hi_stk_n 51F
15 posts
12/4/2005 4:13 pm

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3/5/2007 7:05 pm


Who needs them?

Is there such a thing as a great relationship?

I am sure there is, I just haven't found it yet. I thought I had, but things happen. Throw each of us having kids from a previous marriage and ex's (his not mine)and it is a whole new ballgame.

I was really, really naive when we married. I guies I watched way to much Brady Bunch growing up, because I thought we would get married, combine our families and everything would be great and everyone would love each other etc, etc.

Guess what?? That just doesn't happen.

I may sound bitter, but I'm really not. Just finially facing some facts.

I want to be happy, I desearve to be happy.

I have decided to concentrate on myself and make myself happy. I figure if I am happy those around me will be happy as well.

I promise my next post will be happier.

Anybody want to share their experience with second marriages? Give some advise?

If nothing else let me know that there are others in the same situation.

rm_iceman021423 32M
44 posts
12/7/2005 1:57 pm

i like the though of a relationship, its not for some, im sorry that you are unhappy when you are in one, i think you need a man that will be your toy and you his. i hope that you find that man and soon, i know how it feels to not have sex for a long time.

hi_stk_n 51F
1 post
12/8/2005 7:03 pm

Hey I never said that I don't have sex....LOL

My husband and I have a great sex life, its when we come out of the bedroom to reality that we have problems

Thanks for you comment

rm_OldOkie 69M

12/19/2005 9:03 am

Hey Hi Stk n, One of the things I have found is that you need to have a man with which you can be friends outside of the bedroom. Sex is very important, but you can only have sex for a small part of your time, then you better be friends and enjoy each others company or take the chance on becoming enemies. One of you has to try to get along.

theace_one 37M
4 posts
1/1/2006 6:59 pm

Marriage is like an open book and eveytime you pick it up to read it you learn something and that what keeps a marriage interesting! There's always different possibilities to explore but it all depends on if you can overcome the little things that upset you and look at the bigger picture and just feel that it will get greater later, but most people don't take the time to get to know their significant other before they commit so then they're finding out things that they thought they knew but really never did and it's seems as if you didn't marry the person that you thought you were marrying!

grinandbareit5 65M
50 posts
1/26/2006 6:21 pm

my second marriage lasted 13 yrs. I still have a great relationship with both ex's . My second divorce had nothing to do with my first marriage, or kids. Just one of those things. Both are great girls, maybe I am the turd !

easy_8 56M

2/15/2006 7:49 pm

You feel very positive to me....
Good luck

rm_ritesize1 55M
1 post
5/17/2006 10:34 am

my second marriage lasted 10 years campared to 4 years the first marriage.the thing is today is you both have to want to be together. you have to want to stay in love. you both have to want the same thing as soon as one of you stop wanting and stop trying and stop giving in and outside of the bedroom the marriage starts to die.sometimes it can be saved and sometimes it cant.

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