You have gone, but I have not forgotten...  

helga_hansen 49F  
3122 posts
12/1/2005 11:59 pm

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You have gone, but I have not forgotten...

Just when I thought I had escaped my memories of how you had hurt me... because, dammit, you did! And in a childish, peevish way, I hope you hurt too...

Last night, I arrived in the chat room, greeted all those who had greeted me, and then suddenly I noticed his name. Would he say "hello" I wondered? Or would he just vanish, without saying a word, as he had done in the not-too-distant past?

Time passed, and still he remained silent. As each minute ticked by, I resolved that I would not be the one to say "hello" first. After all, I was allegedly the reason why we are no longer friends. According to him, it had been my actions/behaviour that had brought our relationship to an end. But he had never bothered to tell me this at the time... I had had to ask him what the hell was going on, and why was he avoiding me?

Once before, after a similar chatroom "run-in", after I had been told in no uncertain terms I was now "persona non-grata", I had emailed him to say that I wasn't sure how to behave around him, should we be in the same room. He replied saying that he would greet me, as he does have manners, or so he said.

Guess you forgot those words, because after half an hour of lurking, you vanished... and left me fighting a flood of tears, and my mind awash with memories...

Love, hugs and kisses from ♥♥HH♥♥

GB_Cple 66M/55F  
3045 posts
12/2/2005 12:33 am

Put his name on Iggi, then if he comes in again you won't notice him lurking, and if he does say hello, hard luck on him .

gnr8nrg 46M

12/2/2005 12:34 am

Wow, thank you for this post. I've never thought about that happening here. I'm new and just starting to get to know some people. I never thought about what might happen after relationships end and everybody is still on this site. Fighting a flood of tears? I'm wondering if I've had women feel this towards me. Thank you for sharing your life.

sportsfan362436 47F

12/2/2005 1:28 am

*sending warm hugz your way*..... unfortunately it seems the ones we love the most, hurt us the most as well. *wondering who this could be so I could give him a piece of my mind as well as a good ol' fashioned ass woopin*
There are still many of us who love and treasure your friendship, Miss Helga...

*smiles, kisses n hugz... always*

Efilnikufecin69 47M

12/2/2005 1:52 am

Helga: So sorry to hear that. I understand completely where you are coming from. That is why I was straight up with saintlianna. Our issues need to be taken care of first. He obviously promised you something that he can't keep, and isn't man enough to tell you his true feelings. Please do not shed tears for him, he isn't worth it.

starlight_runner 39F

12/2/2005 3:29 am

Please kiss n make up u 2.Thats my Christmas wish, I have decided now.

Closes eyes n wishes hard.

Hugz n kisses


UnpinAfireFaust 57M

12/2/2005 4:59 am

It's of course much easier to say than do Helga, but put him out of your mind. As Sports says, there are too many other people who treasure your friendship to worry about one person who can't seem to understand or appreciate what he's losing.

GoddessOfTheDawn 105F
11240 posts
12/2/2005 6:43 am

That's one of the downsides .... when things end it so often appears to be impossible for people to stay civil....

you have some sound advice here ~pointz up~

TheQuietGuy2005 54M
2386 posts
12/2/2005 10:18 am

Endings all too often hurt. I don't have any magic words to ease the pain.

The good news, perhaps, is that every ending is also a new beginning, potentially a new step towards an exciting future ... if only we can figure out what it is

warmandsexy52 64M
13164 posts
12/2/2005 1:32 pm

It's such a sad story and a poignant reminder of the inner realities of relationships. My only advice is to move on and leave it all behind you, but easy for me to say as a third party looking in from the outside.

May new horizons bring delight in discovering others who may move your soul and spirit so. warm xx

Wackytits 53F

12/3/2005 9:29 am

All your real friends are still here Helga. ((((HUGS)))) xx

brightblonde3 58F

12/3/2005 9:47 am

Helga, you care and it hurts..I'm sorry this happened to you...a sad way to be reminded that he was not worthy of a woman like you.

Be extra klnd to yourself today,


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