Time takes to long to heal sometimes!  

jawbreakergood 53F
22 posts
1/28/2006 11:44 am

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Time takes to long to heal sometimes!

Some say that with each ending relationship that it gets easier to get over, at first I agreed but now I am sure that it does not! For me at least being an emotionally driven person.The late Keith Whitley said it perfectly someone or something reminds me and I'm losing you all over again!! You would think that if it was painful then it would be easy to forget but for me in spite of the pain I find myself wanting to pick up the phone or emailing him and I know better than anyone that would not be good! Like I was told to put a sticky on the phone saying for pain call ....... cause that is exactly what I would get more pain and rejection!! So time heals all wounds may very well be true and I believe it is. It takes a long time to do it sometimes!!!!

rm_saintlianna 45F
15466 posts
1/28/2006 12:41 pm

I think time doesnt heal pain but dulls it to a tolerable level, sometimes thats good enough.

rm_PurryKitty2 48M/49F
9753 posts
1/28/2006 12:43 pm

It does take a long time sometimes and I dont think we ever heal completely.

Purry {=}


Shelly_Marie 43F

1/28/2006 12:52 pm

yes, you are right, and i have been through this just recently also..i am feeling a little bit better though. i find for me it good (after a few days, or how ever long) to go and look at some other guys, even if i dont contact them at all. I just helps to remind me that i can be attracted to other guys and that the pain will go away, and i will find someone sooner or later...

southrnpeach333 50F

1/28/2006 3:01 pm

I think sometimes too it is the change in your daily habits you had with that person. Your life's rythm is thrown off beat. It's never easy but it does get easier.

moonfire2u 69F
2602 posts
1/28/2006 3:44 pm

Time doesn't heal all wounds...love does...surround yourself with people who love you...then count your blessing that you have them...

kind thoughts,

rm_bibabe_42 53F

1/28/2006 4:03 pm

What does not kill us makes us stronger....no one can take away who you are Katy...no matter what they do to you...be true to yourself and know you are a wonderful, sexy woman and they didn't deserve you to begin with. In turn, my hand is extended out to you Katy...hold onto it any time you need it...

rm_cowboy4fun65 51M

1/29/2006 12:21 am

moonfire2u is right. surround yourself with those that love you, or at least honers the person you are. letting go is hard by ourselves.

1 post
1/30/2006 3:05 pm

The comments I see here are so right on. I am 43 and yet I still feel the pain (lesser, duller maybe, but still pain) from when my college sweetheart broke up with me in 1982, nearly 24 years ago.

Since then I have loved and lost again, loved and won, and loved some more.

The pain is never erased, it does not go away. But love has a wonderful way of coming back to us and making us whole. I would rather love and lose than never love at all. (Shakespeare had it right 200 plus years ago).

One suggestion: Do not keep it bottled up. Release it. Talk about it. Meet new people. Experience new things. Let yourself love again.

rm_69loves69sex 47M/53F
1 post
2/2/2006 10:07 pm

We truly believe that when you meet your soul mate all is well. Meaning that once you have met that person, you will be together for ever. Now God can have other plans such as an early death lets say. We both have been divorced twice before meeting here on AdultFriendFinder. There was pain involved in all those relationships, but knowing we have what we do now, we realize it was a learning curve for us earlier in life to be able to be ready for each other now. We have been brought together now knowing how to make the relationship work, not SETTLING for the other person just because we felt "Oh 1 or 2 things buggin me is no big deal, could be worse" When you settle you get burned. Breaking up is not easy ever, but it all happens for a reason.

We just believe that a break up is a true sign it was NOT meant to be and that we should learn from the realtionship for the next one. Some are lucky to find that sooner than later, but if you believe in a soul mate, then you must let all the prior relationships not hurt you, but prepare you for the real deal!

justlooking3703 56M
43 posts
2/6/2006 12:55 pm

In my experience, it isn't time that heals emotional wounds, it's the changes in YOU that occur over time. The lingering pain is often because of the void that is created, not the actual person that created the void.

Over time, you find new things (and new people - and I guess things to do with new people, too) that interest you, and rediscover old things that interested you that you lost track of.

One day, you look back and realize that the void is filled, and often with better things than were there to start with.

rm_steve1717 63M

2/7/2006 4:00 pm

I think Moonfire2u already expressed the best response. It's not just the passage of time, it's the developing of new friendships which many times put the old ones in perspective.

oldman1776 78M
3164 posts
2/7/2006 7:45 pm

I don't think that time heals old love wounds It just eases the pain.

The wounds will always be there,and there are days you feel them no matter how long its been.

Been there done that. Still hurts some times.

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