLEM IM HAVING EVEN LIVING TOGETHER IS, WE BOTH HAVE FULL HOUSES BASICALLY, TO MUCH STUFF, WHEN YOU LIVE TOGETHER, IT MAYBE MORE TEMP THAN MARRIAGE, SO MY QUESTION ...WHAT DO YOU DO ABOUT YOUR STUFF? I TOLD HIM HONESTLY, THEIRS NO ROOM FOR MY PERSONALITY TO SHOW IN HIS HOUSE,ITS FULL, EVEN FEMINE IN PLACES,SO HOW COULD I ,LIVE WITH YOU. I GUESS HE THOUGHT MORE ABOUT IT AND SAID I WAS RIGHT FOR AT LEAST BRINGING IT UP, I WAS HONEST ABOUT IT HE SAID, COURSE IM ALWAYS HONEST, LOL..A FEW DAYS LATER HE TOLD ME, ACTUALLY LAST NIGHT.IF WE GOT TOGETHER WE'D DO IT ALLOVER,THE HOUSE.WELL SHOULD HE HAVE TO OR WHAT? HELP SURE WOULD LOVE SOME ADVISE,,,,




toothysmile 50M
16515 posts
7/28/2006 12:30 pm

if you're going to live together, maybe you can get new bigger house?...
in general... if a man asks you to live together... that's a good thing. whether YOU want to live with him is another.
kisses.


katsback replies on 7/28/2006 1:20 pm:
toothy .he has a two story house already,and all my stuff came out of a 2 .story.

buddhamike 105M
7006 posts
7/28/2006 12:43 pm

If you are both there, it should be some of each of yours. It's a tough call really, because it will reflect the relative dominance (or lack thereof) for each of you. Generally men are less concerned with such things so if possessions from one of you is going to dominate it should probably be yours.


katsback replies on 7/28/2006 2:14 pm:
but its his house....thats why i feel it would be hard,men are less you say, i guess you maybe right...

buddhamike 105M
7006 posts
7/28/2006 2:19 pm

If he really wants you there, he'll compromise. It's amazing what "the right man" will do for a woman!


katsback replies on 7/28/2006 3:30 pm:
AND VISE VERSA,,THANKS BUD..

mrgrimshade 44M

7/28/2006 2:56 pm

well...my house is big and undecorated...with not even a picture on the wall...

Grim


katsback replies on 7/28/2006 3:29 pm:
SOUNDS RATHER GRIM,,,,,,GRIM......

Wickedcurve 52M

7/28/2006 4:15 pm

Why is there such a rush? You just met this guy last weekend and the both of you are already talking about living together? I would think that there would be alot more things for you to think about and discuss with this man before I moved in with him than where your stuff is going to fit.


katsback replies on 7/28/2006 4:57 pm:
steve , thanks,but weve been talking on the phone now over two months night and day too, sometimes few times a day, but dear im not moving in with him tomorrow, where not talking right now, were just talking, and yes he was the one that brought it up , maybe cause he's older57.....hmmmm besides, we havent even gone camping yet, we have lots to do still!!hugs,,,

Wickedcurve 52M

7/28/2006 4:16 pm

Why is there such a rush? You just met this guy last weekend and the both of you are already talking about living together? I would think that there would be alot more things for you to think about and discuss with this man before you would move in with him than where your stuff is going to fit.


hitched06 50M/50F

7/28/2006 5:55 pm

Kat please go slow and be careful you are precious to us and we would not like to see you hurt. We so do hope this is the man for you and that it works out wonderfully. We are combining two households and we decide on a piece by piece basis as to what stays and what goes. Mickey shows me his stuff and if I like it it stays and if not.... bye bye


katsback replies on 7/28/2006 6:54 pm:
carrie, im trying but its hard, hes such a great guy, hes a sweetheart!! but were just talking maybe later down road...

goodatpoetry2 66M
12374 posts
7/29/2006 9:02 am

When you two decide it's time to live together, then it's time to re-do the house.
The INTENT of living together, is FOREVER. So that's how you plan it.
To do otherwise, would be planning for failure.

Lucky you!


katsback replies on 7/29/2006 11:32 am:
oh mark ,hes a great guy,you'd like him!

MOfunNOWWOW 55F

7/30/2006 8:22 am

As with all things ya know me....take your sweet ass time (him too) when ya move in and if ya move in the house should reflect ya all. NOt him not Kat but your union....as good said, if you are thinking it could be temporary...ya already failed and why waste each others time when the right one is out there. If you decide to do this...do it with intentions of forever. BTW...a piece of paper doesn't make it forever, the love does.


MOMO
just a squirrel trying to get a nut


katsback replies on 7/30/2006 8:44 am:
i know mo,,,,but as far as the piece of paper, i still believe in marriage, to me the paper is not a big deal to deal with ,i understand your views on that, but i want the whole pkg if i take it not just a piece, thats my opinion of it...{=}

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