No strings...Why does a sex site mean no commitment?  

kacky0850 40F   
4309 posts
7/6/2005 10:37 am

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8/14/2006 11:42 am

No strings...Why does a sex site mean no commitment?


I must be different from other women on this site. I have been told by some men to get off this site and some other ugly names just because I stand up for myself and don't back down on what I want and what I expect in a date.

What I want in a "date" is no commitment up front except a good time. Good time in my definition is to enjoy himself and his surroundings and have a smile on his face. But to tell them upfront, I do not have sex on first date. I think and know I don't know them well enough to spread my legs for them. Not that I don't know if they have STDs or anything....it is that I like my sex certain ways and if they don't fulfill it that way I am disapointed. Plus I am looking for someone a little longer lasting then talking for a week, meet up for a date, and never talking again. To be truthful I want a boyfriend.

Okay, to answer your question on why I got on the site, I was married and I was looking for a way out. Someone I met up with told me about this site and I got hooked. I even told my ex I was on it....told him it was for making friends though. While I was with him I didn't have standards.....I just wanted someone to take me away from the mess I was in. Finally I left and got everything together. Now I have the ability to pick and chose who I want to hang out with and what I want to do with them

So guys.....I am very strong willed, you don't have to worry about me giving in to you. But I do not like a guy saying no strings....I want strings....and a man saying discrete....I am not to be hidden.....so I don't like that either.

buddhamike 105M
7006 posts
7/6/2005 12:02 pm

Stand your ground. Sex is much better when you actually care about the one you're with.

And I can assure you're not alone in feeling that way. Many of us here at AdultFriendFinder feel the same!!!


angelcoed1980 36F

7/6/2005 1:13 pm

I admire your braveness for just coming out and saying that, it is almost like you were reading my mind. Maybe if I stood my ground more steadfast, like you, I would see some of the guys I date more than once. I applaud you for your being so brave, and I think you might have just made me a little more brave. Thanks again.

~angel


slidellcpl2005 55M/60F
1 post
10/6/2005 2:12 am

I totally agree, but most men on here are only looking to do you once and then they are looking to move on. I would love to find a friend who I could hang out with and be intimate at times. It's difficult for me since most single women don't want to become involved with married men. My wife doesn't mind if I see other people. We have a very open relationship and even enjoy hearing about a hot sexual encounter the othat has had. You have to find someone who you can be friends with or there is no reason to have strings. Commitment is based on a mutual attraction and sharing of common interests. I don't understand how some guys will screw someone they don't know or like personally. I've never been able to do that. So hang in there. I still think it's possible to find friends and lovers.
Steve


spiderbeetle21 33M
52 posts
8/14/2006 3:26 am

I agree with you. Strings are nice, and I don't think I would have it any other way. I don't think I am capable of a no strings relationship. But most guys don't seem to have much of a problem with it.


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