In your opinion what makes a women sensual or a slut?  

jessica362435 32F
162 posts
4/3/2005 11:30 pm

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In your opinion what makes a women sensual or a slut?


I just got back from spring break and I was out with some of my friends and we a conversation about women and what makes them considered a slut or a sensual, sexy women and I would love to hear from you guys what in your opinion makes a gal a slut or a sensual, sexy women.

rm_Belswingcpl 38M/41F

4/4/2005 8:52 pm

Well I guess I will be the first one to answer this one.

To me being sensual is enjoying the act of love making, that is the best way I can put it. enjoying the feel of the soft skin touching each other. The kisses lingering on the lips or neck. The feel of tongue dancing against tongue. The sounds of pleasure coming from the partner. If you enjoy that then you are a sensualist or at the very least enjoy the sensual side of sex.

To me a slut is someone, male or female, who just has sex to have sex, who doesn’t enjoy it at all and just does it for one reason. They have such a low and degrading inner picture of themselves that they believe the only way to interact with the opposite or even same sex is to have er sex with them. they believe they are either so ugly, stupid, or worthless that the only time someone will be friends with them is if they have sex. To me that is a slut, low internal opinion of their worth and just has sex to prove to others they aren’t worthless.

A person can still be a sensual lover and have sex with anyone and everyone but it is the reason behind the sex. It is used to make them feel worthwhile or is it done to enjoy the actual act.


manupforall 58M

4/4/2005 9:03 pm

A woman throwing her self at anyone and everyone in public and being overly blatent about it is rather unbecoming. In the right situation it is fine but there is a time and place.

A woman who knows she is Hot, knows what she wants and who she wants it from and with and takes action to get it is sensual.

I like to reserve the word 'slut' for a woman or a man playing a sub slut role and it is then a title and position of honor and respect. After all she must accept everything and do everything she can to make everyone who wishes to enjoy her, as happy as she can. This is usually the hardest and most important job at a great party and is not for a wimp or someone who doesn't care.


Nakedlovers69 57M/38F

4/5/2005 10:06 am

The beauty of being a woman is that you can portray yourself in either persona. If you feel very horny on a given evening, but do not feel like any of the normal courting rituals, you could put on your most suggestive outfit (or even short shorts, a halter top, and fuck me pumps) go to a popular bar, and leave with the guy of your choice whenever you like.

This is what guy’s typically call being a slut. Personally I think of it as a power unique to women, and the reason guy’s sneer at it is that they are not capable of doing that very thing. Women look askance at it because it is very risky.

Now you have left the bar with a complete stranger, and it looks like you are just out (as one of the pervious gentlemen said) to have sex for sex sake. Though I agree this is the mission, I do not agree that you (or any woman) would not be doing it for pleasure.

You are in control at this point. He may decide that since he did not have to work to get into your pants, he can fuck you till he cum’s and get back to the bar before happy hour is over, leaving you steamy and unsatisfied, unhappy with the experience. The solution is of course not to loose the initiative. You’ve picked this guy up for your pleasure, use him for it.

Now if you feel more like a long seduction, you want to be perceived as a sensual, sexy woman, you can go out with all the same ingredients as above but you have a different mission. To be sensual is to be pleasing to all the senses. To please all the senses, requires slow stimulation. Just as you might wolf down a meal from McDonald’s, but savor every bite from a fine restaurant, an evening spent out can be either one of voracious quenching of your appetite, or the slow pleasure of many exquisite flavors consumed with delicate caring.


jessica362435 32F
13 posts
4/5/2005 7:23 pm

Thats what me and some of my other girlfriends talk exactly about. I totally agree with Nakedlovers opinion it echos my thoughts exactly, while some of my other girlfriends feel that being to sexy out and about is perceived by some men as being a total slut.


EvilMuppet69 37M
89 posts
4/19/2005 4:35 am

I don't think any women are sluts. Its a term used by ignorant men for a woman who enjoys sex.


