Whats with women wanting to be just friends.  

hyperscott228 32M
43 posts
6/20/2006 7:55 am

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Whats with women wanting to be just friends.


Why do women even bother talking to guys who are nice. I`m tired of being call sweet, cute, nice, and most of all just a really good friend. Should all men just start acting like compleat assholes just so they can get some. I have a lot of friends i dont really need many more. I`m just tired of dating and at the end being told that i`m a really good friend, or i dont see you that way. Well the thing is, nice guys listen and are forced to listen to women bitch about their asshole boyfriends, and then when they break up, they go out with another asshole boyfriend instead of a nice guy. So I ask this women of AdultFriendFinder, the nice guys just become ass holes, or what, cause being nice doesnt work in real life?

scotty 2 Naughty


meerkittykat 42F

6/20/2006 8:23 am

It does work in real life. All the guys I dated started off as my friend.

Maybe you're looking at the wrong kinda girl. If you're spending soooo much time listening to her go on about her asshole boyfriend, she's probably the kinda woman who needs you to "rescue her" but will likely find the next asshole boyfriend leaving good guy you out to dry.

Don't look for women who need a friend to rescue them. Find a woman who needs a friend to complete them. Then you're no longer a life-jacket and can really be a part of someone's life.

Good Luck...


sammiesunshine 46M
162 posts
6/20/2006 8:40 am

Yeah! Why is that! If your lucky you might get a rebound fuck, before the next asshole moves in. Your thinking ok my patience has paid off and I can have an awesome relationship now...but noo...cockblocked by the dickhead. Who ends up treating her worse then the one you had to listen to her complain about.


phoenix639 49F

6/20/2006 8:45 am

Well my views changed greatly about many on here so i stopped meeting people altogther. Many reasons.

Yesterday i decided id start to meet up with some folk again but only platonically.

Far too many games get played you see & it hurts.

So my view now is...makes friends & once we have got to know each other more we can see if we wish to move to another level.

Im 38 now i dont wish for massive drama in my life that some people seem to create or bring with them. You will find many women are so sick of the men on here who fail to turn up, have no manners, lie & let you down that they just say stuff it friends or nothing.

But do you know something though, as soon as the sex side of things is out of the way & there is no 'conquest' people are more real to you & are actually far nicer with a lot more to say.

I have made so many friends since i made my decision & it sure beats sex any day. If im honest the one time i did become intimate with someone from here....it wasnt anything to write home about at all because there was nothing there between us. No feelings or emotion.

I & many women (not all i know) prefer to have some connection on an emotional level with a man & thats when the sex is better.

Apologies for my version of war & peace.


incense40 53F

6/20/2006 9:47 am

Your just meeting the wrong women.I have the same problem.Im loyal to a fault.It just seems like all the men I meet are assholes, only out for one thing.themselves.It also seems like the women who treat men like shit,get treated like a queen.I treat men like kings and get treated like shit. hang in there.


akron42   
2375 posts
6/20/2006 9:57 am

I agree. Nice guys DON'T always finish last! I've had asshole husbands and they are no longer in the picture. My husband now is my best friend, and even though he CAN be an asshole, he's also the sweetest guy around. Don't stop looking! Best of luck...


bikerbabe57701 49F

6/20/2006 10:00 am

During the rally in Sturgis I always see this shirt...."FUCK YOU, I HAVE ENOUGH FRIENDS".....give me a size and address...I'll hook a brother up!


hyperscott228 replies on 6/20/2006 10:05 am:
well i`d love to, 9 inches is the size and i live way to far from you, but if you know any girls from mtl quebec canada, then for sure send them my way

GlialSewerEuler 69M
73 posts
6/20/2006 11:29 am

To bad that there are so many women out there who fit that profile. I've grown up with the saying nice guys finish last! Most women want to date assholes and settle down with us nice guys and we end up not getting laid in both situations! They want a nice stable guy who comes home everyday and drops his paycheck on the table. That's just a fact of life whether you want to admit it or not! I'm not going to change so I can hook up with some wacked out broad who will make my life hell! In alot of cases they're probably not good in bed anyway!


Rightstuff92 55M  
2 posts
6/24/2006 8:11 am

I understand your frustration. I met a friend for benefits lady, that is 48 years old and been divorced for 12 years. After 3 months of incredible erotic encounters, sharing of feelings and taking trips she has decided: that I'm the perfect gentleman and deserve better than her in addition, I don't have the personality she is looking for: wild and a biker. Her reasoning is: she can get screwed, emotionally and physically, without getting attached!! You'll see her with her other married friends at Sturgis.


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