Name Labeling  

hottie2000444 56F
25 posts
6/6/2006 6:40 pm

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Name Labeling

I want to post a question to all members, male and female. Why is it that when a female in the swing lifestyle is caused a slut, if she swings as a single female with couples or select males? And why is it that when a male swings as a single male he is not called a slut??? It just really doesn't make any sense, I feel that if we are all consenting adults then why does it matter who, how many or whatever, we do sexually gives anymore the right to place a label on us. Just a question, just curious to hear other members opinions. Thanks everyone

norprin5 55M

6/6/2006 8:02 pm

ah, yes...the ol' double standard...

i agree, it's not right...the only way to change it, i think, is for everyone to fuck like bunnies all the time!

welcome to Blogland, luv

King Nor XVIII

lustmirror 63M
2897 posts
6/6/2006 8:07 pm

I think, that while both sides can be possessive
and monogamous
when it comes right down to it
and both sides agree to be free
men have a problem not 'owning' her
we're just too insecure to envision a woman loose
before we have secured another...

or else we're just meaner...

scion983 35M
1 post
6/8/2006 11:12 am

I personally think it doesn't matter. Everyone ,man or woman, should enjoy the same freedom, sexual or otherwise but in the conservist society in which we live people are afraid of expression in any form.

sailinskier 56M
10 posts
6/9/2006 10:51 am

Hottie, When I use the term slut, it's meant as a compliment. I have no interest in inexperienced people; life's just too short. By the way, I'll be in Jax next week, Sun night through Fri. I'm 5-10, 175 lbs, brown hair, eyes, and mustache ( no color on the pubic hair as that stays shaved. I'm lean, a little muscular, been told I'm handsome and a non overbearing, very oral, southern gentleman. If you'd like to meet for drinks or dinner, with no expectations, then send me a note as to where. You can even call me a slut, if you'd like!

hottie2000444 56F

6/11/2006 3:49 pm

Just wanted to say thanks for the responses, it does make me fell a lot better, I was asking the question because my ex seems to think that I am a slut now that I elected to stay in the lifestyle, which he did also, but it is not okay for me to fulfill my sexual desires with other men. I agree with all of you, life is too short not to enjoy all the benefits and roads to jounrey that we have offered to us in the short time that we are here on this planet. THANKS!!!!

rm_stoneh1 61M
37 posts
6/12/2006 3:15 pm

As long as there is complete openess and honesty between people, there should be no jealousies. Unfortunately....thats hard to find.

jaxharddriver55 61M
80 posts
6/25/2006 3:14 am

You pose a good question, hottie. It could be jealousy on the part of the men. It is so much easier for a single woman to become part of the lifestyle than for a man. I know. I have been trying to become a part of the lifestyle for over 5 years now and have had very little luck at it. But, I will keep on trying. Success never said quit.

suckmehard7575 41M
3 posts
6/25/2006 4:25 am


That is the power of "society". Unfortunately, we have become so politically correct that people can't be honest in public. I would bet every penny I have that so many more women, without having to reveal themselves, would love to be "sluts". My marriage is ending because of different views on what is acceptable and what is not. Great pic, come find me sometime.

rumbleforce69 47M

7/2/2006 9:19 pm

Actually your not telling the whole story here. I am pretty sure that you or one of your girlfriends have called a guy a "Pig" or "Dog" because he runs around and will screw anything. I think it is just human nature to categorize things. It is part of the fact that we give everything a name of some kind. If we said, "Hey look at that thing!" we would get an automatic reply "What thing?" Then naturally one would have to describe the thing they pointed out be it a "Slut, Dog, Pig, Prick, or Jerk 'short for JerkOff'"... Just a small observation from a very detailed individual. I think that most men just don't get as offended when they know it is true.

hottie2000444 56F

7/4/2006 5:21 am

Just wanted to answer rumbleforce69 comment, yes I probably have called a guy a dog sometime in my life, because I am sure there are a few out there just like there are a few true sults too. But this comment came from a man that I had a relationship for 2 years that lived with me and was in the life style with me. But when things did not work out all of a sudden because I decided to stay in the lifestype as a single female and he started to break into my AdultFriendFinder account and see who I was seeing - I became a slut, hore, and whatever other name you could think of. I think that if you are in this lifestyle you know it is all about fulfilling fanasties, having great sex with others, sex and love are totally different and I guess that is one thing he just didnt get. Thanks for your comment I appreciate all the input, just wanted to get honest opinions from honest people. Take care and play safe!

therealmagoo 50M

7/8/2006 12:01 pm

You're just a hot, horny chick! And we love you for it. Guy is just upset of what he lost. Too fuckin' bad.