GentlemanLeisure 54M
192 posts
4/23/2005 1:14 am

yup, Naked Lovers seems to have encapsulated this perennial question.
You're also aware that the term, "slut" has been reclaimed as a positive phrase and not perjorative, by the polyamorous community?
Go forth and multiply..... sensually & sluttishly!


womally 43M
21 posts
4/26/2005 8:08 am

all women are sexy and sensual...its knowing this and using it for personal gain that makes them sluts


rm_pontiusVII 40M

5/7/2005 5:22 pm

like a crack head who has sex just to make money for her crack. you can outrank her tenfold, but if you dont have the money you are nothing to her, she'll walk away before you can ask her for her number.


jessica362435 32F
13 posts
5/10/2005 1:26 am

But what happens when the girl like me enjoy sex? Some people think because I like sex and view it as a healthy thing that people do for pleasure and enjoyment, the thought is that other people will think me a slut or worse. Why is their such a double standard.


dischordrecfan 40M

5/12/2005 10:00 am

Well, this is a tricky one. It all depends on intention. Sensuous and sexy usually denotes a bit of class to them. In other words, the behavior outside the bedroom can definitely define the women as highly sexual, but not so much so that it is looked down upon by sociiety in general. There is a bit more ladylike behavior there. A slut would be someone flaunting their sexuality sans class.

Marilyn Monroe versus a 'hood rat.


rm_hotchkwanted 47M/36F

5/13/2005 10:15 pm

I think well we think being slutty is very much a turn on in fact if you think that it is bad or if it is percieved as bad then you may have a junior high mentality, not sure anyone mature even calls women sluts in a bad way do they? btw you are a hottie and wed love to have you out for drinks!


dogystyle1976 42M

5/16/2005 11:05 am

Slut or sensual? Hmmmm. I'm not really sure what makes a woman a slut or sensual. I find that (like nakedlover said) it is more up to the woman. It all depens on how she feels like portraying herself. But, being a woman, and being able to be either, could be very enpowering. I think certain parts of society still look down on a woman's sexuality. I think it is alot smaller of a part of society than it used to be. If you look around, sex sells everything. I also think if you enjoy sex as a woman there is nothing wrong with that. You can't let the masses decide what you are. If they want to think you are a slut, so be it.
If you want to be true to yourself and enjoy sex the way you want to, then you may enjoy it better being a slut. On the other hand maybe you tend to be a bit more sensual and slow with your preferred sex. Do what feels good to you.
The only problem with being a slut, is when you do it to fill another need. Maybe for attention, or something that lacked in your childhood, or whatever. That is when it is unattractive.
Some women look at you and let you know with their eyes that they are going to fuck you. It depends on what that look is like. Do you consider all of those women sluts? I don't think so. I think sex is natural and instinctive. You can't look down on anyone who is honest with themselves. I always jokingly tell my friends "I have a soft spot in my heart for sluts", most of them laugh. Every now and then somebody ask me "why". It is not because I think they are easier to get in the sack. It is because I respect their honesty about their sexuality. And ususally when you are honest about what you like than you are more likely to be better at it. When you are unihibited that can be slutty or sensual, but can be very attractive.


DDandNessa 62M/59F
140 posts
7/1/2005 12:19 pm

There are damn few sluts out there. How many men are labeled like that? No, THEY are players or hounds or studs. Just because a lady loves sex doesn't make her anything but sexy, sensual and womanly. Sure, if you cheat and lie and fuck anybody...I suppose you'd deserve a negative label. But a lady can love to fuck and still be a lady! As a matter of fact...MY KIND of lady!1


greatestamongem 35M

7/9/2005 1:05 am

I think that the difference between a slut and a girl who simply loves sex is all about connotation. Calling a girl a slut dosn't necessarily make her one, all it means is that whoever is calling her a slut, either dosn't respect her or like her; its derogatory. On the other hand, if a girl is respected or appreciated, she's likely to be thought of as being sexy or sensual. It's all about how she's perceived, rather than the way she acts. It's all about perception. Personally, I think it's in guys best interest to perpetuate the perception of girls having a lot of sex as being a good thing, and throw out calling girls sluts or whores or anything negative. Hey guys! Wouldn't it be a good idea for us to make all girls feel like its ok to be sexual and eliminate the stigma of bad lables? Thanks for the excellent topic Jessica!


