heavensent11236 52F
2577 posts
7/26/2006 5:52 pm

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4/25/2007 2:40 am


I give up, plain and simple. Nobody bothered asking that person how she felt, nobody cares. I've never met her in real life, we have exchanged a few hellos and brief chit-chats, so I had absolutely nothing to gain, I don't really care if you believe me or not.
I just couldn't in good conscience allow someone to talk like that to a complete stranger and let it go by. I'm sure she'll read this and maybe be upset that I'm saying, she wrote me an email and thanked me, because the context to which I took what was said to her is exactly the context to which she took it.
Other things I may have said, having nothing to do with this specific post or any of the two people involved at all, well, guess I should have kept my mouth shut. Forgot that 4th motto, live and learn.

rm_MisterFrumpy 46M
428 posts
7/26/2006 8:32 pm

sometimes it takes a bigger person to step up and say something is wrong than to mind your own business.

softnlush 53F

7/27/2006 5:42 am

Listen I have to agree with the Frump-man..and I too am guilty of just not telling the persons whom really irritates me the reason why..but the fact is,if I tell them outright..1)it won't change anything 2)I have hurt their feelings and 3)somehow I think I would totally shunned..well that part really is not too bad LOL..ok kidding..

I also read Cleavis' post,and I have to say about what he wrote,it was amazing,will it change anything?..I hope so..I really do. If things change and people just think before they spoke and acted (I know I know I know),perhaps I would not have left..perhaps I would open my heart to them again..perhaps I would even come back to TASA..thing is,as much as I miss most..and I do,truly..I really feel much calmer not being pulled into it..Although sometimes I am if a friend is hurting..that is just me.

Heaven it is OK that you felt the urge to speak up for a newbie,it is honorable..I have no issues with what you said..and I wish I would have done it..but to do that,I have to press the "join this group" button,again..not ready to do that just yet.


heavensent11236 52F

7/27/2006 5:10 pm

Thank you both Frumpy and Soft;

I really wasn't looking for someone to tell me it was better to say something than to keep my mouth shut, you guys know me well enough to know that if I see someone hurt someone else in public, the last thing I'm going to do is keep my mouth shut.
I think I was saying it's more of a, it's time to leave TASA, it is by no means even close to the way it use to be. When people can just get away with saying things like that to people and it's accepted, condoned and people make excuses for them, I never thought I was much of a moral person, I still don't, but I was raised to know to stop and think and think about what you say before you say it so you don't hurt others.
When somebody believes they are the only one that matters, and they can say whatever they want in a open forum and actually be congratulated for that, well sorry I don't agree with the masses so I think I'll be taking my lowly opinion of how to treat others somewhere else.

rm_MisterFrumpy 46M
428 posts
7/28/2006 9:00 am

to be honest i hadnt even read that thread until something blew up.
If people are rude and stupid, karma will get them.
If people are shallow and vacant, people will learn eventually and move away from them, no matter how special they think they might be.

The reason things dont seem like they used to is simple, they arent. People change, relationships change, we have a LOT more people involved now than we did then.

To be honest back in the old days there was maybe 1/3 of the group i had no interest in associating with. With the bigger group that number is way down because there are many more people i DO like than don't.

It's all how you look at it.

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