rm_jaxsscouple 47M/46F

7/15/2006 7:27 am

I think what hottie has failed to mention to all you people out there responding to her question is that she was caught cheating on her ex and thats why he left her. So now she scorned and just can't get over a man leaving her. When your in a relationship as a couple and you play as a couple and have always been so open with one another there is no real reason ever to substantiate a cheating partner. Posting ads out here as single on several other sites other then this one as a single with pics and looking for short term friends and booty call buddies while living under the same roof with that man you supposedly love is hardly an excuse for a lady. His loss, hardly please guys you can have the same shit he put up with if your so lucky. Whats one mans junk is another mans fortune. Oh and a head ache as well. I personally know this man and he is a guy and a friend to me and my girl. He didn't deserve what he got from her and thats the truth.

rm_jaxsscouple 47M/46F

7/15/2006 8:09 am

Let me explain about the remarks above. We sent a hot link to this blog to her husband so he could read it upon his request. When he made his remarks he did not know it would be under our user name. We do not share his views or even know them personally. Thank you for your understanding. C and N

BoastNullsRobed 54M
1 post
7/16/2006 11:18 am

Well I have read all of the above and being that I have been personally on both sides of the fence , am divorced now , but I still have a life as a single male in the lifestyle some have turned their backs as just another single male hoping to get luckey, and others are truly friends , I am still single and date a lot of diffent woman, is it swinging ? maybe, but I do agree with what hottie has stated Sex is sex and Love is Love there is a diffence between the two. Sex is good but I am still looking for Love

hottie2000444 56F

7/17/2006 5:14 pm

Thank you for clearing that up, that sounds like something my ex would do and by the way we were never married - Thank God!!!. I never cheated, didnt have any reason to, we were in the lifestyle, but when you play it is suppose to enhance your sexual realtionship with your partner, but when it becomes all about where he can stick his dick next it isn't fun anymore. There are always 2 sides to a story, but let me tell you I am not lying and I am so much better off without him. I just hope other women take a little friendly advice and watch out, thanks again for responding back.

rm_foruinjaxfl 47M/56F

7/17/2006 5:22 pm

Hottie it is a good thing you are a slut because we are going to be sluts together now that I am single...big Party for u I in Ft.Lauderdale this weekend..

rm_jaxsscouple 47M/46F

7/18/2006 7:10 am

No problem, Hottie. I almost freaked out when I saw what happened. We know all too well that there are always two sides to every story. Please email us as there is something we would like to talk to you about more. Take care and again...we are sorry about this crazy thing. C and N

NEsailor 69M

8/18/2006 1:59 pm

I think people who are strong enough in themselve's to be sluts, both male and female, are the best kind of people. If they're a couple, perhaps that's why they work as a couple, because they're secure in themselve's and their relationship.

hottie2000444 56F

8/21/2006 6:04 pm

Let me respond to Jasscouple here, my Ex forgot to let me in on the fact also, that he likes to be with men more then women either. Dont you think that is something that you should share with someone when you get into a reationship??? Also, I am sure that he did not let you know that he has lived off me for the last 2 years, and uses women for what he can get and then moves on. John if you want to play the game -- the game is on. Anyone wanting to know about John just asked anyone in the lifestyle here in Jax, they will fill you in. Oh that is right everyone else here doesnt know who we are talking about - go check him out he is PlayFriendJust4U. And cheating on him - when would I have had the time all I did was work 24/7 to try to pay the bills, tell John Fernandez to leave me alone!!! Move on and get the hell out of my life.

peacemaker499 59M

9/11/2006 6:14 am

Oh the drama of it all. double srandards and remarks like your ex has made are chidish and rude. Sweety, just consider the source. Most guys would give their right arm to have a woman like you. I know I would!!!

hottie2000444 56F

9/12/2006 2:11 pm

peacmaker499 - thank you so much for your comment. It is always nice to hear others comments, whether good or bad. I just hope that if anyone on this site reads my Blog then know what type of person he is and that he does not have a chance to ever do what he did to me to another woman. I am still in the lifestyle as a single female and I love it, I play with couples more so then singles and no Drama it is so nice. Thank you again, and always be yourself and have fun while playing safe. B

rm_wts55 68M

9/13/2006 2:35 pm

You are correct in your assessment, no doubt. Those who find it offensive have an opinion and those who it does not offend have their opinion. You know what they say about opinions? The make up and life experiences of each person affects each person daily. There are issues that 30 years ago I feel different about now. TIME< Things, I, Might, Earn. Time weighs heavily on some morethan others, yet through time we learn to accept things are the way they are and should be, we have no control over anything. So sit back and let the breeze blow in your hair, and donot worry someone is always there.
Take Care, Lovely Lady.

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