Prefer Not To Say?  

jojo4u1959 57F
7 posts
8/19/2006 11:17 pm

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9/13/2006 6:24 pm

Prefer Not To Say?

It seems to interesting to me that this stock answer is often used in peoples profiles. When we all know that when they list it-it means YES! So why do people hide behind this stock answer? If your married or attached then say it. "prefer not to say" only tells us that your lieing about something or cant admit the truth. So if your lieing from the start what really makes you think your going to find anything honest in what someone has to say to you? Deal with it and write the truth for goodness sakes! I would much rather have someone tell me the truth then to lie about it. The question is sexual orientation and people write prefer not to say. Thus you are telling me your not straight. So again, why lie, tell the truth.

A little honesty goes a long way in my book-very long way. Try it sometime and see who responds and how they respond, it just might surprise you... If you cant be honest why open your mouth and speak? Your wasting everyones time when you do that, yours and mine.

rm_ShineOnU2 54M
125 posts
8/20/2006 12:14 am

I couldn't agree with you more, however something that rides right along with that, is the fact that 80% of the women's "profiles" (I can only speak to the womens, sorry) that I look at are incomplete. You all know who you are too! We are all basically "Window Shopping" here, and it's pretty hard to "Window Shop" when you're too freakin' lazy to put anything in your damned window. You know if that's all the energy that you are willing to put into this place, then that's all you're gonna get out of it. Then, when you cry, look in the mirror. Hey if being "Average" is good enough for you, then stay that way, if it's not, go the extra mile and do it right, because to leave it incomplete is Bullshit...plain and simple.

drivinthrough 61M

8/20/2006 12:31 am

I marked prefer not to say in the married, and yes I am married if thats what you want to call it. We do have a piece of paper that we both signed. if that makes a marrage then Yes I am married and will be for the next 6+ years. If you call a marrage a loving relationship then no I'm not married, two years ago she called it quits, I finally gave up last month. we aren't officially ending it for the sake of my granddaughter who we've been raising since birth. So you decide am I or am I not married?

If you want ot know the truth ask the question.

cairnsmale55 105M

8/20/2006 1:10 am

I have to agree with ShineOnU2 sometimes people are just window shopping and adding only the barest details needed to get a profile up and running… On the other hand sometimes the drop down menu options are not quite what you need so you select the closest or the ‘prefer not to say’ one, either way it not right and you are then seen as telling untruths.

But you are right jojo4u1959, honesty always pays in the end and while you might miss out on a few replies, winks and contacts, in the end, you will benefit from the truth and make contact with genuine people.

VATraveler1948 68M

8/26/2006 10:16 am

Just stopped to leave a comment. I was browsing through local blogs today. Hope you continue to write in yolur blog.

You are right, truthfulness is important. There is far too much crap here, it's hard to know what to believe.

jojo4u1959 57F

9/13/2006 6:24 pm

Thank you-I agree fully. If you havent the time to answer some simple questions how is anyone gonna take you seriously period.

rm_talljan1974 42
5 posts
9/14/2006 7:06 pm

I do have one alternative point that I think has merit on the question. I know that many times on some of the questions, I've used prefer not to say because the answer wasn't as simple as something from a drop down list. Either because I didn't know or without a dynamic space to enter an answer, I couldn't. So, I made sure to say somewhere in my profile to ask me about any questions with such an answer for an explanation, if desired. For instance, the questions on this and that being average, etc. What is average? 10 years ago, average was something else. How do I know I still am? Or above and below?

Or as for sexual orientation, someone may prefer one, but, because they have had sex with someone of the same gender, they may not consider themselves bisexual. And others would consider them that because they had had sex with the same sex. Does bisexual mean having had sex with both genders or preferring to seek partners of both? And what if one prefers the opposite, but will have sex with the same, yet does not seek out the same? i.e. if approached, they'd probably say yes. There's not that answer in the drop down list.

Anyway, my 2 cents worth. Hope people got something stimulating, or at least interesting LOL out of it. And, we now return you to our regularly scheduled line up of informercials and reality programming.

MovingOn001 61M
900 posts
9/21/2006 8:58 pm

I agree that they may not always have the answer that describes one's situations in the little pop down menus or a way to fill in the right answer there. I can see 1, maybe 2 "Prefer not to say" answers, but anymore than that, I don't even bother contacting them because I figure most of those are fake ads just trying to get your email address to send you spam. If they ask for your email address or any other kind of outside way of contacting you in their profile, you can almost be assured it's an email address mining operation.

Personally, I think AdultFriendFinder should not even approve those profiles unless they are filled out fairly completely, and should definitely reject the profiles asking for members' email addresses as that is a direct violation of AdultFriendFinder's Terms of Service.

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