Fosters Beer, Brits and Battle vets...  

jim5131 55M
529 posts
10/28/2005 11:11 pm

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Fosters Beer, Brits and Battle vets...

I wonder sometime if I should post stuff like this....

Friday was work-all-day at the office. Called Gypsy to see if she was okay and talked for for a while...not long enough. She is such a sweetheart. Problems. Kind words of encouragement. Whatever I can do....

Minor blogging in the morning.

Worked all day...buddy Larry calls at 3pm.. "let's get some beer and Mexican food".

Umm. Gee. Okay. Eat. Drink. Be mariachi.

Back to work. Son2 is at the high school football game and promised to keep me informed. We are ranked #10 in state, playing #16 in state. Big game, to say the least....Former Mrs is there to keep tabs as well...

Where am I? I am working until late at night.

Son2 calls. 16-10 at the half. Losing. Still ok..

Buddy Larry calls. His 6-man football team got crushed and he's on his way to the nearby pub...can I drink a Guinness? No. Fosters, maybe.

I arm myself with two Bud Lites before heading out. This might be one of those nights.

I call Gypsy at 9pm and wake her up. I'm so sorry. She'll call tomorrow. Promise.

Son2 calls...We're down 27-21 with 10 minutes in the 4th.

Cool. Go Lions.

I meet Larry at the pub. He is into his 2nd pint. Met with Ian, a rugby buddy and a guy I never met before, Eddie.

We are drinking Fosters..Ian and Larry the Whatever Speckled Hen Ale. Eddie has shepherd's pie and Heineken. We start talking about rugby: South Africans, New Zealanders, Aussies, Brits and wannabe American clubs. Then soccer. Then cars: the guys are into Lolas and Ferraris. Sorry, I'm a Porsche guy. Must be the German in me..we argue good-heartedly about trivialities.

Larry and Ian start on Monty Python movies. Whatever.

Eddie and I start talking: he is former British SAS. Falklands vet. Desert Storm vet. Bosnian vet. Now we're talking. We talk of foreign ports. Killing stuff. Sad stuff. Funny stuff. Serious stuff. Bad stuff. Stuff nobody else can understand. Connection.

We completely understand each other the way only combat vets can. Things civilains cannot possibly understand. They have nothing to compare it to...maybe cops, a little. Maybe EMTs, a little. Like nothing else in this world. We drink a few more beers.

Son2 calls. We won 34-31 in a thrilling battle. Cool. Where am I? In a pub. Reliving a time when I was in my element. Funny...Eddie and I..we talk about being able to focus completely in a time of complete chaos. And after all that..everything else is boring.

Makes me want to go back to that life.

A few years ago I took my boys to New Orleans. They had never been to the city in their life and were amazed because they never knew about my being there...I knew people there..places to go..things to see. They couldn't conceive of their Dad having a life outside or before them. They always knew I was different from their buddies' Dads. They just didn't know what or how.

Maybe it was a post on five_speed's blog this morning that got me started.

There are things I want to keep away from those that I don't want to know. There are things I want others to know, so long as they don't know me...well. There are things I don't want those close to me to know...forever. The boys don't need to know what I'm like when I'm in my element. I want them to remember me as I am: A cool Dad. A good guy. A gentle heart. A past they know little about.

We parted uneasily at midnight. Ian and Eddie.

Two Brits.

Too much information.

rm_saintlianna 45F
15466 posts
10/30/2005 12:14 pm

Guiness? Rugby? Ian? Are you from England? Sorry, the "meds" are kicking in.

_CoffeeNoCream_ 52F

10/31/2005 12:02 am

yes you should post stuff like this....
I like to read about personal rl things

liefs CnC

papyrina 51F
21133 posts
10/31/2005 6:10 am

agrees with coffee

secrets from kids is ok to a certain degree but as they become men ,there is no reason to keep all your past secret,let out bits as they get older so they can see the man you are and how you became the great dad and cool guy,

I'm a

i'm here to stay

jim5131 55M
1296 posts
10/31/2005 9:33 am

Thanks CnC...this little trigger only hits once in a while..usually I'm a 'normal' guy...

