First date/first meeting  

jst4fun915 34F
420 posts
6/19/2006 11:35 am

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First date/first meeting


So, I was thinking about various "dates" I've been on, and first meetings with people. Meeting people off the internet can obviously be risky, but I've been very lucky to have met some really great people. So, what's your "first date" MO? Do you always meet at a neutral location, do you always plan a certain evening, etc.

Since this is supposed to be chronicles of my open marriage, I suppose it's only fair that I share some of my experiences. Starting early on, DreamCars almost stood me up on our first date, we had agreed to go to the local bars, and evening rolls around, and I still haven't heard from him. I don't have his number (actually, I STILL don't and never have, he's strange like that) so I'm waiting for him to call. He finally calls around the time we had agreed to meet, apologizing because he was stuck at work, and whatever. We decide to still go out, and had a decent time at a sports bar downtown. Pretty uneventful, other than someone trying to hit on me while he was up getting us another round. That only sticks out because the guy was so NOT slick, he came to the table, sat down, gave me some lame line, and I told him I was on a date, and my date was on his way back to the table. He goes "Ok, we're old friends, I was just saying Hi!!", waits for DreamCars to get within earshot, shakes my hand, and says "Oh, nice seeing you again!!" Yeah... SMOOTH!

The first time I met D it was spur of the moment. We'd chatted a few times, and I was bored out of my mind, so I put "BOOORRRRRREEEEEEEEDDDDDDD!" as my status message on messenger. He IMs me, tells me he has a bar at his house, and some friends are over drinking, and invites me out. I knew almost nothing about him, but felt comfortable enough to go, gave my husband the address I was going to, and stuck my knife in my pocket. Hey, I'm not stupid, I wasn't going to walk into a house full of people I don't know unprepared! Of course, D was on the phone when I arrived, so I met everyone else before I even laid eyes on him, and the shots that flowed led me to being drunk on the couch, D trying to get me to eat something, and Challenge making sure I stayed awake. I have to give it to Challenge, he took much better care of me than D, and later told me he didn't know how I didn't know he was interested in me, he'd made it clear that night. Well, the obvious answer is I was DRUNK, and drunk people don't get subtle hints. I've already written about how the rest of that drama played out, go back to the archives if you are interested.

Deacon and I had exchanged some emails and IMs for a while, before he invited me over for dinner. He pulled a total Tucker Max move, I showed up at his place, and was greeted at the door with a glass of wine, while he was cooking. I say this is totally a TM move, because later, when reading TM's book, he talks about doing the exact same thing, and how it's perfect for impressing a girl. You get to make small talk, show off your cooking skills, and drink some wine, takes the pressure off. He even showed me how to make pesto, made a beautiful dinner, it was very well played.

Finally, Jersey is going to kill me when he reads this (Don't be mad, darlin'... if I didn't have a blast we wouldn't see so much of each other!!), but I don't really remember what we did on our first "date". I do know that the first time we talked via messenger, it was for FOUR hours. Now that I've seen where his laptop is, I know that must have been a huge sacrifice to his comfort, but we had an awesome conversation, and after that I felt like I'd known him forever. I'm PRETTY sure our first night out was just like every weekend, we probably went to the bar where his friends hang out. I know I met him at his apartment, and he had obviously cleaned his bachelor pad in preparation for me coming over. Either way, it went well, considering we've hung out every weekend since, and I adore his friends.

So, any particularly memorable stories to share? Any particularly HORRIBLE dates? Spill!!

