When Blogging Conflicts  

rm_harshawj 51M
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6/12/2005 4:08 pm

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When Blogging Conflicts

When I go out with someone, I try to keep to a policy of open and honest exchanges. So when my latest lover was asking me what I was spending my time on I told. "I was blogging."

"What's a blog?" she asked having never heard of such a thing.

"Well, it's like an online diary. It's a place I write my thoughts and how I feel about things" was my response.

"Can I read it" she asks?

"OK, but you may be shocked by what is in there," I warn.

Now I must admit, we had not gotten around to talking about all the topics that are in my blog. There were things she may not have approved of, but to be honest I had to let her see it. I did not want to seem I was hiding something, after all, these blog entries are in plain sight for anyone to look at. So I gave her the URL.

Interestingly enough, the thing that bothered her was not what I expected to bother her. What did bother her was the fact that she was mentioned in the blog, not by name of course, but by deed, and also that I had blogged it soon after we first met online and talked on the phone. The fact that I did not name her was a relief and eventually she dropped the subject.

Now, I am thankful that she was cool with the blog, because I will admit I enjoy doing it. I am not sure how I would handle it if a lover came back to me and said to stop. I mean, I guess I would stop blogging about that person, even anonymously, but it would cramp my style. I like getting my thought down. I like the expressiveness that this medium is affording me. I am doing this for my own mental health more than anything and it would be a shame to limit this newfound avenue of release.

Eventually it came to a question like this, "Don't you enjoy the mild exhibitionism that is afforded here, even with it being anonymous?" She agreed, she did like it, sort of like Beauty being paraded to the villagers. Therefore, everything has worked out.

I really do not know what I would do if I were asked to give this up, like I said, I enjoy it immensely. I am only glad I do not have to make that decision right now, and hopefully never.

So, has this ever been an issue for any other bloggers who write as personally as I do? Have you faced the "Blog or Me" scenario? Let me know.

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