TROUBLE IN PARADISE...GETTING TO KNOW OUR WANTS AND NEEDS  

kats60 56F
739 posts
1/10/2006 6:22 pm

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TROUBLE IN PARADISE...GETTING TO KNOW OUR WANTS AND NEEDS

DEALING WITH SOME ISSUES RIGHT NOW, ITS FRUSTRATING , HES TOLD ME WHAT HE WANTS, AND I UNDERSTAND, BUT I DONT KNOW HOW ITS GONNA WORK YET...HE TOLD ME TONIGHT,NOT ANYTHING WILL GET IN THE WAY OF HIS WORKING, HE MEANT ME. IT WAS HOW HE SAID IT.WITH HIM , I WILL PROBABLY ALWAYS BE 2 ND, WELL IF WE HAVE A FUTURE. I JUST HAVE TO LET HIM DO HIS THING, AND DO MINE WHATEVER IT MAY BE. GIVE HIM HIS TIME, AND DO OTHER THINGS,HE SAYS HE THINKS MY BLOGGING IS GOOD FOR ME, WELL, IM THINKING NOW, I DONT WANT HIM TO READ IT, CAUSE HE"LL NOW TAKE OFFENCE TO MY FEELINGS ON HERE, OR ILL HAVE TO COVER THEM UP,,, SO I WILL ASK HIM NICELY TO STOP READING MY BLOGS, SO IT DOESNT EFFECT HIM PERSONALLY.AND I CAN BE OPEN AND HONEST ABOUT HOW I FEEL, WITH OUT MAKING HIM MAD AT ME!.NOT SAYING WHAT I WRITE WILL ALWAYS BE RIGHT, IM WRONG ALOT, I KNOW. ILL ADMIT THAT. ABOUT THIS WEEKEND AND HIM WORKING, I WAS WRONG. BUT I DONT WANT TO BE 2ND FIDDLE EITHER...


bangingmyhead 54M
157 posts
1/10/2006 7:24 pm

The relationship is still young (he did give up a golf day to see you). Why does he need to work on Saturday - does he want to/need to/wants the $$$? Also, his response could be because he's had as tough of a day as you did. If his work is his life, then you'll have problems if you want to be his primary concern.

I wish you luck in sorting it all out.


kats60 56F

1/10/2006 8:14 pm

the money is for his future,,per-say..he does so many weekends of the yr, on saturdays ,works to make his income bigger, i understand that. and i do under stand him working, its just hard , the distance between us right now, that it makes the time away longer cause we dont live close by..yes he gave up golf, i appreciate that!id give up shoppinfg with the girls any day of the week,for him,lol.but i guess shopping isnt a sport, lol. well not yet primary, just up there, on the list, we both have family and stuff,but i want to be important.


oldude1946 71M

1/11/2006 12:48 am

Kat...maybe because I'm a little older and people mean more to me than a job. I like to work but 40 hrs a week is enough for me, I would reather spend time with the woman I'm with. Tell you the truth the lady in my life comes first. Work to live not live to work. Sorry thats the way I feel.


kats60 56F

1/11/2006 3:32 pm

I THINK ITS BECAUSE EVERTHING IS GETTING SO DAMN HIGH, LIKE BACK IN MY PARENTS DAY YOU COULD BUY A NEW HOUSE FOR LESS THAN 20.000.00, AND CARS WERE SO MUCH CHEAPER, THE GUYS HAVE TO WORK SO MUCH HARDER TO KEEP THAT GOING TODAY, I FEEL FOR THEM.BUT I SEE WHAT YOUR SAYING, BUT IM NOT GOING TO ARGUE WITH SWISH, ITS POINTLESS, HES DETERMINED, AND I HAVE TO GIVE HIM CREDIT FOR STICKING TO HIS GUNS,AND BACK HIM ,THOUGH THERE MAY BE SOME LONELY WEEKENDS!


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