Oh.... why do I bother???  

helga_hansen 49F  
3122 posts
8/20/2005 6:05 am

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Oh.... why do I bother???

Helga has just opened her A F F email after a late start to the day, and now has the urge to throw something sharp at someone!!!

If you are a single girl and need the occasional going out to a night club for a dance and a drink, ending it on the high, I'm your man. I'm looking for a woman who want to combination her vacation with sex AND MAYBE MORE if you are ready to leave from your country for ever.

Okay... let me just state that I have nothing against people who don't speak perfect English. I'm foreign too, but have benefitted from a more than decent education in an English-speaking country (I grew up in South Africa). It wasn't the grammatical error that was getting my dander up.

If you are a single girl... this from a man who has GOLD membership!!! My profile clearly states I'm married and my husband knows that I play on A F F... and I put it there for all to see... because it did finish with no secrets in this house!

Other bloggers have raised the subject of profiles and how well do we expect to do from them. I took time and thought about what it was that I wanted to say. I went through all the questions, and answered the ones I felt were relevant.

I do realise that standard members can hardly see anything on a profile (that's if they can actually see any profiles without getting a little message telling them that if they wish to see more they'll need to cough up and pay), but it's lazy silver and gold members that really get me worked up! All that money and they don't bother to read the profile before sending their email!!!

I like to think that my photo/s are catching their eye first of all but I'd also like to think they take the time to read about me FIRST before penning their email telling me that "Wow, you're so sexy!! Do you wanna meet up with me sometime, because, babe, there are many different ways I'd love to fuck you". However, I know they're not reading my profile, because if they were, they'd see the bit that says Meeting up is not on my agenda, so if that's your main intention, I guess you better move on to the next profile! Doh!

Okay, I admit... I have met some people from A F F, but it was only after I had gotten to know them, and it was on my terms. I'd rather say "no meeting, sorry", and then have the pleasure of surprising them, than creating the expectation that I'll just leap into my car and zoom off to meet someone after one email!! Or, as Romeo in the email was expecting MAYBE MORE if you are ready to leave from your country for ever. No chance!!!

I know I can set up my account so that only people who fit my cupid settings can write to me, but even I like to think there are exceptions to my own little rules... hell, I'm not expecting you to be a Mensan to ring my bell, but PLEASE, PLEASE take the time to read about me first!!!

*Helga goes off to attack some poor unsuspecting vegetable while she prepares lunch*

Love, hugs and kisses from ♥♥HH♥♥

niceguy4fun1958 58M

8/20/2005 7:42 am

Helga, nicely articulated rant. Realistically though, we're on a soft porn website. What can you expect? Most of us aren't here looking for bridge partners. I'm a new standard member without the ability to see most of the info in people's profiles. Truthfully, I don't usually need to see more than I can for free, as the literacy rate looks to be pretty low. But hey, I'm not looking for someone who can really deliver a great powerpoint presentation either. I guess I'm just saying I feel for you, but I think it is the nature of the beast.

TheQuietGuy2005 54M
2386 posts
8/20/2005 11:07 am

Sorry, NiceGuy, but I have to disagree with you. I wouldn't have called it a "soft porn website" anyway but even if that were expected it shouldn't mean that people check their brains in at the door before logging on, should it?

Even if all you're looking for is no-strings sex (and we can debate whether that actually exists until the cows come home) surely it has to increase your success rate if you bother to read the profile of the people you want to contact so that you can personalise messages to suit? Maybe I'm just weird but I can't help feeling that someone will be more inclined to talk to me if it looks as if I've taken some trouble to think about them rather than just firing off a standard email.

If I'm wrong, maybe someone will let me know?

007sexy40plus 51F  
7603 posts
8/20/2005 3:15 pm

Helga, I feel your pain!!! So many men who payfor a membership dont have the decency to take 5 minutes to read the profile. That makes me sick as hell. There has been even some standard member that I have chatted with whom I have taken the time to copy and paste my profile for them to read, and they overlook it as if I just wrote a book about growing cabbage. They see what they want to see. I also want a man to know me and then move from there the profile is the best place to start. I had a guy the other night on and He was a silver member, he started asking me questions and I asked him why didnt he read the profile and he said I would rather hear it from you, Then it dawned on me that all he was thinking about was fucking and could care less about what my wants and desires were. and he didnt have a picture on profile and wanted mine. So many people here just dont seem to get it.

I am the real deal! "Come Get Me!!!"

helga_hansen 49F  
1987 posts
8/21/2005 2:14 am

Niceguy... "the literacy rate looks to be pretty low"??? What? So, you're saying that you'd rather fuck someone who's not intelligent, because that's what your free profile is getting you? Well, I guess you get what you pay for then, hhmm? I notice you missed the slant of the story anyway... my rant was aimed specifically at silver/gold members. Perhaps literacy in your book doesn't include comprehension either.

This may be a "soft porn website" for you, but for me it's a place to meet like-minded, and INTELLIGENT individuals. Just because I enjoy talking sex doesn't mean my IQ is in double digits only!!!

Q.. thank you! A man who understands what I was trying to say. Yes, I do want a man to read my profile and send me an email that is relevant to ME! I've got an inbox overflowing with emails from men who very obviously send the same email to ALL the women they mail... and they are the men who bristle when they get my "automatic reply"... because they weren't bothered to read my profile and they miss the very obviously stated "This is an automatic reply"!!!

Love, hugs and kisses from ♥♥HH♥♥

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