Totally irritated!  

justlovemaking 56F
24 posts
12/11/2005 1:22 pm

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4/6/2006 6:42 am

Totally irritated!

If one more married man sends me an e-mail, I swear I will hunt you down, buy your wife a gun and let her take care of you - on me. Better yet, maybe I'll just give her the name of a really good lawyer - along with copies of the e-mails I receive.

Can't you jerks read? The very first line in my profile under what I'm looking for states:


Now, last I checked there is no room for interpretation of that statement.

I am so pissed off right now I can't stand it. If you don't want to be married and monogamous, get a divorce and THEN look for something else. Do not write me a note telling me how miserable you are. I DON'T CARE!!!

When I got sick of my husband, I left him. I would suggest that you A$$HOLES do the same.

sexysililoquist 48F

12/11/2005 2:17 pm

I must agree with you. I have faced this problem and still do. I just delete them w/o giving them time of day or response.

Good luck.

trustno01 55M  
2364 posts
12/11/2005 2:23 pm

The problem is that people on here just don't care. They see a picture with a great body like yours and send an email anyway. I agree with sexysilioquist, just delete them and move on. The more you pay attention to them the more they are going to bother you.

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12/11/2005 3:13 pm


Kutka69 49F

12/11/2005 3:16 pm

It is a familiar refrain...I still love her, not happy, looking for something advice is the same as yours if your not happy either go to the curb or kick her to the can't expect us to believe you still love her but want to sleep with someone else...what you love is the security, the housecleaner, the good old standby who is and has been there when you needed her. You're being selfish, acting like a child, grow up, be a man, do what needs to be done...face the music...if you've made a mistake or things have changed fix it...don't look elsewhere it won't change your home life in fact will make it worse.

kats60 56F

12/11/2005 3:58 pm

i agree, i put it on my profile too! terrible thing is they can lie about being single, it happened to me on here, they had it wrote out they were , i believed him, well he wasnt single, his wife found out, shes been really nice to me, but i felt so bad!...kat

justlovemaking 56F
3 posts
12/11/2005 4:33 pm

Thanks SS.

Sorceror07 54M

12/11/2005 5:05 pm

i averted such a problem by putting into my profile the following:

"No marrieds please as I do not need the drama and ethical trauma. Not to mention I like the shape of my nose the way it is and though being the backdoor man has it's "charms", falling out a window while pulling my jeans back on and into a garbage can does not."

fortunately women seem to know how to READ much better than the men do so i haven't had that problem. don't let the neanderthals get you down, those exhibiting bad behavior should be ignored: give to them what they deserve... ignore them.

...That which does not kill me merely pisses me off!...

AughtMusedSpill 48M

12/11/2005 5:25 pm

Wow GentleTool...that nick is more true than you probably know.

Anyway, I'm sure you can handle your business in your own blog, and I agree with you. I don't understand how a person can read your profile, ignore it, and think that you will talk to them anyway. It's absolutely amazing.

Baltimorebiker13 50M
12 posts
12/11/2005 6:06 pm

Well, I'm not married, does that count for anything??

FriendlybutKinky 49M

12/11/2005 7:06 pm

Phew...I hope you are feeling better now that you got that off your chest...

I hope you can get back to focusing on the positive and letting all that frustration and anger drift away.

Good luck with that...

justlovemaking 56F
3 posts
12/13/2005 5:57 am

Yes, FBK, getting things off my chest is a good thing. I felt better right after I wrote it! That's kind of the point of the blog, right? Thanks to all who commiserated!

rm_albabe2000 61M
1 post
12/21/2005 2:17 pm

So where do I fit in?

Things where not good at home yes there are still feelings but I moved out....

So yes I am married but we are separated and working through the steps. I tend not to respond to the profiles that want to exclude married men but in my case you may be missing something.

