The unwritten rules of dating...  

helllokittty 42F
6 posts
8/2/2005 7:29 am

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3/9/2006 1:43 am

The unwritten rules of dating...

I don't have that much experience with dating and all. I am usually a "meet a guy, sleep with him then go out for a year or 2" girl.
Is this a common thing?
And after watching Opera one time, and seeing the episode of 'girl he's just not that into you', I am basing my standards on that program.
I heard that if a guy likes you, he'll call the next day. But, if he's not that into you, he doesn't call or he may wait till 4 days later and that's if his schedule is empty. Is that true, or are guys abiding by the unwritten laws of playing hard to get, or not appearing desperate?
I think is disrespectful if the guy doesn't call when he says or he waits till 4+ days.
Is it acceptable for the woman to call?

eternal1969 47M
1634 posts
8/3/2005 4:56 am

Just a disclaimer, I may be an exception to other guys so my feelings may not be relective of most guys

BUT for me.. if I really really insanely like a girl, I will become extremely conservative and hesitate very much to call her back so soon (unless I promised I will) for fear that she finds me a nuisance.

And personally, girls who throw tradition in the wind and takes initiative to call the guy wins bonus nrownie points from me

rm_belsammael 38M
41 posts
8/4/2005 10:05 pm

I've been in a relation for years and we really didn't call every day, mostly because it was long distance. ;D - but it lasted long, it was good, and broke apart for different reason. Oprah certainly has valid points, but don't base everything on them.

windmill1965 51M
387 posts
8/17/2005 6:05 am

"Is it acceptable for the woman to call?" I think that you can not answer this question with yes or no. It depends. I think that if the man is Japanese, he might be more surprised when you call than if the man is American (or European). But, if he is what you want, then why should you wait?

rm_jankitten 39M
16 posts
9/19/2005 2:36 pm

I think it's up to their mind, If you think he's a right man then you should call... even it's 4 days passed...

rm_vaduvadi 43M
3 posts
11/17/2005 6:37 pm

Hello Kitty!
Yes, it's really rude if someone don't call You as often do You want it.
But it's up to You to turn the things. Men aren't switch on or off vibrators. (^_^)
(( Just to note: When a girl gives a fake mail-address, is quite the same rudeness, to omoimasu. And it happend as often as the 4-day-call. ))

jamos71 40M

3/3/2006 5:14 pm

i think if you really like a girl you really have to play smart. calling back the next day is an act of suicide unless ageed to it makes you seem desparate and a nuisuince. you want to simmer some sexual tension and maintain some control. on the third day is the best time to make contact again it gives both sides time to sort out there feelings and let there imagination work. 4 days or plus is lazy and disrespectfull.

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