Reading is hot  

katmarsex 39M/34F
8 posts
6/10/2005 2:22 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Reading is hot

Wanna know what turns me on? People who bother to read our profile.

No, seriously.

If you've used this site for more than half a minute then undoubtedly you've gotten several messages from single men. Don't get me wrong, I don't think single men are bad! But when it says more than once in my profile that a single man is not what I am currently looking for then messages from single men can get annoying. Just to show that I don't direct all of my animosity towards single men, I will say that messages from women and couples who are not in our desired age range or geographic region are just as frustrating. Come on, our preferences are listed at least 5 different times in our profile.

At the same time, I acknowledge the merit of taking a chance and hoping that someone will be willing to make exceptions to their rules. Sometimes you get lucky and meet wonderful people who you never thought you would be compatible with. However, our preferences cover a broad spectrum to begin with. Ages 18-30 covers a lot of people already. I would understand of someone was age 31 and wanted to take a chance and send us a message anyway, but age 47? You can't tell me you honestly believe we would be fine with that when we personally listed our cut-off age as 30. At that point I begin to wonder, "Was it a matter of not having read our profile at all or was it a matter of having read it and deciding to blatantly ignore it?"

I feel I should say something about our age preferences. We don't assume that someone over the age of 30 couldn't be attractive. We are more concerned about being able to relate to that person. Granted, my husband is nearing the 30 mark himself but we have to set the limit somewhere. We will adjust our limits later as necessary. You see, we firmly believe that any physical contact with someone would be unfulfilling if that person cannot satiate our needs in terms of friendship. Otherwise stated, we have to be able to relate to a person with their clothes on as well as off. Perhaps I am being overly critical of myself but when someone has the advantage of 10 more years of life experience over me then I start to feel like I might not have any stories/experiences to contribute that they have likely not already experienced for themselves. As I type this, I have received messages from people over the age of 60. While I applaud them for staying active in their sexuality, I personally prefer to spend my time with people who are simultaneously experiencing new things with me.

Long story short, I'll like you a lot more if you can show me than you took a moment to read what I have to say in the profile. Give me the benefit of the doubt and consider that I may have set those boundaries for a reason.

_anubis 43M
4 posts
6/10/2005 6:02 am

What a perfectly wonderful post. I'm a single man, and it's still a good post. I've heard several similar complaints, and some of them usually follow some explanation about standard members and not paying. Now, this is not an attempt to circumvent the purpose of that post. I just thought it was a nice post is all. I wish more people took the time to organize their thoughts and articulate those thoughts before they "opened their mouths". The inability or unwillingness to articulate a well-thought idea or set of ideas is usually what bores me to no end, and causes me to only read a small portion of their post(s). Keep up the good work.

Again, not a solicitation of my services or interest.

rm_talldarkavg1 105M
10172 posts
6/10/2005 6:25 am

I think perhaps both. They may or may not have read your profile. Unfortunately you are fighting one of the most powerful forces in the universe...the male ego.

This factor convinces the male "he is different"!

Above all else never forget...and erection talks a lot of smack.

[blog talldarkavg1]

chowbox2004 43M
210 posts
6/10/2005 7:41 am

Could also be that some of them are standard members who cant read your profile. I am a standard member also, haven't read your profile, but just wanted to say "Hi!" anyway because you are a very sexy couple. Unfortunately you will never be rid of the unwanted emails because there are just too many people out here, some hopeful that youd make an acception, some simply arrogant assholes that will disreguard anything you say believing that they are "the one" for you. Well, good luck in your hunt, and wade through the B.S. as best you can.

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