The End of One Chapter of My Life  

jedievan935 33M
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11/17/2005 12:13 pm

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The End of One Chapter of My Life

Tuesday night I made plans to meet with my Ex in person after she's been calling just about every other day, with strange excuses for why she wanted/needed to talk to me. She's been on a tilt lately telling me she wants to get back together with me, maybe in the next two years when I'm done with school and she's got a better job. A little background:

Essentially the matter is just that she has a bad relationship with her new boyfriend and can't stand a lot of things about him, but due to her job status she can't afford to move out. As a result of all of these negative feelings she has for him, she's suddenly remembering all these great things about the times she and I were together. Only problem is, a lot of those things weren't really that great, she just forgets that we weren't compatible because anything sounds better than where she's at.

I, on the other hand, am sure that I don't want to get back together and, after reflecting on it, wonder why it took us 3 years to figure out we weren't right for each other. At first I didn't want to dash her hopes because I figured she needed a little extra motivation to help her find a good job so she can be independent. Fortunately, I got some good advice and realized that it was more cruel for me to let her get her hopes up. To those (you know who you are) who gave me that advice, thank you again.

So Tues. we met at one of her favorite restaurants, Joe's Crab Shack in Hazard Center. I am not sure what she expected the meeting to be about, but I think I dropped enough hints when she asked me questions about us being together to at least give her some ability to anticipate what I had to say. Just before our dinner arrived she probed again and I gave her the truth.

Coming into the meeting I was anticipating crying, maybe even anger. She took it pretty calmly, though. I did see tears in her eyes, but she kept her composure. She seemed frustrated with the finality of my decision, but by the end of the night she knew it was truly over and we parted with a hug and no further drama. I'm relieved that the conversation went as well as it did and I hope she finds her own, personal motivation to get out of her relationship.

Just had to share that with someone, thanks for reading.

rm_lickmepretty 51F
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11/18/2005 7:14 pm

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