And what is the DEAL...  

hereforyou6217 43M
376 posts
3/23/2006 10:57 pm

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10/29/2006 5:07 pm

And what is the DEAL...


... with the other guys on this site?

OK, yeah. I've met women on this site. Women and couples. Not enough to qualify as "a lot", but enough for me to have had some fun times. But eventually, with every one of them, two questions usually come up:

"So, how long have you been on the site?"

and

"And how's your luck been?"

The answers vary, from the couple I met who had met on the site, fallen in love and gotten married, to my newest and bestest friend, who had so many truly horrible first A FF date stories that I have no idea how I was so ridiculously lucky to have actually met her. There was a time when I thought that "those guys", the guys who post only pictures of their genitalia and have barely readable profiles, were a small but extremely visible minority. Turns out I might actually be wrong on that.

And I used to wonder why it was that women (and couples!) never emailed me back. Why so many couple profiles say, "NO SINGLE MALES!". Why I got binned automatically by so many people, even though my pictures are discreet and my profile is honest, articulate, and descriptive. Then I heard the aforementioned first date stories. I heard stories of a couple who are friends of mine who had a guy try hard to break them up. I've heard so many idiot guy stories that I wonder how I ever got a date. So. From a guy who wants this community to be better, here's my advice to you (though I'm planning to expand on it later):

QUIT IT! You're ruining this for the rest of us.

SunneyOne 44F

3/24/2006 3:52 am

Yeah, that would be important for someone who is trying to meet people. Hm.


frogger1995 39F

3/26/2006 4:04 pm

Fortunately, most of my First dates went well. I guess it helps when all you have in mind is hopping in to bed with a person. That was then. Recently I have been trying to treat this as more of a regular dating site. Getting to know people, make friends, crossing my fingers in the OFF CHANCE, something might happen. STupid I know, but still.

I would have left immediately if my first date had gone bad. It was an experiment when I first joined, and opened me up to great things (literally ).

But I DO HATE the penis pics. How many times does a woman have to post a blog, profile, auto-response, stating that she doesn't want to get them before they listen?

But Hey...you HAVE to share teh story of how two people actually met and got married here...it gives the rest of us hope?


dirtydouble 50M/52F

5/2/2006 8:19 pm

All I can do is giggle..and you know why! It is quite amazing...but what blows my mind is how you guys outnumber all us girls...what's the deal with THAT?


amosnurse 47F

5/22/2006 2:32 pm

THANK YOU! I am so tired of receiving email where the heading reads, "wanna f%@* ?"!
Were are all the guys, like your friend, who are actually looking for a person to spend some time with? We may be over-whelmed by the number of guys on the site, but if you look at the quality, ladies, we out shine them.


hereforyou6217 replies on 5/22/2006 5:35 pm:
Amen to that!

That said, wanna f%@*?

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