Something simple  

jst4fun915 34F
420 posts
6/22/2006 5:22 pm

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Something simple

It's funny how a simple comment can change how you look at someone, and your relationship with them. (And I mean this in a general way, regardless of the type of relationship) Perhaps it was something just off the cuff, or maybe it was taken the wrong way, but still, it changes things. Sorry to be so vague, I've got quite a bit on my mind lately, and haven't really worked through all of the thoughts yet.

8321 posts
6/22/2006 5:54 pm

The comment wasn't what changed the relationship.

It was the thinking behind the comment that did.

The change was already there, you just hadn't become aware of it yet.


"My every move is a calculated step, to bring me closer to embrace an early death." -Tupac Shakur

eveready06 41M

6/22/2006 6:26 pm

Sometimes maybe you should give people the benefit of the doubt if it was a comment out of character for them. Give them a second chance. Its hard to judge someone on one off the cuff remark!

maverick1255 51M
3953 posts
6/22/2006 6:51 pm

Hummm.... interesting thought.

Get back to us with more.


rm_joga1983 33M
7 posts
6/22/2006 8:05 pm

i wish i could just show pics of myself and then leave a comment without getting seen by others...

jst4fun915 34F

6/22/2006 8:08 pm

Very interesting way to look at it. Of course, in this particular situation it hasn't just changed the relationship with the person who MADE the comment, but it had a ripple effect, and in general has managed to screw with my head a bit.

rm_Pebcac80 42M
104 posts
6/23/2006 7:09 am

Sometimes you just have to sit back and assess a situation and take it apart.

My example:

* What did they mean by it?
* How do I interpret it?
* Do I agree or disagree with what they meant?
* If I agree, does it mean I need to take action on something?
* If I disagree, does it mean I need to better explain why I disagree?
* Is this something that can be resolved through communication?
* Is this something that cannot be resolved through communication but requires action.

And then the big one:

* Is the "price" of the action that I would be required to commit to satisfy the issue behind the comment worth it to me, or is the "price" too high?

And of course, this may be totally unrelated, but this is a good way to kind of go through an issue about something.

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