rm_liquidluver 51M
33 posts
7/13/2005 4:08 am

Sluts don't care what others think about their sexual habits, and can be found in either gender. Sensuality is personified by a heightened awareness to aural, physical, scentual, and emotional cues which increase the tendency of a person to appreciate themselves, their surroundings, and those precious others they desire to keep close. -liquidluver


MafiaGodfatha 30M

7/19/2005 4:06 am

As Long as a woman is enjoying what she is doing, she shouldnt be deemed a slut, personally come on, guys sleep around all the time and were considered Gods for doing it. As lut is a person who does it just for money or drugs etc. Sensuality is emotion involved with sex. You are excited while sex, thats sensuality your timing it for the money thats slutty


rm_dragon_r 59M
10 posts
7/19/2005 10:58 pm

well.. Slut or sensual well.. The Sluttier.. the More Sensual it is

I would Love to meet a REAL SLUT .. and that would be sensious and the things I could do.. Mmmmmm


greatestamongem 35M

7/20/2005 10:55 pm

Thank you nakedlovers69, that's an interesting way of looking at it, and something that I'm sure, most guys are oblivious to. We men, more often that not, forget how different the perspectives of men and women are, and as such, I believe that branding a girl a 'slut' is highly detremental for both sexes to achive what we're all in one way or another looking for, pleasure and fulfillment. I've most often heard the term slut being used to degrade a girl who HASN'T had sex with a guy, often being the reason that the guy is angry enough to call a girl a name. Much like the use of the term Fag, slut is simply a derogatory word, used most often by immature people simply to degrade another person, which is unfair and hurtful. It's also what I'd call, 'mean' to degrade someoen like that, and after all, Mean People Suck. (nice people swallow......yea yea, we've all seen the bumper sticker.


TheNookster 58M/58F

7/27/2005 6:24 pm

I didn't originate this, I read it somewhere but someone once wrote, "A woman that fucks me is a bitch", I think you could equally substitute slut/whore in there and the meaning would be preserved. Personally, I think they are all terms used by people trying to control other people,
whether it's religious fanatics or jealous boyfriends or girlfriends.


TheNookster 58M/58F

7/27/2005 6:26 pm

Oops, I truncated part of what I wrote in the last post, the quote was supposed to be, "A woman that fucks me is sensual, a woman that fucks someone else is a bitch", but for some reason parts got chopped out.
Personally, I don't like it when I hear terms like slut/bitch/whore used because they are used by people trying to control other people.


rm_NATURAL167 36M

7/30/2005 8:59 am

What makes someone a bitch? A whore? A nag? An Angel? A slut? Someones opinion. Unfortunately there are a lot of stereotypes out there. Slut is just another one that isn't fair to anyone, and is degrading especially to women.


powercouple4u 52M/F
1 post
7/31/2005 1:24 pm

I missed something. What's wrong with being a slut?


Just73Right4U 43M
1 post
8/12/2005 9:37 pm

It's very easy. The age of your company. You really shouldn't(and I know it doesn't quite work that way now, but it will), be all that concerned with what others think when it comes to your intimate side. That is between your and your current partner. But that's just my penny and a half.....


HonedScareOrcin 52M
1 post
8/17/2005 1:48 pm

I have to say I prefer to think of these in a good way and in my mind a woman I can say is "both" is much preferred. Slut might get to the really down and dirty (animal-like) phase of sexuality.


ImMallory 57M
3 posts
8/20/2005 3:30 pm

Sensuous can be just carrying your self as who your really are whether that's tender or raunchy but it's easy to cross the line to cheap (for either sex) Sensuality is more in your air whether dressed or undressed or in between. It can be carrying on in whatever manner your modd drives....slutty might come in to play if you don't much care who you share it with. Confidence is the most sensuous air I can imagine...slutty males and females generally have something missing.


