I hurt so bad!!!  

hot2trot696969 51M/52F
602 posts
5/7/2006 3:51 pm

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I hurt so bad!!!

I got up from the computer this morning and tripped over the headset cord (I had been listening to music) and waltzed across the room nearly braining myself on the TV and got a huge muscle sprain, feels like the charley horse to end all charley horses so as a result I'm stuck in the house all day. I can hardly walk without severe pain. Called our new friend and he got me some muscle relaxers so its some better. Have been in the hot tub twice so far. I'm ready to pull my hair out. If I can't make the cruise I'll shoot myself!! (Sounds dramatic huh?)

On a different front I have been asked several times how we set up a group , what my favorite position is, how we handle the closeness of a group, do I like females better than males and finally how we meet and greet and how we have a ratio of about 60% success. So here goes. (Since I'm chair bound cant do anything else and TV is so boring.)

Bob and I joined our first group in K. Falls in Oregon a little over a year ago. He had met a guy that he worked with and we were invited out for dinner. We thought it was a normal dinner, had a couple glasses of wine and then they started feeling us out as to how we felt about sex and swapping! It came out of the blue for us but we recovered and told them that we had swapped a couple of times in the past, but nothing recently. We wound up in bed that evening, (Friday) and spent the week end with them. They asked us the following Wednesday if we would like to join a group. They explained that they had four couples at the moment, required that everyone have current blood tests and not play outside of the group. We thought about it for two weeks, met the others and decided to go for it! And we never regretted it. When we came back home we decided that we liked the idea and thought we'd start our own group if we could.

We grew up in the area and had some life long friends here. We approached one couple about it, did some swapping with them and they liked the idea. We wound up with a group of five couples. We did take the rules one step further. We thought that it would be a bad idea if we had any meet and greets with AdultFriendFinder members because it might be hard to resist temptation!! (Knowing that a couple normally swaps adds a little temptation to the brew and makes it hard ]?] to resist having sex with them.) We love the thought that we don't have to hunt, or go to clubs and look for sex. Its really nice knowing that if you get horny you can pick up the phone and find some one that will gladly drop what ever they are doing and come help you out!!!

I have several pet peeves concerning the AdultFriendFinder members. I hate it when someone drops you a email and the first thing they say is, "how about meeting for drinks tomorrow?" Not even hi, how are you? We are rather protective of ourselves and prefer to chat for a bit on IM before we even think about meeting. And I don't like pushy males that think they are God's gift to females. (They are most likely the ones that got their wife's involved anyway.) And forget the muscle builders. They are too busy looking into the mirror to see how they look! Or the camera if they cam. We have a pretty good idea if we will like the other couple before we ever meet them. But that is necessary to make the final decision. Neither of us will take "one for the gripper." We both have to like the other couple or no go. I'd hate to go along just so Bob would have a good time with the female if I couldn't stand the male. Never in this world will that happen.

This is turning into a longer post that I thought it would so I may finish or at least, write more tomorrow. Time for another session in the hot tub.

I'm listening to Marty Robbins singing "I'm so Lonesome I could cry." I'd better put something else on that will cheer me up.

rm_Leo_Aries 62M/60F
117 posts
5/7/2006 4:35 pm

Hi, we are Leo & Aries form Sydney Australia, we have been in the swin scene here for several years and have gone through different phases with the lifestyle. When we got together we decided that we wanted the involvement of another woman in our relationship, and on and off that has happened, unfortunately most have only stayed a little while before moving on
We had been into the couples scene, either by going to a private swing party and never to a swing club as here many of these make up any short fall in single women with working gurls that are brought in., not our idea of safety. We to have experianced the "preditator" male, and that has put us off the couples idea in the main. We have met some nice couples, but for one reason or another it has not worked for us at the end of the day, with the exception of one local couple that we have seen a few times and we have all agreed we will keep seeing eachother, as it works and everyone is happy and not threatened.
We also have a women friend again and this appreas to be working out fine. She is open and honest whilst dealing with past problems of a relationship, but our main focus is on friendship with benefits and again here this works.

So, at the end of the day many situation can work, respect and honsety for all is the key as we see it.

Thanks for sharing with us and we hope your recovery is swift.....

Bi for now.Leo & Aries xxxxxxxxxx

Choozmi 50M

5/7/2006 11:23 pm

I find it so difficult to find a single partner with whom I'm compatible. I would think it would be orders of magnitude more difficult to find a couple with whom both I and my partner are compatible.

Is finding other couples more difficult than it is for a single person to find a partner or less, in your opinion(s)?

seekingothers269 56M/48F
86 posts
5/8/2006 4:32 pm

Choozmi, you have your work cut out for you. Its tough being a man. So many couples have "No men" in their profile. A good place to find women is church believe it or not!

hot2trot696969 51M/52F
314 posts
5/8/2006 4:34 pm

In our opinion it would be harder for a single male to find a partner simply because there are so many men looking. Look at the number of men caming and the number of women and couples. You need to find a way to make your profile stand out. Perhaps find a female that would like to swap on a regular basis. We qualify by chat pretty much before we meet so we have a fair idea of how the two of them will match us. In most cases it has worked out very well. And we are not desperate by any means. We are very choosy in this respect. Good luck in finding someone that you can enjoy.

hot2trot696969 51M/52F
314 posts
5/8/2006 4:35 pm

Leo, I'm glad you mentioned who was who in your profile because I thought that Leo was the male. LOL. I'm pleased that the two of you have been able to work through your problems and have found someone that you both are comfortable with. We have never experienced a fmf except in the couple area. My husband approached me once about bringing a female into our home but that idea was short lived. (N I may share him on a short term basis but not in a lie in condition. He is mine and mine alone. And my house is our home, not for anyone else. Jealous? You bet.
Good luck in the future.

nudist4U2692 37M/35F
61 posts
5/11/2006 7:32 pm

Choosmi, I think the others have it nailed . Look at the chat rooms and see what a wide range we have with the ratio of males to females. Its sad, but true. You should find a nice female that will be willing to play around with you and others.

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