What's in a name  

intriguess279 39F
28 posts
10/10/2005 8:27 am

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What's in a name

After all a one night stand by any other name still leaves you feeling the same way.

I wondered about starting a blog, especially when I was already seeing people off AdultFriendFinder. Since that has ended I feel free to rant and rave. I joined AdultFriendFinder in July or so, I was taking care of my grandma at the time who has dementia (until she could be placed in an appropriate long term care unit) which was expected to happen by August first. My reason for joining was that I no longer wanted my ex to be the last person I'd had sex with.

So I figured by then I'd have a few dates lined up and I'd finally be able to enjoy my life again. So in August I talked to and speculated meeting about 6 guys. First guy I met was a good first meeting, we talked, no expectation of sex, I think he was kind of nervous, he went through two bottles of hard lemonade in the three hours I was there. We both got topless and snuggled. Later in a yahoo chat I found out he enjoys anal way more than I do and haven't really followed up with him since.

So second guy, didn't have a photo of him before meeting and we did end up having sex, but it was bad timing. I had been sick and sunburned the day before and he was quite tired, plus my period started that day. We made the best of it and we did manage to hook up again in late August, but since then someone from his past has called and he's going to give that a go. No problem I wasn't attached, and I wish him the best of luck.

Third guy, went to a movie, I thought it was going fine, and afterwards we were going to have lunch, but when we got to restaurant he pulled the emergency cell phone call my mom is in ER. At the time I was naively supportive but after not hearing back from him I figured it out. Not the most adult behaviour but oh well.

The others, I called one and then he ended up cancelling, so I gave up on that. Others I just never ended up actually setting a time to meet.

So by September I was starting out from square one again. My birthday is in September and I have always wanted to have sex on my birthday. Anyway three new guys and it went slightly better than August, but with the same result.

First guy, had a lot in common with, met up and went back to his place and eventually ended up in bed. Two condoms later he had to go to work and I had to get up early in morning so I left.

I had arranged to meet the second guy for lunch the next day so he was already at a disadvantage because I liked the first guy. Had a nice lunch and talk and got his phone number anyway.

So back to the first guy who I hoped to hook up with near my birthday, no go he had stuff that couldn't be cancelled. I was okay with that so I called guy number two, who in the week of my birthday broke two dates with me, not a good sign. So I went onto guy three to have sex day after my birthday but that fell through.

So first guy is not returning my calls, I'm assuming he's busy (his job is fairly time consuming) and I return guy two's call but then he never called me back.

Then just when I think I'll be fine and continue focusing on guy one, he text messages me that he's gotten married. Okay this was a stunner as when we got together he said he HAD been engaged, but that his decision to move to Iowa had broken the engagement as she refused to move. So I cried a little and finally decided that I did like him and I called him and wished him the best (I did the coward thing and called when I knew he wouldn't answer)

So here I am in October starting over again, with one date lined up this week and couple more possibilities.

rm_pchamp012004 55M
2672 posts
10/10/2005 10:57 am

Wow, your luck is worse than mine {and that's saying alot).

Keep trying, it's better than the alternative

hotiowastud2 53M

10/17/2005 8:58 pm

That is a great account! I always wondered how things went for singles on AdultFriendFinder. Keep the faith, you'll find more good times!

casino747 58F

10/21/2005 2:08 am

That's a damn shame how some of these men are on this site.I'm so tired of meeting and chatting now, thinking about getting off.Seems like most want one nighters and it's getting risky,Are they really d/dfree, think about it?

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