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jaimeOOO69 52F
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6/26/2006 7:47 pm

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7/3/2006 6:05 am

Undecided

A few weeks back I went out with a very nice man. Our differences made me very uncomfortable. I have a manufacturing job and barely get by, he has a PHD and enjoys the finer things in life. We have many things in common, listen to the same radio programs,like trains,travel,scifi,animation/claymation, good food, and good wine. I do not know if I can get past our differences to feel comfortable with him. But I am thinking of contacting him to see if he would like to see me again. LOL, if he reads this he will know I am talking about him.
I am wondering, if I didn't feel physical attraction to him on the first date, will I the second, the third, or never? I do not want to lead him on, but I do want to be fair with him and myself.

What do you think?


rm_rdr_hrly 56M

6/28/2006 4:58 pm

Great cat picture...I want that one! Anyway...my thought would be..if you didn't connect the first time you won't connect. Did you think he thought there was chemistry? Has he contacted you since that date? Only you can be fair to yourself.

Now having said all of that, I know if there is chemistry on the first meeting, I act on it. No wishy washy...

May I ask..no wait..I'll read your profile..maybe the answer is there...


rm_rdr_hrly 56M

6/28/2006 5:02 pm

As I suspected...I must say you have a very nice profile. I wish you well in finding your soulmate. Cheers...


jaimeOOO69 52F

6/30/2006 3:13 pm

I decided to contact him. And to be honest with how I feel. I would like to spend more time with him to get to know him.

Thank you for your opinions. I was hoping to hear something I hadn't already thought of.


biandhornyinWI 47F
157 posts
7/3/2006 5:08 am

Hi Jamie, Just browsing around looking at blogs from people in the group and stumbled across yours. I'd have to say that you have a few different questions in your post. The differences one- I've been there, often in his place. If you like him enough to talk to him and hang out I think that those differences can be minimized if you concentrate on things in common, and then you can move past that a bit. As for the attraction thing, sometimes it's there and sometimes it's not there. As I get older I find that sometimes it's not there right away but I grow into it as I spend more time with them and get to know them as a friend. Then... honestly... some people are absolutely fabulous but better off as friends rather than lovers and all the work in the world isn't going to be able to get them into that lover category. Just my two cents worth!


jaimeOOO69 52F

7/3/2006 6:05 am

    Quoting biandhornyinWI:
    Hi Jamie, Just browsing around looking at blogs from people in the group and stumbled across yours. I'd have to say that you have a few different questions in your post. The differences one- I've been there, often in his place. If you like him enough to talk to him and hang out I think that those differences can be minimized if you concentrate on things in common, and then you can move past that a bit. As for the attraction thing, sometimes it's there and sometimes it's not there. As I get older I find that sometimes it's not there right away but I grow into it as I spend more time with them and get to know them as a friend. Then... honestly... some people are absolutely fabulous but better off as friends rather than lovers and all the work in the world isn't going to be able to get them into that lover category. Just my two cents worth!
Bi,
Thanks sweetie!

That's the reason I wanted to be fair to the both of us. Since we do have so much in common, something could grow from that. He also said he felt nervous. So at least we are both giving each other a second chance.

Jackie


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