Never ask a question....  

jst4fun915 34F
420 posts
4/13/2006 10:23 am

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4/14/2006 9:37 am

Never ask a question....


That you don't want the answer to. I've stopped playing nice, and if I let you down easy, and you press me for the reason, I'm giving it to you. I hope I didn't just break some dude's heart, but a simple "I don't think the chemistry is there" didn't suffice. He seems like a nice guy (probably TOO nice for my taste), but not my type at all. See? Now I'm all feeling shitty, because I had to pull a bitch card. Boys... take a "no" at face value, we know you have fragile egos, but we'll get sick of coddling them.

rm_Tanis0525 49M

4/13/2006 1:13 pm

i prefer to be told straight out if someone isn't interested than beating around the bush.


jst4fun915 34F

4/13/2006 9:05 pm

So, you mean you'd rather someone tell you she's not interested becase you are unattractive and not so intelligent, rather than say "Um, thanks, but I'm just not thinking we would make a match.'? Because, basically, that's what this came down to, and I've been feeling like I just kicked this dude in the nuts, when I was really just trying to be nice and let him down easy.


rm_Tanis0525 49M

4/14/2006 3:48 am

Well would like it to be I don't think we are a match, but I can take hint when they say that they mean they don't find me attractive to them which is cool. But if after you tell them thanks but no thanks I you aren't my type and they continue to bug you then come out and tell them off is perfectly fine. My wife gets pounded with emails from old men like 50's and 60's at times and she doesn't like them much older than me.


jst4fun915 34F

4/14/2006 9:37 am

Tanis, I had a hell of a time getting it through one guy's head that he was almost old enough to be my grandfather and that GROSSES ME OUT. He continued to send emails and shit after I blatantly told him not just no, but HELLLLLLLL NO. Ew. So, for a first "turn down", one usually gets my sweet, polite reply. For a second or third I get bitchy.


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