Sexual Advice Series: Contact me!  

inthefe 49M
366 posts
6/8/2005 2:52 pm

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Sexual Advice Series: Contact me!

More in the sexual advice series from moi


I see a few of these types of questions regularly from men (usually) wondering how to get more attraction to their profile, get women to chat with them, etc. Since I answer so many the same way, here it is in my blog for permanence! Again just my 2 cents worth.

Stand Out

One of the first things to bear in mind is that men outnumber women on this site dramatically. I don’t know the percentages, but a guess would be something like 4:1 or more. In others words, the ladies have many many choices when it comes to selecting a guy they would like to chat/interact with. If you want to be one of the lucky ones then you need to give them something to pull them to you. They know you are a guy, and are fairly certain you are horny and all that typical rhetoric. Try to bear in mind that the largest sexual organ is the brain: tantalize that in the ladies and you will get more results

Profile Do’s and Don’ts

Let me guess: 1) You are SUPER hung and 2) you KNOW how to please a lady. You can fuck her ALL night long and leave her panting for more. Yeah yeah. Saying this in your profile *really* discriminates you from all the others on here. If a woman had an orgasm every time she read/heard that from a guy on here she would not have time to breathe she’d be climaxing so much. Forget it. And she knows you want sex: duh. No strings? Any guys out there writing profiles that state “let’s hook up so I can stalk and hang on you forever! Once we meet I will never let you out of my sight!!” When most women here read “no strings” they translate as “let me fuck you until I cum then loose your number”. What a romance! She knows you want to have sex with her. Isn’t that the point of this site? Be original fer chrise sakes!

Do put in your profile more specifics as to what you are looking for, *if* that is your intent here. Not all of us are looking to hook up with every person we meet ‒ some are here to meet new and fun people. Just let them know what you want so they can ,match to their desires as well.

Do indicate a little about yourself other than the typical “I can hammer a rusty nail into 3 feet of cement with my cock”. It may shock some but a penis is a penis ‒ it’s the talent that is behind it that really counts. A 10 inch tool isn’t much fun for a lady if the operator can’t find the on switch (in case this metaphor is over a few heads allow me to illuminate: the ON switch is located on the person of the lady). A solid performing 6 incher will do nicely if the lady orgasms repeatedly. In other words ‒ you have a cock. Great. Now what?


What? You mean you put up your profile with the 8 sentences as 3 pics of your massive tool 15 minutes ago and *no* ladies have yet found your home address through Google searches yet?!? Whoa!!

4+ million profiles here ‒ what are the chances a large number of people will see yours? You need to interact in the site. Go into the chat rooms often, and actually *chat* instead of lurk. Take advantage of the magazine section ‒ post articles and answer questions. Go on cam ‒ don’t just watch them. Reach out to other’s if you think you match what they are looking for. And this does not mean send them an e-mail that cleverly says “Hey there. Want to meet and fuck? Write me back!”. Puh-lease. I bet most women on here average at least a dozen + e-mails a week ‒ some probably in the hundreds. You need to grab their attention and give them some reason to want to contact you. Be humorous. Be sincere. Be *something*.

Be as respectful as you can

Yes, some ladies here want you to call them slut and pull their hair while you pork their face. But do you *know* who these are before you interact with them? Best thing is to treat them like a lady until they let you know otherwise. Be you, be honest about who you are and be respectful that they might/might not share your sexual proclivities. With all the people on you *will* find a few that match up. Don’t screw it up by being an ass.

Just my 2 cents ‒ I could be wrong.

Up inthe sky! It's a bird, it's a plane, it's inthefe

lifeisablast333 53M

8/13/2005 5:04 pm

yep, thats it...right on the button

rm_DaphneR 58F
7938 posts
7/27/2005 7:31 pm

Very nicely put. You could set up a school and give lessons to most of the other men in NM. You wouldn't believe some of the emails I get.

Have tongue, will use it. Repeatedly.

rm_cheekyBrat 54F
17 posts
6/11/2005 4:34 pm

where did this guy come from????????????? I'm getting nervous here.... has anyone told Fe's wife he's gay??? Just kiddin buddy... I love how you think... and am thankful.... my special someone thinks the along the same lines.... As for LT.... honey.... the chats arent so hard... leave the cheezy one liners to the idiots.... dont be afraid to say you are new to the room....and ask to be introduced around...if the peeps in there are worth meeting, they will be happy to show you the ropes..... if you are only looking to "get off"... change rooms.... or sites.. but if you want a meaningful chat with some intellect and clever creative inuendo..or warm to hot spice... that is a work in progress... wont be a work it.... just like a great date....create a setting that is appealing and do the dance slowly. Oh.... sorry this is fe's advice site.... lol... got carried away......feel free to cut and paste and add your name and keep up the written word...... I cant get enough of reading your stuff.

inthefe 49M

6/9/2005 9:49 pm

Heh heh Elysia - I would most certainly if it was allowed! Perhaps that's my problem: I just love all you ladies!

Up inthe sky! It's a bird, it's a plane, it's inthefe

rm_Elysia2005 43F
412 posts
6/9/2005 9:11 pm

Marry me, fe!

inthefe 49M

6/9/2005 12:10 pm

Hey L.T. -

I know what you mean about chat rooms. There are definitely groups that know each other and tend to focus on their conversations at times. Sometimes a comment will slip by un-noticed either due to the sheer number of the chat roaring by, or that they are only looking at the chat from their friends, etc. I too have lurked for a bit waiting for a good chance to say "hi" and get involved. Just timing and patience I suppose!

I always laugh when I pop into a room that is like 15 males and 2 females or so. Every guy trying to cyber jump the ladies, all that chat directed at them to say "hey I'm a great lay, let's meet!". lmao. I opt to stay out of it - don't want to be a moth slamming my head into that light bulb! Then there is the flip side - you're really horny and want to interact with a lady, and every one in the chat room is talking about movies or something mundane. DOH! Again, just timing and patience I suppose

Up inthe sky! It's a bird, it's a plane, it's inthefe

rm_67n20 56M

6/9/2005 8:15 am

Hey I can agree with alot of what you say on this one. But I hve had a few bad visits to the chat rooms. Yes I joined this site for the main reason most people do (sex). However, if that was the only thing I wanted out of it I would just get hookers. For me there is much more to it than that. I'm looking to meet people in the lifestyle and I'm learning the chat rooms might not be the place to do this. Just an example of what I meen. I've gone in said hi, gm, or what ever (no answer). No prob. No-one knows me. so I sit ( as you call it, hoping for some commin ground to join in. I even through a few things out there. Darts, motocycles, camping.... Again nothing. Hell i have even tryed to talk to some of the guys in the rooms, but the st8 ones only want to talk to the ladis/cpls and the bi/gay ones don't want to talk when they learn I'm st8. I will admit some of this is just me venting. It's kind of funny when I came to grips that this lifestyle was just part of who I really am, and decided to accept it. I thought I was going to meet people that were real,and not into the head games I was used to in the (other What a suprise. I see more games now than ever before in my life. On the other hand, I must say that the few (very few) I have met that are for real are some of the nicest people and very open to at least getting to know me befor making a jugment on who I am on the inside.
Well enough babble out of me. I could talk about this kind of stuff for hours. Thanks for letting me blow off some

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