Turn About Is Fair Play  

rm_harshawj 51M
761 posts
7/15/2005 7:16 pm

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Turn About Is Fair Play

There are time I seem to get caught in my own good intentions and platitudes. I have a set of rules that I live by and those around me either acknowledge them or at the very least tolerate them. One of them is if one of us (me and a current girlfriend) would like to see someone else, then that is ok.

Well, as it so happens, it has always been me who is seeing someone, even if just for a drink or meal (usual case) and rarely the other way around. But now I have an interesting situation…

The current woman I am seriously seeing is going to meet an ex boyfriend. One she has been intimate with, one who she has very fond past memories with, one that she has traveled to see in the past and now he is coming here. So what am I to do?

“Go ahead babe, have a great time…” is all I can really say. After all she was actually here when I when to explore someone else as a coupling possibility and all that implies. She trusted me to be who I was and for that I respect her deeply.

So there we have it, I am left to be as understanding and accepting as she was because she was so understanding for me.

Do I like the fact that she is off to see and ex lover, one that in the past has shown her such a good time? Not really. Am I concerned? Not really. Why, because she trusted me and I know that I can trust her too in the same manner. I honestly do not think that anything will happen with their little get together, but you know how it is, there is always that little niggle at the back of your mind.

No doubt this was exactly what she was going through, and I guess I deserve a taste of what it was like on her part, so I really cannot complain, and I will not. I will not do anything to influence her meeting with him and the pleasure she will have, even if the pleasure of his company is just a good dinner and fine conversation and reminiscing on old times. She deserves to feel as good about this date as I did when I explored on my part.

Turn about is a bitch, but one I can handle. I must or be labeled a hypocrite.

(For those interested, the icon is a composite, part Rembrant and unknown artist)

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
7/15/2005 10:52 pm

I am sorry to hear about your difficult time. Relationships can suck at times. What we want isn't always what we get....unfortunately. I have to remind myself that, in the end, though, good things do happen to those who are patient. Whether that patience will lead that path or another, time will only tell.

Huggggggsss to you....


sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
7/16/2005 12:01 am

harshaw: to know that you truly understand what I was feeling last weekend makes it all that much more special to me. I knew that you needed to travel that path and see what waited at the end. I understood that for you to honestly be able to give this relationship 100% you needed to know that the path you so desired was one that was right in front of you all along. A path that we now travel together.

To know that you trust us enough to let me have my night out says more to me then you could even imagine. That trust will never be tested... You do not need to label yourself a hypocrit just know that there is no reason for you to be concerned with where my emotions stay....

sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
7/16/2005 12:26 am

just an afterthought - The time we have spent together the last week has made me realize that somehow I knew that the path you would choose would be the right one for you, and that path would lead you back to me. We have a special connection not only physically but emotionally and that in itself spoke volumes.

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