I still will not say that I am single but I am not married. If it where just my wife I would bbbbe gone but I am trying to make it easier on my 5 year old girl. So ladies how should i present my self?


rhett-007 61M

12/26/2005 5:14 am

Yes, the people on this site should respect your wishes, as with anything in life. However, no offesne to anyone on this site, it is a SEX site. We all have seen the extreme nature of this site, from the postings to the pictures. When any of us signed up for this site, we knew going in what it is / was all about. Let's face it, women get 100 to 1 responses to the men, and as anything (especially this site), take it as it is...entertainment. You have the prerogative to delete any message as soon as it pops up, do so and move on. No one makes you read the "married" ones. You have made your point, now enjoy why you signed up. Ciao

rm_ydivad 60M
2 posts
12/26/2005 2:27 pm

I can understand your irritation. But, perhaps, if you would respond to more of us nice, unmarried guys that spend the time to compose a personal note (as opposed to a form letter (and women wonder why so many guys send form letters....)), you might be able to cancel your AdultFriendFinder membership and remove yourself from the line of fire?

rm_HotRedRod4U 58M
2 posts
1/16/2006 3:11 pm

COuldn't agree more. Why do married men use this site to cheat on their wives? Do they actually find women that don't care about that? Where does that whole thing go? Frankly - you have a right to be pissed off. Those guys need to get a life and stop whining about their bad choices - and move on or move out. Who the hell wants to hear that bullshit in a note?? Go get'm girl!

mrhorny10incher3 55M
2 posts
2/7/2006 3:51 pm

i almost didnt reply sounds like you d0nt like men aney more 15 years happly divorced if you would like to chat iam at AdultFriendFinder hope to hear from you soon.

realdeal126 55M
1 post
2/7/2006 4:08 pm

I totally agree with you JLM. I don't know the statistics but I have no doubt married men cheat more then women, and let's not forget that women cheat also. I dated a married woman briefly when I was in my 20's and found it was NOT for me! What married people do is not my business or for my judgement. However, "they" could have some self respect and be honest about their infidelity!!!!!

NoLongerHere 55M

2/7/2006 8:33 pm

Or perhaps they are polyamorous, and not cheating at all. If I were to be approached by anyone in a relationship, I would make sure that all parties to the relationship were OK with it before continuing.

I understand that may not be your thing, and I respect that, the same way I respect but don't indulge people who are into BDSM or other kink play that I don't like. I definitely agree that people should be honest, respectful, and true to the boundaries of any relationship they are a part of.

librachristmas 64M

2/14/2006 4:11 pm

Well I was interested in the Social Philosopher but being a social philosopher myself I have become more interested in Philosophizing. So the men have come out squarely against married men looking for women. How politically correct. Always on the prowl. I sure that will not alienate anyone and seduce a few.

But.... butts is the concern over the wife who is deprived of a chance to work out the problems in a marriage because a man chooses to do things that emotionally alienate him further from his wife (women do the same) or............ a desire to avoid competition.

What if it is an open marriage would that change anything. For the guys who sanctamoniously decry infidelity a resounding YES! Sex without committment Seventh Heaven. For women NO! I want to be the center of the man's world. At least while I am in the relationship.

One way or another both sexes are acting out of their own self interests. So let us take the self righteousness out of the dialectic. A married man (or women) who cheats does so because he also believes it is in his own self interest.

Oh so you are married? You scream. Nope. Can't blow me off that way. Just a bit of social philosophizing. It is what we do.

lookn4it2006 67M
1 post
3/12/2006 8:09 pm

If I were married I would not be on this site anyhow!!!!! But the people that are, it is a respect thing, they don't respect there partners or themselves and they damn sure don't respect you!!! So tell them to F=== Off!!!!

rm_Gawain2004 62M

4/9/2006 6:04 am

Personally, I think it would be great if it were possible to limit access to one's profile. On other sites I have used, it's possible to keep anyone identifying himself/herself as married, bi, bi-curious, etc from accessing ayour profile by designating who you want to see it. Of course, that doesn't eliminate the liars, but it's a start.


newtothis702207 55F

6/17/2006 10:06 am

JustLoveMaking -- same problem here! Check out what I wrote in my profile. It's pathetic, really. If they want to fuck around, so be it. BUT, I refuse to be involved and these guys need to respect that. Just because we're here, does not mean we don't deserve respect!


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