I Choose You  

heavenly_body39 60F
740 posts
10/8/2005 11:07 am

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I Choose You

Out of so many options available for us women on here, what a lesson in chance for those men who become our partners! The odds are tremendously against any one male here...

So how is it you become 'chosen;' akin in some instances to winning at craps or roulette?

What can a man do to increase his chances at meeting, connecting and becoming a lover? How much luck, really is involved?

I am curious about what you think, this morning, dear Reader...

ahughjardon 61
56 posts
10/8/2005 12:18 pm

Dear Heavenly, I don't know either, let me know once you've deteremined it! Ahugh

eightlongandthik 53M

10/8/2005 1:31 pm

Timing, patience, luck, they all play a role in that initial connection, but persistence, communication, willingness to work together and a common vision for what keeps it fun, enables it work long term.

I choose you.

grino3 42M
17 posts
10/9/2005 12:08 am

For a man who knows how to move in his life,,,,,its the woman that need to ask that question,, How strong is the flame he creates to attack his woman, And then there's Madame Fate who plays her part in every connection. ON the best greens in the world,,,a well putted ball dosn't always find the hole,,,,,,,,,,,,

heyokamystic 61M
7 posts
10/9/2005 2:33 am


barn's burnt down
now i can see the moon
~ masahide

you choose well.
can you see the moon?
so beautiful, so sublime

heavenly_body39 60F
157 posts
10/9/2005 8:38 am

i am moved beyond easily-found words by the passion in this thread.

there is one other word to add to your list, though, eight: love...

on either or both sides, there needs to be love somewhere to shore up the rest.

i choose you

rm_Dance4Love 41M

10/9/2005 7:00 pm

ah now, what is the right question here? Do you believe in luck or fate? or rather do believe that you create your own fate? and then if its all not luck then how do you increase your chances. I think the key is finding the right person for you. Be picky don't go for the numbers game. Choose those ladies you really have an interest in and give it all you can. don't just go for the easy click and paste but research at bit, find some way to tug at the womans heart and head. I find that this way works best for me but I can't say that I know beter than anyone else.

kokpelli_999 61M

10/9/2005 7:16 pm

Your inference in your first sentence is the options you’ve chose to be your lovers are lucky. What of the options you’re unaware of that have chose not to take you as a lover? Does that make them unlucky? I don’t believe in luck anymore than Santa Clause, I’ve outgrown it.
As for a man meeting a lover. Communicate. Give the woman you’re attention. You don’t even have to be sincere just find out what she likes to hear and say it to her. Inquire about what she wants and give it to her. Ta dah! That’s called game. I don’t enjoy playing it. I enjoy growing relationships that bare fruit. The kind of ripe fruit that runs from the corners of my mouth, down my chin and up into my nose. Hmmmm finger licking good! Love is what brings about the blossom. I know where the presents under the tree come from. They come from people that like me for who I am.

XO Kok

heavenly_body39 60F
157 posts
10/9/2005 8:40 pm

heyoka, my wise friend...how many times i replay those words in my head!! and others of yours in my heart...

and, lol...the 'moon' double-entendre is not lost on me...

heavenly_body39 60F
157 posts
10/9/2005 8:49 pm

kokpelli...the question remains...how does one man garner a woman's attention on this site when, for her, it is like picking apples from a tree...?

i understand she may prefer a certain variety, or degree of ripeness...but how does one apple stand out over another one next to it?

she reaches up to pluck a bright red one...

is there such a thing as 'fate' or 'destiny'? dance4, i believe we agree...

rm_anacortes 74M
2850 posts
10/9/2005 10:43 pm

Very simple... an AdultFriendFinder'er need only be authentic..

We seek what we want.. if we find what we want, hope we are not disappointed.


heavenly_body39 60F
157 posts
10/10/2005 6:58 am

Anacortes, sometimes we don't consciously know what we want, or know how to seek it. Especially in the transient nature of people on this site and the ensuing loosely-bound relationships that form...

And disappointment? So easy to be that way when expectations are too high. However, when one lives in the moment, taking each encounter, eash tryst, each day as a gift, *Delight* is the result.

Namaste back.

rm_4nik8_4u 61M
2501 posts
10/10/2005 10:11 am

I can't really say on here, but in my personal life I have had NUMEROUS offers for things ranging from coffee to sex from women that have known me either professionally or personally. I'm not very different than others. I have a natural personality, warm and friendly, and never try to impress or make myself seem special or better than anyone else. I have an honest and easy way with women that makes them comfortable talking to me and allows them to be very honest as well. For most they enjoyed being near me and wanted to extend that.

heavenly_body39 60F
157 posts
10/10/2005 9:40 pm

nik...lol...not to mention a really amazing ass...

on my knees, nik...

two41and14two 55M/49F

10/14/2005 10:25 am

how much luck is involved?
how many chances are we given to love?

i don't always trust that there will be more food to eat, more money to spend, children to raise, roads to walk, good health to appreciate, and men to love

enjoy it while you can sweet girl.

oh, to be a lily in the field

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