ImMallory 57M
3 posts
8/21/2005 12:23 am

Post 10701
Sensuality is an attitude - it comes with the air of self confidence without arrogance or ego. It's knowing exactly how your body flatters your clothes. Without clothes, it's knowing how to entice.

slutty is gratuitious. Purt a sensuous lady and a slut in the same bra and panties - with the sluts it's how much shows. With the sensuous one it's how little is subtley concealed. Sensuous is more selective than gratuitous. She can say, come share me instead of "let's fuck.


rm_ubercutecpl 39M/36F

8/31/2005 7:19 pm

hope you don't mind my two cents in on this...first of all, there seems to be some confusion regarding the differances between a slut and a whore, a whore charges or has sex for personal gain (dictionary)..so one could extrapulate that a slut doesn't use sex as a tool or a means to achieve money or other..sensuality and sex appeal are mental things, a man or woman who has a great deal of charisma, self confidence and general appeal is and would be sexy and sensual regardless of what they wear or why they wear it...they have what they need to be happy already, they arent trying to find in their bodies what they are lacking in their minds or hearts..often times the reason 'sluts', male or female, go on the prowl is for the instant gratification that comes with sex..personally, i think the difference would lay primarily with standards...anyone who would fuck anyone else is a slut (whether this is a bad thing or not is your own opinion) a person who is empowered by being in control is just simply playing off of their likes or fetishes...i guess my ramblings would end with, "a whore fucks for gain, a sensual person makes love with heart and/or mind, and a slut fucks for the sake of fucking"


jessica362435 32F
13 posts
9/2/2005 1:40 am

I kind of agree with ubercutecple view, but can't a women fuck a guy for the sex for the physical enjoyment and not be label a slut. Or can I say that if I have a high sexual desire for sex not be label as a slut?


Mansuperjr 43M
1 post
9/22/2005 1:50 am

If you ask me there is no such thing as a slut. I think all women are sensual and goergous


rm_wanttoo29 42M

10/12/2005 3:02 am

It's the way a women carries herself. A slut will sleep with you and then go and sleep with your friends. having no class buy she will also sleep with you no matter what you look like ect. just to get a fuck


dracco_25 36M

10/13/2005 9:59 pm

I agree completely with naked lover. She's right. As much as I hate to admit it. But I also agree with the fact that it's the reason behind the sex that also determines between slut and sensual. You can enjoy making love, having sex, and fucking without being a slut. A woman needs to be secure in herself and know she's in control, respect herself. A woman that doesn't understand that and is looking for the approval of others instead of looking at her self worth can be called a slut. Having sex in any form for the sheer pleasure of the act and experience can be called sensual.


rm_zeppyfish 51M

10/23/2005 12:59 am

It's funny, while we're having sex, my partner enjoys being called a slut. It turns her on. I think the word has lost its power to put women down just for being sexual. The general meaning I've always gotten from it is a woman who has many sexual partners. I've even heard it applied to someone who just overdoes it in any endeavor (like a "coffee slut" or a "shopping slut").

It's kind of a fun word, really. I always thought it was hilarious when Dan Akyroyd called Jane Curtin an "ignorant slut" on the old Saturday Night Live episodes. It can also be a very sensual word, implying that a woman is free enough to completely give herself over to sex. "Come on baby, be my hot little slut."


licknstick97 56M
1 post
11/13/2005 6:09 pm

I think dogystyle 1976 has it closest. To me a girl who calls herself a slut deserves the utmost respect. The women we should use derogatory terms to describe are the ones who lie to get someone to marry them. The women who withhold sex and affection as a weapon to manipulate a boyfriend or husband. A woman who does not have confidence in her own ability to attract or seduce a man, so she has to play games or use deception and devious methods to "hook" him (no, not a prostitute). These women are many of the controlling, manipulative, so-called religious, totally inhibited housewives and girlfriends who have their man so wrapped around their little finger he doesn't know what to do without getting permission from her. But at the same time, he only gets to have sex about once or twice a month, and then he has to beg or do something "extra" for it.
A slut is an honest woman who loves men; loves sex; loves cock, and is proud of it. She goes after what she wants and gets it. She will even take the time to make sure the man gets off (very few male "studs" do that). How is Wilt Chamberlain a hero for fucking 30,000 women, but a woman is trash if she fucks 100? If enough women were sluts and men could get more, better sex without all of the bullshit, what would the manipulative, uptight, frigid, "god-fearing" women do? No men would want them. Who would they control?


