A man once said  

kacky0850 40F   
4309 posts
6/1/2006 6:22 am

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A man once said

A man once said that wealth was measured in how many friends one had. And he was more rich then any millionaire thanks to the people that have touched his life.

I have been thinking about this lately. Before I moved away to Slidell I had some really awesome friendships. Granted I was married and they were due with other married couples. Some didn't understand why my ex and I are not together now and have chosen not to continue the friendship. That I can't change. But for the others I believe I have pushed away. I want to say because they are females and are married and I am not in that type of life anymore. But then I think no......that is truely not the reason for me pushing them away. I know the real reason.

Now down in Slidell I actually had tons of friends. When I first moved yes it was hard but I am outgoing and meet people easily in that kind of environment. But up here, in North Louisiana, it is so difficult for me to meet someone. A friend. I saw a person in Super 1 yesterday and I thought about introducing myself but held back because I thought it to be too bold. She didn't know me but maybe I could have become friends out of it. I don't know what to think. I do have tons of acquaintances and I still have a good many close friends. But does it have to be this hard making new friends without the help of others and going to a bar?

I need answers.

RogueAgent000 50M

6/1/2006 7:09 am

Just happened to stop by and noticed your post...and I agree with most of what you've said. I as well have many acquaintances, some of which I consider very close, and others that I see or am in contact with less frequently. As far as friends go...I have them on different levels too. I have 3 very close friends who I consider family, who know nearly everything about me.

Now as far as your question goes, it may depend on where in the friendship/acquaintance realm you are looking. I would guess it to take a bit longer for someone to become close friends, and a shorter time to make an acquaintance. If in fact you are looking to develop a close meaningful friendship with someone, I'd use the avenues available to you...those things that interest you most. You might find a great connection with someone who shares those interests or activities.

I faced something similar moving from Chicago to Mobile. The first year was a little difficult but after getting involved in a public service, I have many more opportunities come my way. Hope you find what you are looking for.

spiderbeetle21 33M
52 posts
8/26/2006 4:12 am

I'd really like to become one of your friends. You seem like a fun person and someone that I can really relate to. I hope we can become better friends. It was nice chatting with you that time when you couldn't sleep.

I'll be in Ruston soon, and I can't think of any reason why we shouldn't get together sometime. We could just have a fun day. Play some pool, go swimming, watch a few dvds, or whatever sounds fun to you. I'm pretty much up for anything.

I hope that all is well,

attentive2u58 58M
251 posts
10/3/2006 4:55 pm

Different personalities have different definitions of friends. I unfortunately have always been of the opinion that if you have more than 5 friends you don't know who they are. That's sad is it not. Fear of rejection is the reason we hold back. The secret to get past rejection is simple and yet difficult.

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