Sex on the Today Show  

jrb6955 58M
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8/11/2006 7:37 am

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8/11/2006 8:47 am

Sex on the Today Show

The Today show just ran a segment on sex in relationships. Unfortunately, I did not catch the entire segment and missed the names of the "experts" who were being interviewed in the piece. But what caught my attention were the following points:

1. Men and Women, on average, desire sex about equally (I think the number they threw out was 3 to 4 times a week - personally, I would like it at least once a day). The problem according to the experts is that there are seven days in the week and tension arises in a relationship when each partner's desire for sex does not match the other's (which makes sense).

2. Their surveys indicate that men would like women to take the initiative more when it comes to sex.

3. Men frequently miss the signals women give that they are interested in sex, which explains number 2, above.

I can really relate to points 2 and 3. I know that I have likely missed the signals women have given me over the years that they are interested (not just in sex, but also in having a relationship). While the reverse may be true (women not picking up on the right signals from men), I suspect that this is gender based. Men may simply not be as adept at reading body language as are women. Hence the desire among many men for women to be more direct and assertive when it comes to sex. I know that this is what induced me to join a site such as this, where the women do appear to be more assertive and direct. Keep in mind that assertive and direct does not mean the same thing as controlling, domineering and/or bossy.

Does anyone out there have any opinions or experiences on this topic. Let me hear from you.

TheRealThing655 48F
9558 posts
8/11/2006 8:21 am

I've always found dynamics between men and women so interesting. It does appear that men do like confident and assertive women, when it comes to sex....but there is also a line there as well.
Sometimes I think that the double standard will always exist for women...but I do enjoy this place as a forum that both men and women can discuss these things openly.

jrb6955 replies on 8/11/2006 8:47 am:
Yes, there is a fine line between being assertive and being domineering. I, like I suspect most men, like women to be assertive and confident, but do not desire to be nagged, henpecked or p***ywhipped. That is what I like about the various forums on this site. You get to meet some very lovely women, who are assertive and confident, without necessarily being b****y.

Unfortunately, double standards exist everywhere, not just between men and women.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts on the subject.

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