What is in a Name?  

impqueen 54F
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4/3/2006 2:47 pm

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What is in a Name?

The other day I was commenting to a young man what a wonderful choice he made in coming to live up here in no man's land. We are like the last outpost here in Northern Maine, but I must admit it is beautiful country. I said to him,that I hoped he was not looking for a life partner because they were hard to come by. He looked at me in all seriousness- "I don't swing that way".

I thought about it. I guess he is right a "Life Partner" would be someone of the same sex. I didn't mean it that way- ah the beauty of naivety-I just simply meant that some people are choosing not to marry the person of the opposite sex but are choosing instead to live with them. So what do you call that type of person. They aren't your spouse (need to be married for that), they aren't your significant other (again from my understanding this means person of same sex), they could be your live-in (again the connotations of this are two people of the same sex, lover?, friend? boyfriend, girlfriend? Special friend????

How do you address invitations to this type of couple- Mr Smith and the Woman he lives with? How do you refer to them in polite conversation- "you know Mr. Smith's wife...er...live-in...er significant other- oh hell I give up- that there woman friend he is shacking up with..."

There should be some political correctness guidelines out there some where--I guess I just haven't stumbled over it yet...

Whew- my head is still spinning *pass me the aspirin*

suchprospects 58M

4/8/2006 9:24 am

Maybe it comes from living in the Boston area, the home of same sex marriages, but "partner" "life partner" and "significant other" are all used for both opposite sex and same sex relations. As is the phrase "fuck toy," but that does not go over well in the office or with your parents.

impqueen replies on 4/9/2006 6:20 am:
Thank you for enlightening me. I thought as you do. But in our backwoods area, I guess they are just not up on all the meanings.

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