Need some advice  

jakblack36 48M
370 posts
11/15/2005 6:43 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Need some advice

I never would have thought a week ago that I would post a blog this personal.

I need some advice. I feel that most of you don't know me so I figure your not going to be biased in anyway...unless you read that I don't want to associate with replublicans and you are one.

I have an ex girlfriend who turned into a close friend.. we dated over 4 years ago for 6 months and then we broke up. A few more months went by and we became friends again. A lot like Jerry and Elaine from Seinfeld. Totally platonic tell each other everything kind of friends.

Well, she does not want to be friends. I don't exactly know for sure the reason but I think it is because I call a spade a spade. I have always been very supportive of her through the years. But some times the truth hurts. She works for a prestigous company and has what most would call a great job. She makes big money for her age she is 28 and makes 70k or better has a company car..Lexus SUV. The truth that hurt..well I told I had it with her being on the pity pot all the time. She feels she should be married and have a hubby who is makin 6 figures support her ever growing wide ass. Yes I did mention her ever growing wide ass.

Now since we had been so close and I have been the man in her life (as in she dated guys who were useless) I felt I had a right to say such things. Apparently she didn't agree. So she no longer wants to communicate.

I have tried to make up and so far she has not been interested in doing so.

I appreciate your input.

saddletrampsk 54F

11/15/2005 7:31 pm

Why do you want to be friends with her? Sounds like you don't respect her with the comment on her ass..move on sweety, I think she pisses you off

bigfurrybear 41M

11/15/2005 7:39 pm

I would tell you that you were right in being honest but perhaps a little tact would have gone a long ways. Without knowing her and her personality that is the first thing I can think of for ya.

05justme 62F

11/15/2005 7:44 pm

Yes I did mention her ever growing wide ass.

This is why!

That kind of comment made to a female will bit your own ass so fast! your head won't even have time to turn fast enough after getting the slap!!!!!!!!!!!!

There are truths that should be kept behind a good old zipper my dear!

Good luck and just hope she has a bad memory!

Maybe you could never know!


jakblack36 48M

11/16/2005 8:27 am

I respect her beyond words. I am proud of her and her accomplishements. What I don't care for is her constantly thinking life should be easy. Is it wrong to say life is not easy ..get over it?

The comment on her ass came up as to shy she was going on dates and not getting some good guys. Let's be honest weight is a factor. My own gut has cost me many 2nd dates and a lot of rejection here on AdultFriendFinder and I am not some huge slob.

saddletrampsk 54F

11/16/2005 9:00 pm

jak..I like love handles baby..

rm_vipercb 41M
101 posts
11/20/2005 9:45 pm

Phucker her.... but use a condom. or just move on without her in your life.

rm_goddess1946 106F
13518 posts
11/29/2005 2:22 pm

It is very difficult for most women who are making it in a man's world to surrender to the joys of being a woman without their monkey minds getting in the way of letting someone love them.

Give her space...she asked for it. Honor that.
She is learning to live life...this is what that looks like to her.

Just a little food for thought.............
If you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you...

jakblack36 48M

11/29/2005 8:08 pm

Goddess I am doing just that, you would be proud

ilsgicemru 72M
2822 posts
11/30/2005 8:14 am

jak......That "ever growing wide ass" comment is going to take a long time to forget.....Just plain ole "fat ass", might have been forgotten soon, but "EVER GROWING"!!!!!!.......THAT HURTS!!!!!!!!........Sounds like you have thought that out in advance.....Well calculated to HURT HER BAD!!.

2gd2btruue 61M

11/30/2005 7:39 pm

Even without enough info, this sounds like the classic... Its all about her. Am I right? Are most of her relationships short term? Nothing long lasting? If so, its probably because she's only thinking about herself. Let her fly free. She may fly back. Just don't hold yer breath!

It still sucks to lose a friend, though. I can relate.

jakblack36 48M

12/1/2005 7:36 am

2gd2btruue you hit the nail on the head, it' all about her and her relationships are all short term. Ty for pointing that out.

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