rm_anudeguy 65M

11/16/2005 8:21 am

I like women who are both sensual and a little bit of a slut together. or maybe the other way around sometimes too I want to be with a woman who enjoys being a woman and doesn't mind showing it.


rm_rodney945 42M
1 post
11/25/2005 4:21 am

I think its up to you, i feel their is a fine line,like anything in life. However when the time is right both can be one. Follow your heart. xx


veryhornylilbit 42M/43F

1/19/2006 6:15 pm

Beautifully written and very well said!!


veryhornylilbit 42M/43F

1/19/2006 6:27 pm

Beautifully written and very well said!! To nakedlover you have a great talent.


Ready2Go471 43M

3/3/2006 10:23 pm

Wow... the thread on this one just won't die. Well... my two cents:

I've observed two types of sluts in this world. First is the woman that declares it proudly and loudly! She loves sex and sees nothing derogatory about that word.

The second slut is the woman that pissed somebody off - more than likely by using some form of sex. This could range from the girl with the halter top that left the bar with the cute guy, to the cheating girlfriend. It's a term used by the angry and jealous to commonly describe somebody, usually a woman, that got (or gave to another) what they wanted.


rm_Shooter14u 49M
14 posts
6/18/2006 8:35 am

Sensual or Slut? First off, the two are not a good comparison. Sensual is a description of how a person is...teasing and eluding to sex. A better comparison would be Sensual or Sexual/Sexual or Slut. Unlike many guys, who I believe are trying to bring out the sexual side of Jessica by saying there is no such thing as a slut, or women who answer the question, trying to give a definition they hope men would have, I can define the two very simply. To me, a slut is a person who fucks indescriminately, without thought about others. A slut doesn't care that she's actively persuing a married person, someone in a committed relationship, father of your best friend, etc... A slut revels in, or doesn't care about other people. It's about her and who she can screw at will. Obviously a slut is very sexual. Popular porn aimed more at the lizard portion of the brain where the sexual beast resides in most of my brothers would define a slut a little differently. "Slut wives, schoolgirl sluts" things of that nature are a simplistic marketing tool that is much overused and unfortunately are becoming popular definition. Once again, this is just my opinion.


JoltsBeefsMagma 63M

12/1/2006 6:00 pm

A slut is a woman who is into having sex. A sensual woman is into making love. Sex is just a phsical act,lovemaking involves the body and the mind. I prefer to make long,slow love then just having sex.


goodknight4u3 48M
7 posts
3/5/2007 8:45 pm

Opinion are like #####. Women have the same right as a man to enjoy sex....


rm_kiltedone42 45M

4/17/2007 9:32 am

I have to agree with everybody else, it is all a matter of perspective and subjective opinion.


TICKLER10x 61M

8/4/2007 2:48 pm

I beg to differ with you that guys cannot do this same thing. I was in a dance club once (just an example) and was dancing most of the evening. When the club started to close I walked up to this woman that I had NEVER met or danced with before. She was talking to 2 younger men, and I said, "Honey, are you ready to go home now?" She, sensing my readiness and confidence, said asked me to wait a minute while making sure she wanted me. We left a couple of minutes later, leaving those other 2 guys standing there. This is not the only occurance I have had in this manner, either. Friends of mine used to call me the pussy hanger of (name of town) in california. I used to take home 3-4 different women a night...and I DID enjoy them. Guess at times I was a slut too...as sometimes, I just wanted sex. STill do, just a few more years older with much more experience. jessica, compared to me, you are a virgin. No insult intended.


TICKLER10x 61M

8/4/2007 2:51 pm

that should be a week - why can't you edit these things?


mrtoad31 47M  
314 posts
8/26/2008 9:30 am

I think its society....has nothing to do with how many or anything like that.....I bet if you had that conversation at a gay or swingers party they would say practice makes perfect....but take that same conversation to church and you may get a different response.....

I think its who you talk to and there opinions......


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