Here I am  

hgirl73112 45F
15 posts
7/28/2006 7:52 pm

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Here I am

Boring Friday night, watching the Crying Game, checking out AdultFriendFinder. I've been on this site, off and on, for several years. I've only met a couple of people, mostly because I'm not just here to get laid. But I'm not looking for a relationship either. I don't ever want a boyfriend again, nor do I want to be someone's girlfriend.

But a brief story about me. I'm 35, moved here from Woodward in November 2004. I've had herpes for 10 years now, since December 1996. Basically, the how's and why's I have it come right down to stupid girl, dishonest guy. I'd been divorced for about a year and a half, and had just started living again. My friend and I frequented this little club called the Diamond Dust. I was fortunate enough to meet this guy named Chris. We dated for about 3 months, I was on the pill, he looked "clean", and I hadn't been to sex ed in about 8 years. Forgot all about the fun little virus called HSV. I was only worried about getting knocked up and HIV. Either it just took 3 months to infect me, or he cheated on me along the way and contracted it, but 3 days after our last encounter, my gift presented itself. I never had the guts to confront him about it. He may have not known he had it, and I certainly didn't want him spreading around town that I had something and that I gave it to him. It was already a bad relationship, and it didn't last much longer after that.

So, here I am, ten years later, still single. I've met several guys with H through various dating sites, some H specific, others not. They ended for the usual assortment of reasons. And I've met a few guys here with HSV. One of whom, I found out, was sleeping with a bunch of women from this site, and was NOT telling them of his health status.

That being said, I will not tolerate a liar. If your ad says you are disease free, but you contact me and tell me you have herpes, you have earned nothing but disdain. It's one thing to omit it from your profile, as long as you are honest with your partners. But it's quite another to present yourself as something that you are not.


hgirl73112 45F

7/29/2006 8:34 am

Yes it is. I got a reply from someone tonight who told me he has herpes, but I went to look at his profile, and he claims to be disease free. I asked him about it, and he said that he didn't think he'd get any responses if he put it in there and he's extra careful. I answered him saying that an omission is more forgivable than an outright lie, and that I hope by him saying that he is "extra careful" doesn't mean he's having sex and not telling. And he's like the THIRD person to do this in a month!!! Extra careful doesn't always cut it. The new Valtrex commercial claims that 70% of people who are in a relationship with a partner with HSV get it while "being careful".

Condoms are not 100% effective in preventing the herpes virus, and you can be contagious and not show any symptoms. Valtrex only suppresses the virus, it does not stop it altogether.

angelofmercy5 58F
17881 posts
7/29/2006 7:37 pm

Welcome to the blogs! It is a scary thought to think that people are lying about this. I hope you'll stop by my blog sometime and say hello!

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