heavenly_body39 60F
740 posts
10/18/2005 8:02 am

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I think a major difference that men and women have to contend with, particularly on this website is an imbalance of opportunity...

Women have multiple opportunities to create sexual trysts...they simply open their mailboxes and offers gush out. I think it is like being at an 'all you can eat buffet'. So women learn to turn down opportunities on a regular basis.

Men, however, get so few opportunities that they have not the skill (nor inclination, undoubtedly) to turn down an opportunity when it presents itself.

I am not 'male bashing' here, in any way, but I *AM* curious about how often men find themselves turning down an opportunity to have sex with an attractive woman? Especially if in a monogamous, or even pseudo-monogamous relationship?

rm_anacortes 74M
2850 posts
10/18/2005 10:14 am

Thanks Heavenly..

You make a very good observation here.

YIN here get lots of attention ... right?

What % of male members get a "cold" hit from a woman?

But, any exchange is a sharing of sorts.. so we all hang in being optimistic eh?


two41and14two 55M/49F

10/18/2005 2:53 pm

lol, i think could count on one hand the requests i've refused,
but perhaps that is a reason why i enjoy women more,

is it true that for a man ejactulation is akin to urination
i've heard lykis say a man will do it anywhere.. that a hot babe is nice, but nearly any female will do....when you gotta go, you gotta go... a nice comfortable restroom is preferred, but if the need is there a smelly old port-a-potty will do.

guys, is this true?

guess that goes back to the old adage that sex is like pizza and there's no such thing as bad pizza. (well i guess as long as i'm the pizza that's getting eaten it doesn't matter how old or cold i am if you are hungry?lol)

i guess it is nice to be outta the game a little. nothing like a gf

funny, even though this is a sex sight nearly everyone i've met is really looking for a long term relationship. it's not just about the sex, though it is easy to pretend that it is.

i don't envy the guys at all. yes, heavenly, it is nice being on this end isn't it?

tongueandhung4 58M  
17 posts
10/19/2005 12:19 am

I would be loathe to turn down an attractive woman, because to me attraction is a physical as well as an intellectual attraction, I'm sure you know what I mean, oui ou non? So attractive is perhaps the wrong word, attraction is what makes me call back the next day and go have some appetizers and Wine before going for round II of Erotica Super Bowl.

rm_4nik8_4u 61M
2501 posts
10/19/2005 7:09 am

How many have I turned down?
That is a question that has a no win answer. Too many and you sound vain, too few and you sound desparate. I will let you make an assumption.

I am a bit past the "fuck it if it moves" thing. I have learned that sex without any feelings is somewhat bland. It is the sex with someone you enjoy and want to please and they feel the same that has more passion and feeling to it.

heavenly_body39 60F
157 posts
10/19/2005 7:42 am

tongueandhung...even if you were committed elsewhere, you would meet her? I guess my question has to do with honesty too. If you and your partner had an agreement that you played only as a couple, would you take advantage of 'round 1 of erotica superbowl,' and tell your partner, or not?

two41and14two 55M/49F

10/19/2005 10:36 am

yes nik i like to be with someone i like and enjoy too. i like the anticipation, the fond memories after. it is the pillowtalk, not the sex that brings me back over and over again. unfortunately i find myself in physical relationships (w/ both sexes) where both the sex and the passion is bland. wish i could say i have a hot date planned for this weekend, alas, it is just a date; a little new blood. i guess i just don't say no. figure the evening will be better than going to bed early and watching tv. (kinda like my 20yr reunion i went to last month-- i didn't really care about going, so i figured i would, was fun, nothing special though, was pretty much what i expected.) if there was passion it would be so much nicer. i guess it is hard to find a gf that both my hubby and i are passionate about. i keep hoping it will happen though.

btw heavenly... i would dearly love a little pillow talk subsequent to sex in your celestial bed, your seraphic kisses christening my orbit throughout the hour... over you, under you , beside you, above you, beneath you, next to you, until i am ravaged and exhausted...i get dressed and leave... you still seaching for the passion in your bed; your desires unquenchable--- me, feeling the gavitational force of time pulling me back to my placid existance.

kokpelli_999 61M

10/19/2005 11:25 pm

Being committed to a monogamous relationship I would state so in my profile. I'll be here for a long time just for the blogging. I would consider any "hits" as being disrespectful of my choice.

Priapeo 46M

10/20/2005 3:18 am

Proposals from women? No, they have another kind of head. Yet, the fact that we receive so few proposals from them, and even fewer if none by attractive women conspires towards an alluring choice based on another "sin" possibly stronger than lust. Pride.

It is clear that any man, who is able to understand this cruel disparity between males and females, has no other reasonable option than tasting the subtle pleasure of turning down the attractive lady who dares.

Never argue with an idiot. He brings you down to his level then beats you with experience

thenonneocon 56M
5 posts
10/21/2005 7:21 am

I like real pizza but have turned it down when full, lol. But seriously folks, if a "hot woman" (such a subjective term) comes on to me when I am in a restrictive relationship, I would feel obligated to tell my “first mate” and ask her for her thoughts on the matter.

Call me old fashioned, but the partner you have professed a commitment to should have the right to advise and or not consent to a third party influx…

two41and14two 55M/49F

10/21/2005 3:38 pm

was better that my 20 yr reunion

heavenly_body39 60F
157 posts
10/21/2005 9:03 pm

i doubt that i will ever be in a 'traditional' relationship...it just does not 'feed my soul'...but i agree...honesty is ESSENTIAL...

rm_Sojirboy676 40M
3 posts
10/25/2005 12:19 am

Being married, I have no further need for the...deeper sense of things. My wife gives that. But..being she is very conservative, I find myself looking for more physically attractive qualities, or at the three way ads. It's fantasy, but would I turn it down should the opportunity arise? Ask me when it does. Then I can answer that honestly. As for the average woman, I won't even concider it. As for my BETTER half? She suspects, I think, that I look. Why try to bring up a fantasy, or try to get her to understand? She's the shy meek one. And I don't think she could understand.

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