Sub,dom, little of both?  

hotnympho81 35F
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11/29/2005 7:05 pm

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Sub,dom, little of both?

For the last few nights I have been having a hard time sleeping. When I do fall asleep I have the most bizarre dreams with the only thing that they will have in common is that they are all about sex. Now that isn’t all that bad because there have been a few mornings when I wake up as my body trembles from the orgasm. Which to some may sound a bit strange but yes women have wet dreams too, just not so messy! Anyway, all of this brings me to my fantasy or shall I say fantasies cause I do have more than one. Along with the one that I have started in my profile I have a recurring theme and it’s along the lines of BDSM. I’ve dabbled in this before nothing major been tied up and spanked~which I LOOOOVE~ but the dreams go father much father. What I want to know is how many out there enjoy this kind of play as well and if you are more interested in being the sub or dom. I can go either way but if pressed to pick just one I would say sub. My desire to please and also to defy so I can enjoy the pleasure of the punishment run strong. I have yet to truly explore this fantasy to its fullest but I know there is someone out there waiting and I will find them.

This also brings me to another very taboo fantasy and I will say this right now I DO NOT WANT TO BE but it runs along those lines. I have had some very bad experiences when I was younger and know all to well that feeling of the ice ball in the pit of your stomach. Not being able to move because fear has you trapped your voice has suddenly become a whisper and you no longer have control. I was talking with a good girl friend of mine the other day and there is something strangely erotic about being “forced” to do things. I would only be able to do this under the right conditions and would have to be talked about way ahead of time. I may be ruffling some feathers with this one so I’ll stop there. I as always would love to hear what everyone has to say about this.

rm_Pike2489 46M

11/29/2005 10:18 pm

I did some things with a girl I knew and she said she wanted me to be rough with her. I wanted to explore a side of me that I always kept under close control because I never wanted to hurt anyone and I thought that having the thoughts of being forceful with a women ment I was bad. But I made sure we talked about what we both wanted and I made sure we had a safe word to make sure we didn't go too far than she wanted.
It was really excitting and I was thinking about it for days after.
But one day when I thought we were playing the game and I kept going she wasn't. But since she didn't say the safe word I didn't stop. It turned bad and I felt terrible after.
So I guess I want to say is that there are men out there to act these things out but the biggest thing is trust. Communication and trust are the keys.
Too bad we are too far apart, I would like to get to know more about you and see if we could hit it off.

hotnympho81 35F

11/30/2005 5:30 am

There are many reasons why I havent acted any of these fantasies out but it boils down to trust. I just need to find someone I can feel safe with no matter what we are doing. I'll know him when I do meet him that he's the one. I've had the vibe from a few guys before but we never actually had the chance to meet. If/when I do get the chance to act any of these things out I'll be sure to let everyone here know.

rm_Pike2489 46M

11/30/2005 9:00 am

Trust and communication.
That was a big reason why my last experience went so bad. I trusted her to use safe words and she didn't think that it was necessary and forgot them and it all went bad.

I like your pic by the way.

CurioBursaLarks 36M

11/30/2005 11:36 am

Great message. I can understand where you are coming from. I occasionally enjoy being a bit more dominant in the bedroom, but haven't taken it it to the next level. I think that trust, as you have said, needs to be a big part of the game. When you feel comfortable with someone, you can let go of your inhibitions and take full advantage of the new and exhilirating feelings that are released when you try something new and bold. One thing that you would need to agree on is a "safe word" or phrase. When that is spoken, it means that the game is off and to stop what is happening. If you are with someone that you can trust to stop when you say the "safe word", then you can open yourself up and experience your submissive side to the fullest.
I am in the Brunswick area, and would love to meet sometime and see what may happen. If you are interested, all you have to do is "yahoo" I will be there!

hotnympho81 35F

12/1/2005 9:49 am

Love ~ you couldnt be more right with your comment. I agree you do have to know his moods very well and know when and how to play the game. I would never out right defy him as I'm sure his punishment would not be to my likeing. As I said before I've only dabbled in this type of play never really been with a true dominant before. I do find the idea of exploring it a huge turn on.

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