horny4dp73 44M/43F

6/19/2006 12:30 pm

You rawk, sista! I have only met 2 guys from an online anything, the second guy, I married. At the time I was looking for dates as a prelude to a relationship. We chatted on MSN, spoke on the phone and had yet to meet in person. Finally, when I mustered up the nerve, I met him while he was house sitting for his brother. He was shorter than I expected but he had an ass that wouldn't quit. We watched movies and played with his dog (perhaps this was an icebreaker move... smart on his part. I love dogs). Then as the night progressed and approached dawn, he totally started making the lame moves, such as groping my ass while we were kissing, coping a feel on "th'girls" but hey. I got his message loud and clear. Still feeling like I should NOT fuck this guy on the first date (let alone first MEETING) I tried to shrug it off but he had me too hot. Finally, we went to the spare room and he played nice. He was such a great kisser and then I decided I should leave. Upon putting on my jacket and hand on the door knob, he explained what I would be missing out on in great detail; a pussy licking of a lifetime. I had to wonder if he was for real or not. There is one thing that will always peak my curiousity is a guy who says he's sure he's not the best, but he's had no complaints. He went back to the bedroom and left me with my hand still on the doorknob. I thought I would regret what I was about to do, but curiousity got me AGAIN!!!!
That guy sucked the life out of me and left a permagrin on this little girl's face!!! I didn't get into a relationship, but what I got from him was better!!! The sex with him was so hot, I still want to call his hot ass up for another round. We met after that many times, but on the third or fourth "date" we finally had sex. Before that, we only oralled on each other. He left the sex part up to me. I couldn't take it anymore. When I told him to screw the be-jesus out of me, he WOULDN'T. He made me wait until our next "date".
I still think about this guy and peek in to look for his car if I happen to drive by (Nooo I'm not a stalker... ha ha ha). I broke it off when things got serious with my now husband.
I will NEVER forget his fine, FINE hockey-player ass... ahhhhhhh


jst4fun915 34F

6/19/2006 2:27 pm

That is definitely a hot story!!


rm_firegle 38M

6/19/2006 5:29 pm

No hot sizzle but a big fizzel, when asked most people on line that chat and hook up are normally what you expect but then there is the occisonal one you'd rather have stood up. All I have to say when useing chat, im or a service like this is make sure the picture is worth a thousand bucks and not a thousand words to beef things up and to prettify them picture. Chat in Seattle has its ups and way big downs, as most can see my pics are very much of me from the waist up because I feel if to meet the gal I'm meeting knows what I look like and I normally have some clue but not a real defined idea, that way if she starts to get a bad feeling or something she can turn away even if shes at the "meeting place"; and yes it has happen that she has turned away and when i asked her next time on chat she said she just didn't feel good about the place, and I figured that she had seen me and saw I had no fashion sence or something but regardless my only thing is just match the picture before you meet alwasy a lot better idea.


rm_Tanis0525 49M

6/19/2006 9:29 pm

I've had some good ones and a few bad ones, the good ones I still continue to see when time permits, but I try to talk to them everyday. The ones that went bad where only cause they never sent me a fully body picture of them before we met or if they did found out later that it was them but about 5 years ago or 50 lbs ago.


rm_Pebcac80 42M
104 posts
6/20/2006 9:48 pm

Also in a poly relationship. I think I've told you privately one of the worst stories to my SO. But here's one that happened on my end that I consider "worst". Girl comes over, hangs out, explains how open and cool everything is. This is someone I had known through a client and I had always interpretted as a hippy, but still shockingly smart and very attractive.

So, we're sitting around after a dinner at Longbranch and she whips out -drugs-. Not necessarily the kind that I would be "OK" with but a bit of the more hard "bump" variety.

It immediatley ended the evening. In fact, I kind of wished I had never let her know where I lived. Creeped me out for a while. We've spoken a few times since then, never kept real touch, just ran into each other. But, uh, yeah. That was both weird and creepy in a Pulp Fiction kind of way.


jst4fun915 34F

6/20/2006 11:13 pm

    Quoting rm_Pebcac80:
    Also in a poly relationship. I think I've told you privately one of the worst stories to my SO. But here's one that happened on my end that I consider "worst". Girl comes over, hangs out, explains how open and cool everything is. This is someone I had known through a client and I had always interpretted as a hippy, but still shockingly smart and very attractive.

    So, we're sitting around after a dinner at Longbranch and she whips out -drugs-. Not necessarily the kind that I would be "OK" with but a bit of the more hard "bump" variety.

    It immediatley ended the evening. In fact, I kind of wished I had never let her know where I lived. Creeped me out for a while. We've spoken a few times since then, never kept real touch, just ran into each other. But, uh, yeah. That was both weird and creepy in a Pulp Fiction kind of way.
Ok, I think that wins, because while I've done my fair share of drugs in my life, I can't imagine being all non-chalant about something like that on a first meeting. I mean, to each his/her own, but that's just not cool!!


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