...still, to quote Popeye.."I yam who I yam.."

kyplowboy22 61M

10/31/2005 5:21 pm

I'm with you Jim, some things are better left unsaid. Everybody that needs to know about it was either there or is dead. Sometimes it's a cross to bear to bear tho, ain't it? Thanks for the visit over on my blog, hope to see you again. Later


rm_luke69iner 48M
3275 posts
11/1/2005 4:23 am

If it's possible I agree with Papy and KPB

You know which parts you will probably never be able to share

S'io credesse che mia risposta fosse
A persona che mai tornasse al mondo,
Questa fiamma staria senza piu scosse.
Ma perciocche giammai di questo fondo
Non torno vivo alcun, s'i'odo il vero,
Senza tema d'infamia ti rispondo

jim5131 55M
1296 posts
11/1/2005 7:21 am

Good morning y'all...

Hi Saint...I played a little rugby in the Corps and went to some Aussie matches overseas. Had to buy a round of drinks to a barful of British Royal Marines in Dubai..just to keep them from kicking my ass..we wound up making good friends that day.

Hi Papy..there are some things you really don't want your kids to know about you...the ugly side of real life...and I've always wanted my kids to know that there is a little (or a lot) of that out there. I would be doing a disservice in not preparing them for the bad as well as the good. But ME...there are some things I don't want them to know about. I feel like I can tell y'all things that I never could tell my wife...there's a certain anonymity that feels safe..she couldn't relate to it anyway, so why bother?

Hi Plowboy..I got a lot out of your blog and I'll be back again. Sounds as though you and I are closer than I had originally thought.

Hey Luke..hope all turned out okay the other day. Thanxx for stopping by. I'm fairly selective in telling some things to 'close' people...I'm better at opening up to 'further' people.

I yam who I yam...

five_speed 41M

11/1/2005 2:27 pm

hey man. I's sorry for stirring up crap in your head, if I did. i wasn't my intention. I'm by here a little bit late. It seems like you're doing ok. I'm still sorry though!

jim5131 55M
1296 posts
11/1/2005 6:57 pm

hey 5' worries, didn't stir up anything in my head. I go thru these moods. I'm sure you know exactly what I'm talking about...

rm_sexypinay16 44F
311 posts
11/3/2005 4:10 am

Ugly side...bad side...beautiful side...are all part of you. And Im sure when youre kids are old enough to understand those things. And its also healthy for them to know that people are not perfect even their dad, its a way of loving and accepting people esp our love ones for who they are. But the decision is still yours, Dad knows best . You are a great dad..dont worry your kids will accept you for who you are.


Love..Faith ..and Hope..

your_gypsy 51F

11/4/2005 9:16 pm

gee thanks jim for telling everyone i go to bed at 9 p.m. i have an image to keep up too yanow...

if i were into those testimonials, i would say this is a real man, and leave it at that...

i want it left to everyone who knows what a real man is to fill in the blanks. jim is it.

jim5131 55M
1296 posts
11/4/2005 11:13 pm

Thank You, Gyspy...(sorry to let the cat out of the sleeping bag)

You are a real friend and I am honored with your remarks...

Notfunanymore 105F
10289 posts
2/13/2008 3:24 pm

Checked out this post too.....
~ I've no friends out here, meaning in Austin, TX, anymore because of what my family means to me....... I don't need that drama, I need my family strong.

I can honestly say, my family and friends from here that I talk to a bunch, keep me in the social circle of life. I don't mind, I'd rather be at peace.

jim5131 55M
1296 posts
2/13/2008 8:44 pm

Hi Alene...good to see you here. This is an old blog post, but you're welcome.

I understand how important family is to you...and a peaceful family is one that loves each other. A good goal to work toward...

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