Motivation.. or in this case the lack of  

heavensent1123 52F
447 posts
3/28/2006 12:39 pm

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Motivation.. or in this case the lack of

What motivates you, what are those little secrets that make you stick with something when it's easier to just give up?
Whether it's exercise, stopping smoking, working on relationships, doing better at the job, what makes you see it through until it's completed?

nevertootall4u 53M

3/28/2006 2:25 pm

i think the satisfaction of accomplishment. like a busy day at work, but when its done, U feel accomplished. cooking aamzing dinner (doing dishes). taking long trip. but U finally get there. keep positive. good things happen to good people, but sometimes it takes time. (HINT HINT) if its worth it, thaa is motivation enough. can I motivate U? DEAN

mjtrcc 53M

3/28/2006 4:34 pm

What gets me past the procrastination is:

1)I always work out as soon as I get out of bed. The longer my brain stays unengaged, the longer and more intense my workout can be.

2) Swallow the frog first. That refers to the old adage that if you swallow a frog first thing in the morning, it's likely nothing worse will happen to you all day. Practically, it means that I do the things I like least first. That way you're motivated to finish it so you can move on to the more pleasant things that await you when you're done.

Free advice, probably worth every penny.

heavensent1123 52F

3/28/2006 4:54 pm

hey nevertoo;

so who told on me? About things taking time I mean, I'm the original immediate gratification type. One of my serious flaws.

AltumHunksUnite 53M

3/28/2006 5:12 pm

My current health kick was sparked by a friend of mine being diagnosed as a diabetic last December. At the time, we were similar height & build, same age, pretty much the same diet and sedentary lifestyle. I vowed it would never happen to me, and decided to do something before it was too late. Three months later, I haven't felt this good in years, and now that serves as my motivation.

Besides, there's a part of me that hates to fail.

Let me drive. I like the view

Rod8828 56M

3/29/2006 9:25 am

It's good to focus and be motivated. Just don't obsess. Maybe you've seen this before.

When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours
in a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar...and the beer.

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in
front of him.

When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very large and empty
mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked
the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

So the professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into
the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open
areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the
jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar.
Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the
jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous "yes."

The professor then produced two cans of beer from under the table and
poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty
space between the sand. The students laughed.

"Now," said the professor, as the laughter subsided, "I want you to
recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the
important things-your family, your children, your health, your faith,
your friends, your favorite passions-things that if everything else were
lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.

"The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house,
your car. The sand is everything else-the small stuff." If you put the
sand into the jar first," he continued, "there is no room for the
pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your
time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the
things that are important to you.

Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness.

Play with your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your
partner out to dinner. Play another 18 holes. There will always be time
to clean the house, and fix the disposal. "Take care of the golf balls
first, the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is
just sand."

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the beer
represented. The professor smiled. "I'm glad you asked. It just goes to
show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room
for a couple of beers."

grthnd59 57M
228 posts
3/29/2006 10:04 am

OK, I'll chime in on eating a frog first thing in the morning, the day does get better after that.
I too hate to fail. Something made sense about consistency and dedication. 'course I almost dedicated myself to death in a previous relationship, so it can be toxic.
The problem I run into is that too many things do fall into the modes of instant gratification or abandonment, so stringing together a sustained effort for the sake of the effort still eludes me, but I work at it.

heavensent1123 52F

3/29/2006 2:41 pm

Rod88 No, I haven't seen it before, I do like the moral of the story though. This is one of those that I will probably save.

MJT- I do love the frog story, why does it have me thinking about kissing the frog though? As for keeping my brain unengaged, sometimes that can go on for hours, just teasing.

piamatter 44F

3/30/2006 12:24 pm

Especially when its something thats been tried many times before, I say to myself, the other times were just practise, now I am ready to ________ .

Tone_33756 55M

4/1/2006 4:08 am

Desperation goes a loooooooooooooooooooooooong way!

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