I need some MAN advise  

imanycegurl 50F
10 posts
2/14/2006 4:28 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

I need some MAN advise

I'm single, attractive I think, not over weight or Ample just normal but I can't get a date...I can get sex but I want a real date. I'm not going to write a sob story here or anything like that. I would just like to get some input from the men here about this....Are guys intimidated by nice looking independant women? Are guys looking for women who are unattractive overweight and very insecure? I'm not writing this to be rude I'm just fed up of wondering why? I can get guys to have sex with but I'm getting tired of that scene...you see I tried the other direction to of not sleeping with the guy right off and that didn't work either...so what do I do men or women....I just need some advice on that one.

PS....Is valentine's day over yet...lol

elysianpleasure 47M

2/14/2006 7:32 pm

I would have to know more about you to give you any real advice... but I think a great deal with people and getting asked out has to do with how approachable you are. It isn't really a look thing. You can be gorgeous and intimidating or very average and intimadating... and the same but quite approachable. It is in the smile. In how you cary yourself... arms open or closed. Do you make eye contact? Do you say hello and make conversation? Tell us a bit more about yourself. Mingle around the blog, drop by and say hello at my place. The more you mingle, the more people you will meet, the better the chance you will find someone who is interested in you. Sex is never the problem... it is always meeting someone with chemistry.

rm_Smile_My_Way 59M
1519 posts
2/14/2006 8:29 pm

My advice to you would be; not to try so hard. Let your guard down a little and before you know it he will appear out of no where. I have advised other women in the same position as you are with good results. Are you in a hurry to get married and possible scaring off potential mates? If a guy is a little intimidating by you then asks him out if you like him, but take it slow. Do the old fashion thing and get to like each other before having sex. I know you tried this, but if he likes you; he will be worth keeping. Go some where the two of you can talk and get to know one and other while on a date. A walk in the park or shopping.

hippygirl_search 50M
20 posts
2/14/2006 9:27 pm

I dunno
I have the same problems ... sort of except I am a guy...! lol
I am not intimidated by nice looking independant women? that what I am attracted to!
I tend to like trim, petite or athletic women, who are secure... not insecure...
also I like caring and concious women, people that actually care about many things, life, environment, Organics, etc...

I wish you luck...
I wish we were closer
I take you out for adate
if yuor ever in oregon
look me up!


take care

10010067 50M
15 posts
2/15/2006 3:51 am

don t worry ( be happy ))))

kyplowboy22 61M

2/15/2006 11:38 am

I think the 'don't try so hard' advice is sound. So is the advice to look around through the blogs. You can get a lot of insight into who people are by reading their blogs and comments. Find some people of interest in the blogs, write them or IM them. Comment on their blogs. whatever it takes to get you in front of them. Most of all be honest. Hope to see you around, come by for a visit if you get the chance. Later


rm_tryyouharder 48M
22 posts
2/16/2006 7:07 pm

I think a lot of guys are just lazy and unromantic. You can be beautiful, sexy, and smart, but if they're just looking after the Little General and think you're a pushover then they're not going to go to the effort of a big date night. Also, lots of people don't know what a good date night is or that being inside the head of your partner makes the outcome of a positive date even better.

Make love to the mind first and then the body will follow. That also works from woman to man, but probably intimidates a lot of us. You seem to like intelligent men with imagination and initiative and they're not particularly easy to find.

I'm a man but I think I know what many men lack in the romance department from knowing my friends. I include myself in that statement sometimes, but if the goal is worth it then the date should be like Olympic figureskating- train long and hard, develop a program to impress the judge (your date), and do your best to get the gold.

I'm also married and rusty, so take my advice with a grain of salt...

imanycegurl 50F

2/17/2006 4:50 pm

Thanks guys for all of the advise...good thoughts...

rm_tryyouharder 48M
22 posts
2/18/2006 9:54 am

Hope it helps. Sex without a more personal side isn't nearly as fulfilling because it's fantastic when you know that the other person is really impressed and trying hard. If you're in the southern NB region, I'd be happy to demonstrate my dating techniques. You know, just as an example...

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